As a white mama to adopted two brown boys, my new level of awareness to racial injustice is really hot and I am quick tempered and quick to react when I see social injustice, therefore my resiliency is not great, I am quickly burned out from conversations and relationships that are not willing to get to where I am. I see the beautiful resilience in my friends of color, recognizing that they have dealt with living in a social unjust world their whole lives. I want to be sure my black sons are learning to be resilient, when I am not a great example right now, yet, if ever. Is the balance of using my white privilege to change spaces fair when my boys may not have the same opportunities? Knowing that them using their voice in unsafe spaces will effect their resiliency.