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A high level concept or word without getting into the weeds
key theme - thread that brings it all together
Essence - I think of what is at the core (conscious or unconscious) of the individual that informs the whole…
what is underestimations?
I LOVE the confirmation that if we’re wrong it doesn’t matter because what comes after is the ability for the client to clarify their OWN meaning! Beautiful!
Thank you for clarifying underestimation.
My mantra is short. Lord let me give _____ the best coaching he/she can use.
Ego, hurt, anger
Wow! Frustration may be an understatement!
Anger and frustration.
I hear frustration
Erica is feeling slighted, frustrated, and maybe under-valued
She seems frustrated and antsy
Hard work that has been wasted.
Some sense of I’m not enough
not heard and looking to be heard for validation
Doesn't know how to assert herself in a way that doesn't threaten the other person
Erica comes to meetings prepared, resentful
Feels like a victim
anger, not happy with her superior
Deserve, taking my ideas
He interrupts everything I say!
They are her ideas.
is there a question you use to ensure that she has been heard?
I heard some "absolutes" - always, every time, etc.
She said that she should be leading the team
b/c I think it's your story
Absolutes are often emotional words
Those are "stuck" words. She is not going forward.
absolute and never true.
It’s an alll or nothing perspective
At times an irrational belief
Does that get at a limiting belief?
"love to be wrong" so that the client can discover what their truth is. Love that Amy!
She seems defensive
Insecure, worried, scared.
from a place of fear
She needs to take responsibility for her own behavior and interpretations of events.
hunch: not open to others' feedback
Feeling victimized, maybe paranoid?
Poor job fit?
Likes to work inde
What do you like about your job?
Maybe a poor fit for the organizational culture?
questioning knowledge of her expertise - micromanaging may lead to someone feeling unsafe
feels attacked by being micromanaged.
She's been highly criticized in the past?
I want to know what type of feedback she is looking for.
her relationship to feedback may be as an attack
she has to be ready to receive the feedback and open to build trust
It seems to be an opportunity for self-awareness; and what if any of what she’s experiencing and/or feedback may be 1-2% accurate
Thank you so very much! This was such a GREAT conversation!
Really great session - thank you!
Thank you, very helpful!
Thank you! Helpful. I appreciate the insight on not needing to be right.
Thank you very much!
Thanks so very much!
think I’ll be sending some clients to therapy :)
Thanks very much. Great perspectives shared.
Unique way to look at listening. thanks!
What's the email address for getting CEU?
Thanks much, Amy!!