If we’re having ongoing difficulties with our child, the relationship is where we need to focus first. Children don’t enjoy being “difficult”. Their first choice is always to act in a way that connects to us. But Children misbehave when their other behavior isn’t getting the message through to us. Those behaviors can be considered “miscues”.
The task for us, as parents, is to learn how to recognize and respond to the messages our children are sending (their cues and miscues). When we learn this skill well, our children (and our relationship with them) will thrive.
*Content influenced by Positive Discipline and Circle of Security.
Flora McCormick, LCPC
Victoria Brailsford, M.Ed.