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alfredogodinez
02:54
Melissa why are you on 2 screens?
Gabrielle Grode
08:53
YES! They say that a part of radical acceptance is accepting that there are reasons that lead to your current circumstances.
Christopher Dancy
09:25
Hello! Sorry I was late! Exercising with the dogs!
Christopher Dancy
11:07
I built a “DareTable” to track my values, and my feelings! https://www.dropbox.com/s/hfxphj5jmlwlyaj/DareTable.png?dl=0
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17:21
I just joined can someone please send me the 10 tips? or will it be posted after?
Gabrielle Grode
21:09
Aida could you post these in the group please?
Gabrielle Grode
21:13
They’re great
alfredogodinez
23:42
The calls are recorded and you can watch them on Dare Advanced
Lisa Frattini
24:13
+1 to that
Lisa Frattini
29:54
Emma, the look on your face when Aida called on you lol
Araceli's iPhone
36:22
I feel better outside that at home. At home I notice more my symptoms.
alfredogodinez
38:26
Maybe you are more engaged and distracted outside. At home you are more in your thoughts?
Christopher Dancy
38:47
Panic Play List (people having panic attacks) https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLX0Fkqhhg5m6UMa1Gx9sc5gWCbhszUwfx
Christopher Dancy
39:12
Panic Support List (People walking you through feeling bad) https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLX0Fkqhhg5m6-z3hDMj-9BooD9rRBxFmY
Brenda Rueda
42:39
headed to my daughter's award assembly. Great call!❤
Tina C
44:55
Thanks Jackie! That does sound like relief.
Isabel van der Vlugt
46:27
Confidence needs practice! Without practice you cannot expect to get confident :) Totally agree Jackie!
Tina C
46:35
Action then confidence / motivation !!
alfredogodinez
46:47
Yes it is true. I agree
alfredogodinez
46:55
It is always scary at first
Lisa Frattini
48:41
NO GOOGLING!!
Lisa Frattini
48:44
Alfredo, back me up
alfredogodinez
49:19
OMG Google is the worst
alfredogodinez
49:36
Google took me to the ER
Malin Håkansson
49:36
Google is the devil
Malin Håkansson
49:48
Me too Alfredo! Several times
alfredogodinez
49:49
Google leads to the ER for me
alfredogodinez
49:51
lol
Cara's iPhone
51:11
I’m like the little duckling in the story who thinks the sky is falling in once I have googled. It’s all about to be over 😳
Jordan Stutz
51:13
crutches+google+my "safe zone"+reddit forums does not equal growth for me
Abbie Herring
51:19
I have to run.. wonderful call. Thank you Aida. Hope you all have a great day
alfredogodinez
51:20
Totally Cara
alfredogodinez
51:44
I Google and suddenly “I’m dying
Cara's iPhone
51:57
That’s me Alfredo
alfredogodinez
51:58
I knew it. I’m dying. Let me go to the hospital
Cara's iPhone
52:16
Then I panic more and call for back up and an ambulance
Araceli's iPhone
52:27
Google ... I was so happy when I read my tinnitus would go away in a few days ... but I did’t it got much worse ... I don’t google anymore ...
Emma Taylor
53:04
I was adamant I was dying last week I was send emails to my kids so they wouldn’t forget me
alfredogodinez
53:04
Good. Don’t google. Rookie mistake lol
Jackie Putnam
53:07
I can remember saying to my therapist, “But no matter what, I won’t give up!” And she said, “In your case, I think giving up is precisely what will free you. Just give up. Whatever your worst fear is, allow it. Ask for it. Give up the fight, the trying to figure it all out/diagnose/understand.” Giving up was the turning point.
Jordan Stutz
53:10
I'm still stuck on how to DARE through an attack while in public (restaurant)
alfredogodinez
53:52
Just let it go Jordan. You need to let it rip. Let the attack rip. Don’t fight it.
Isabel van der Vlugt
54:37
And be willing to feel everything Jordan. If you ask more from anxiety you will win back your power
alfredogodinez
54:41
See the sensations happen and we want to bite down and grip tight and fight it. OH NO IM HAVING AN ATTACK! You have to let it rip and learn to relax.
Jordan Stutz
54:47
Alfredo - totally get that...then I feel "oh gosh, i'm sweating bullets, i'm not eating, everyone is wondering what's going on with me"
Malin Håkansson
54:50
I love that Jackie, I think I need to give up too. Just scared that depression will hunt me down and kill me if I stop fighting it and I’ll never be okay again.
Jackie Putnam
55:23
Jordan- demand your “worst case scenario” to happen. Afraid of passing out? Afraid of causing a scene? Afraid of losing control? Demand it. Run toward it. Ask for it.
alfredogodinez
55:59
Stand up in the restaurant and Announce to the entire place “EVERYONE BE CALM! IM HAVING A PANIC ATTACK! I WILL BE FINE!”
alfredogodinez
56:28
The absolute scene will break it or make it 10x worse I don’t know lmao
Jackie Putnam
56:40
Malin- emotions have a life cycle, a pretty short one. I was terrified of depression overwhelming me. I was afraid of opening the flood gates and then not being able to close them again. But once I “gave up,” I cried for 30 minutes and then felt a lift in the darkness. Emotions live and die.
Alexander
56:43
Lisa - love afgo, I’m stealing that
Lisa Frattini
56:52
:)
Jordan Stutz
58:30
Alfredo I love that.After a year+of not going to any restaurants it all just opened up! Three weeks ago was my first time and it led to a panic attack...so now the fear is that it will happen again. I have saved the chat and will use these tools. Y'all rule!
Malin Håkansson
58:39
Jackie - <3 thank you! So - one week without obsessing about depression and anxiety. I will start tonight after this call. Thanks!
alfredogodinez
59:02
Good for you Malin.
Jackie Putnam
59:06
Malin- remember that you can’t control your thoughts, but you can control your reaction to them.
alfredogodinez
59:08
You’re Welcome Jordan.
Jordan Stutz
59:27
"So what? Whatever?" my favorite Barry saying
Jordan Stutz
59:47
I need to run y'all, thanks! see you soon
Jordan Stutz
59:56
i'll be sure to update on how my restaurant goes tomorrow :D
alfredogodinez
01:00:11
One thing you said Jordan was that you had social anxiety about having a panic attack. Why? What would happen if you told your friends you are having anxiety? Nothing really. They would likely be compassionate.
Jordan Stutz
01:00:43
^^^ this
Malin Håkansson
01:00:52
Jacke - well, the reaction to the thoughts are fear but I really don’t think I can control my feelings. You mean response right? Like what I do?
Jackie Putnam
01:01:48
Right. You can’t control whether or not fear arises. But once it’s there, you can decide to not act on it with avoidance or safety behaviors.
Alexander
01:01:51
Anyone have an addiction to Barry’s voice, lol?
Araceli's iPhone
01:02:29
I did that once that my sister called the ambulance ... I told them I was just a panic attack but my body was bending ... and my legs were shaking so hard that they did’t trust me... because my blood pressure was so high ... and they put me on the mental health unit for 4 days
Malin Håkansson
01:02:35
Ill certainly try. THANKS!!!
Araceli's iPhone
01:02:44
Alexander—I do
alfredogodinez
01:02:48
Oh yeah we all are addicted to Barry’s voice. That’s why we are all here. His voice was a selling point LOL. He knows it. He’s heard it a million times.
Alexander
01:03:10
🤣😂
alfredogodinez
01:03:13
I listen to his Evening Wind Downs every night
Araceli's iPhone
01:03:50
I marry my husband because his voice used to calm me down ...
Christopher Dancy
01:06:44
I’ve taken the attitude with my sleep that I have dare
Lisa Frattini
01:07:13
anxiety whack-a-mole
Cara's iPhone
01:07:39
Anxiety whack-a-mole sucks
Malin Håkansson
01:08:07
Lol its the worst game ever.
Cara's iPhone
01:08:25
Juts can’t wait for the huge prize at the end
Lisa Frattini
01:09:24
lol big pink teddy bear
Malin Håkansson
01:09:28
Oh its mine!
Cara's iPhone
01:09:41
😂
Cara's iPhone
01:10:03
I want the goldfish 😊
Lisa Frattini
01:10:05
get rid of it!!
Cara's iPhone
01:10:15
It’s feeding your anxiety Tim
Araceli's iPhone
01:10:24
I did’t sleep well for about at least 6 months ... I tried melatonin, exercise, Lunesta and Doxepin ... but as soon as I realized I was not going crazy ... Barry’s voice help me sleep again .... no I sleep 10 hours a day 🤣
Sue’s iPhone
01:10:35
That definitely needs to go
Tina C
01:11:14
I use to with my fitbit! Lol and it did affect my anxiety on sleep!
Cara's iPhone
01:13:45
When you go to bed try and see how long you can stay awake. Flip it around. That’s worked for some.
Araceli's iPhone
01:14:09
My fitbit is on my drawer .... it was making my anxiety worse .... 135 beats when I was trying to sleep, reminding me I just slept 3 hours, 175 beats per minute when walking, my mom told me “this is making your anxiety worst”
alfredogodinez
01:15:00
Yes Cara. Paradoxical thinking works for insomnia.
Cara's iPhone
01:15:30
Save up your best films or box sets and only watch them at night
Emma Taylor
01:15:34
The evening wind down really helps me
Araceli's iPhone
01:18:50
“Measuring performance ruins everything” thanks Alexander
alfredogodinez
01:18:53
Love the evening wind down