
01:09:32
I apologize for wearing a mask. I have workers in my home right now.

01:09:50
never apologize for wearing a mask!

01:10:34
welcome everyone! we'll wait one more minute and then get started. so glad you're here!

01:11:11
Good morning, good afternoon, good evening and welcome! Very excited to 'see' all of you here, and thank you for joining us today!

01:11:16
starting the day with Children’s voices….sets such a beautiful tone!

01:11:26
PJ Library radio!

01:12:34
We are Stronger than Hate!

01:23:06
Beth: 617 285 6641

01:23:11
Happy to help you find your way!

01:24:58
Great to see you all today. thanks so much participating in FedLab2020! We're so looking forward to what we can learn today and use across our Federation system. Eric

01:25:38
Great opening Julie. Thanks for leading us in this important conversation.

01:37:06
We will absolutely make slides and all materials available (including this recording and the vignettes) after today.

01:39:03
What defines "raising a child Jewishly?'

01:40:56
did she say how many were In single adult households?

01:41:01
Linda, great question. Let's ask Arielle what she thinks - and, it's a question to ask everyone today.

01:42:04
Will this data be available to us?

01:42:25
Peretz, the recording will be available. We can see what Arielle can put into writing.

01:42:34
Thanks!

01:43:28
Is this data also broken down by region/size of communities?

01:43:41
Arielle - is there info on how the synagogue membership percentages have changed over time?

01:43:44
in the "orthodox" definition, does that include modern orthodox?

01:43:48
Are there differences in the northeast vs other areas over the country?

01:44:00
Rebecca, we can try to break down the data post-FedLab and send it out.

01:44:22
Saskia - yes. It would include anyone who identified "orthodox" on Pew.

01:45:59
I sense a hunger for more data! The good news is that a new Pew study is coming out soon... that may be a good reason (and source of data) to launch a series unpacking the data. Stay tuned!

01:46:23
^That would be great!

01:47:06
I think we all know our own narrow view of our own communities but are even more aware that we can't generalize from our own experiences.

01:47:16
If 42%of interfaith families are raising a child Jewishly, does this mean from the results of the Pew study, that over 30% of non orthodox families are not raising their children at all Jewishly?

01:49:35
pew isn't totally accurate

01:50:00
we will be able to receive the information that Arielle is saying along with the powerpoint?

01:50:18
Alan, we will work on it!

01:50:43
What ages are considered "young children"?

01:51:47
What is the difference between behavior and home practice?

01:51:53
In this slide?

01:58:00
Love this point, and your story

01:59:08
Can we make looking for the car keys Jewish in some way?

01:59:53
Yes, Yes! Whenever we lose something in the house we say the blessing: https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/541921/jewish/Is-there-a-prayer-for-lost-objects.htm

02:00:30
Peninah, there is a prayer that you can say when you are looking for something lost, and when it is found! I am sure there is a way to make that less religious, and more attainable for everyone.

02:00:49
Arielle, thank you! This has been an incredible dive into the family.It is also a good illustration that today is going to move very quickly. There will be time for conversation and digestion and also more that we want to say!

02:01:14
Thank you!

02:01:21
For more you can visit www.casje.org

02:01:43
Great presentation. Thank you!

02:01:53
Gabrielle, the first part of that is "St. Anthony, St. Anthony come around...." I love replacing that with God of Ma'eer..

02:16:40
joy

02:16:44
a sense of being connected to something bigger than themselves

02:16:44
Meaning and fulfillment

02:16:45
sense of community

02:16:45
makes their own journey not just going through the motion

02:16:46
joy

02:16:47
Friends and joy

02:16:47
have a strong Jewish identity

02:16:47
Ways to transmit values to their children in a durable way

02:16:47
a sense of belonging to something larger than themselves

02:16:47
confidence in their life choices and values

02:16:48
inspire them to take initiatives

02:16:48
Relevanc to their lives

02:16:48
Deeper connection to each other and to their Jewish community

02:16:49
being connected to Israel and feeling responsible for other jews everywhere

02:16:49
Enrichment - fuller lives of meaning

02:16:51
Meaning in "doing" Jewish

02:16:52
Find meaning in Judaism

02:16:53
happy memories

02:16:53
meaning & support

02:16:54
Love of being Jewish

02:16:56
A sense of connection to others in the community, especially in their struggles

02:16:56
affirmation

02:16:57
connected to a vibrant community and culture

02:16:58
Love of the Jewish people, and being proud of being part of that community

02:16:59
Connecting to other like minded families

02:17:00
Connection

02:17:00
connection to other Jewish families

02:17:00
joyful judaism

02:17:00
a village of people, values, and resources

02:17:03
meaning and connection

02:17:03
joy, meaning, connection/community

02:17:05
values of kindness and justice

02:17:07
Helping families on their Jewish journey

02:17:08
an open Jewish community - accepting, caring, nonjudgmental

02:17:08
Ownership and next Jewish steps

02:17:08
a deep connection to rich history

02:17:09
Fun in being with one another and being Jewish

02:17:09
Belonging

02:17:10
They seem themselves as part of the Jewish story

02:17:11
Connection to their past, to their family and to others

02:17:12
Belonging and connection

02:17:14
inspire conversations within the family

02:17:16
connection with others and share in joys and challenges together

02:17:16
Grounding values

02:17:17
Acceptance and belonging no matter what. The Jewish community is their "village"

02:17:17
The love of passing on their Jewish connection to the next generation

02:17:18
Continuity

02:17:19
friends with like interests

02:17:20
to find love, belonging, and joy in Judaism

02:17:21
Find meaningful and relevant ways to practice Judaism and joy of living Jewishly.

02:17:21
Lighting candles on Friday night, creating a feeling of togetherness as a family and connection to the Jewish community

02:17:22
experiential and joyful

02:17:25
Sense that community is about not just being part of something bigger, but also an obligation to one another

02:17:26
Joy, meaning and the importance of ritual

02:17:31
Jewish values - love of Jewish community -

02:17:36
A community that is always there

02:17:38
friends, supportive network

02:17:38
Wanting to deepen Jewish understanding and behaviors

02:17:38
Deeper connection to jewish community and history, regardless of how they “do Jewish"

02:17:41
Pride in being Jewish and part of Jewish people

02:17:49
Connection, Family, Shabbat dinners, Attention to world around them

02:17:59
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO THRIVE?

02:18:05
feeling empowered

02:18:08
belonging, connection

02:18:08
feeling safe and exploring the world

02:18:09
To feel love and connectiveness

02:18:09
Who is happy? One who is happy with their portion.

02:18:10
doing better than status quo

02:18:12
To be PROUD of being Jewish and to want to raise your own jewish family in the future

02:18:12
Self-confidence, ability to cope, be in partnerships with others

02:18:13
life without stress

02:18:13
see possibilities for growth

02:18:13
attain something to its fullest

02:18:14
feeling safe

02:18:15
Being part of something greater than yourself

02:18:16
empowered

02:18:16
Owning

02:18:16
To grow - in spirituality, in connection, in exploration

02:18:17
needs met, ability to give back

02:18:18
Have a purpose, moving forward

02:18:18
All basic needs are met and you can truly focus on what you care about, are interested in, who you truly are

02:18:18
Looking forward to the next day

02:18:18
grow, personally and professionally with health and happines

02:18:19
growth

02:18:20
Connection and belonging

02:18:20
To have inner peace

02:18:20
able to be your full self

02:18:20
not bored

02:18:20
Open

02:18:21
growth

02:18:23
feeling like you can move forward

02:18:24
fulfillment

02:18:24
being present and content

02:18:25
always growing, contributing to something beyond yourself

02:18:25
to feel part of a bigger community

02:18:25
learning and growing

02:18:26
to live in a world of optimism

02:18:27
moving forward

02:18:27
feeling healthy and competent

02:18:27
confidence

02:18:27
Belonging, connecting with others, love

02:18:28
Ability to grow

02:18:28
confidence!

02:18:28
understand collective responsibility

02:18:29
Associating with JOY, not OY all the time

02:18:29
happiness

02:18:29
self empowerment and resilience

02:18:30
living to the fullest

02:18:30
to have hope and optimism, believe in future

02:18:31
having all needs met

02:18:31
to be able to feel safe in a space where you can be authentic to who you are (without judgement)

02:18:31
feeling safe and loved

02:18:31
exploring potential

02:18:31
ability to grow and explore freely

02:18:32
staying alive

02:18:33
to be content and secure whre you are physically and emotionally

02:18:40
Wellbeing

02:18:45
agency and empowerment for growth

02:18:47
mindful

02:18:53
developing

02:19:08
Feeling confident to navigate life's challenges and joy in life's best moments.

02:19:16
proud of self when examining a medium to long-term trajectory

02:20:48
Jen and Dena, that is a beautiful list!

02:25:01
I like the idea of resilience being contagious

02:25:21
Me too!

02:25:26
Yes!! so nice!!

02:25:34
Yes!!!

02:34:46
Vicky Kelman!

02:38:08
Thank you for bringing so many together

02:38:30
Thank you to all the speakers. Beautiful! Looking forward.

02:38:34
Thank you everyone.

02:38:35
Thank you so much for this incredible learning opportunity!

02:38:37
Thank you from Jewish Federation of Somerset, Hunterdon & Warren Counties!

02:38:56
thank you!

03:05:12
Thank you PJ Library Radio!We will need this worksheet for the next conversation.https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nyPPTUnUNh7VsIKEekOtxt5NZjkL6yJhMM3bUBR8M4g/edit?usp=sharing

03:08:25
Thank you PJ Library Radio!We will need this worksheet for the next conversation.https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nyPPTUnUNh7VsIKEekOtxt5NZjkL6yJhMM3bUBR8M4g/edit?usp=sharing

03:09:49
Still letting people in! We'll start in a minute.

03:10:04
Grab this worksheet for the next conversation.https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nyPPTUnUNh7VsIKEekOtxt5NZjkL6yJhMM3bUBR8M4g/edit?usp=sharing

03:10:14
Beth are you going to send out these powerpoints afterward?

03:10:21
Sarene, yes!

03:10:31
Great thanks

03:12:25
Grab this worksheet for the next conversation.https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nyPPTUnUNh7VsIKEekOtxt5NZjkL6yJhMM3bUBR8M4g/edit?usp=sharingYou

03:12:41
You will need to download or make a copy - follow the directions at the top.

03:15:01
Grab this worksheet for the next conversation (also on the program).https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nyPPTUnUNh7VsIKEekOtxt5NZjkL6yJhMM3bUBR8M4g/edit?usp=sharingYou will need to download or make a copy - follow the directions at the top.

03:16:41
(but the link is on your program!)

03:17:24
Have breakout rooms been assigned?

03:18:07
I got bumped out and need a room

03:18:08
sorry

03:18:11
Stand by! You will be send to your breakout rooms momentarily

03:18:25
thanks!

03:23:12
I was in 33

03:23:37
OK i can't unmute, but I will take 30-35

03:25:01
Sorry... I accidentally left my break out room. How can I get back? I believe it was 15

03:25:18
Hi Eileen! If you go to Breakout Rooms on the bottom of your screen you should be able to rejoin

03:25:25
If you are having any difficulty, please let us know and we will re-send the pop up

03:28:11
Can someone unmute me?

03:28:57
I am in group11

03:29:16
im on audio with them I can't hear you

03:29:18
can you put me there

03:29:21
thank you!

03:29:56
it wants me to go to group 6

03:30:22
sorry I can't unmute

03:30:50
can you send me to 11?

03:44:45
What is one thing from your conversation that you are still thinking about?

03:44:58
The long view -

03:44:59
Regrets of parenting

03:45:00
how values differ from family to family

03:45:01
Importance of community

03:45:02
Jewish geography

03:45:02
Young Family and Young Leadership engagement is of upmost importance to show them the obligation to teach jewish values and morals

03:45:04
Programming for interfaith families

03:45:05
Hard choices

03:45:07
a. Bring meaning out of ritualb. Make it relevant in their lives/ own it

03:45:08
what happens next

03:45:08
Carmel Academy. Great schools and communities.

03:45:09
What it means to be Jewish

03:45:11
Short-term vs. long-term challenges

03:45:13
Empowerment

03:45:13
vibrancy

03:45:13
Being purpose focused in gatherings online or in person rather than trying to replicate what we had before

03:45:13
What is the responsibility of the community to support parents in supporting their children

03:45:14
The process of engagement is a slow, gradual one

03:45:14
How humbling it is to be a parent and watch your grown children make their own decisions

03:45:15
hope and resilience

03:45:15
Community impact

03:45:16
the diversity of Jewish educators in general

03:45:16
Resilience

03:45:17
How to give kids hope for the future of our planet

03:45:17
relationships and trust. openness

03:45:18
How to navigate the pros and cons of screen time

03:45:20
What we will keep that is working from the changes made during the pandemic

03:45:21
Helping families think about their children's future

03:45:22
How can we take the blessings from this difficult time and bring them forward when we get back to more “normal.”

03:45:22
The subjectivity of all of this

03:45:22
Hopes and dreams for our families and how we can be in partnership with them with these dreams

03:45:24
Such a small world

03:45:26
Meaning of the word “obligation” today and for young families

03:45:27
how this moment will be remembered

03:45:28
We are having one global conversation to move forward together

03:45:28
It’s humbling to be a parent

03:45:30
how and when to incorporate Judaism into family engagement

03:45:31
How to help bring judaism into their space - household when everyone is DONE with being online after school and work.

03:45:32
Giving our children hope in a time of collective trauma

03:45:33
It's the job in every generation to revisit responsibility to Jewish continuity, our own Mitzriam

03:45:33
Investing in strong families and strong Jewish families

03:45:34
How Jewish engagement is really about helping families not just survive, but thrive

03:45:37
thoughtful messaging

03:45:41
conflicting priorities

03:45:42
Impact of COVID on childhood experiences (positive and negative)

03:45:43
what makes a family whole

03:45:46
"changing the vessel" for the person/families

03:45:49
Change is hard to manaage - still some frustration with families

03:45:51
what it takes to create change within federations

03:45:52
what are the skills I can help teach to people and children to help them on their journeys

03:45:52
giving our families enough resources to respond

03:45:54
What hope and dreams do we need to reclaim?

03:45:55
changing expectations of our hopes and dreams as the landscape changes

03:45:59
PJ Ourway - resilience video

03:46:11
Perspective a Jewish perspective/lens even when it doesn’t seem overly “Jewish”

03:46:12
Hope & Dreams changes constantly!

03:46:52
About timing--I don't know about change taking time...the world comes at us, and sometimes we have to change quickly....

03:46:53
Hopes and dreams change constantly...

03:46:59
What hopes and dreams should remain unchanged, and what must be revised? How do we help our children prepare to revise dreams without crushing them?

03:47:00
Good is good enough

03:47:50
What is one way that Jewish education and engagement can help families achieve their hopes and dreams?

03:47:51
Give them a community of support.

03:47:52
open dialogue

03:47:55
Learning with and from others

03:47:58
empowerment

03:48:00
make it easily accessible

03:48:02
connecting with other Jewish families

03:48:04
Relationships and connections

03:48:04
by parents modeling jewish engagement for their children

03:48:05
supportive community

03:48:05
Offer parents an opportunity to make meaning of their experiences, especially right now.

03:48:07
Leaning on technology to find creative ways to reach out to underserved populations

03:48:07
Yes to what Dena is saying about pandemic not changing hopes and dreams of parents AND our group talked about how Black Lives Matter is influencing the hopes and dreams of parents

03:48:08
making life long friends to embrace Judaism with together

03:48:09
not cost prohibitive

03:48:11
give them tools/resources

03:48:13
Brings meaning and values to families

03:48:14
Judaism provides a foundation to ground people and offers a sense of belonging and connection.

03:48:14
Open conversations

03:48:15
Become part of a broader community of families.

03:48:16
Create learning communities for parents that they can then pass along to their children

03:48:17
give them set aside time and space for reflection and building of memories and meaning

03:48:18
provide a place to pause and reflect

03:48:18
keeping the barriers as low as possible

03:48:21
finding others with the same values...

03:48:22
empathy and inventory community needs

03:48:24
opportunities for parents to talk about anything

03:48:26
permission to come and go if it is not a good time/fit, flexibility in how to access content

03:48:28
Helping them see our world through the lens of Jewish values

03:48:28
Giving them cohort of people to explore with

03:48:29
open doors

03:48:31
allowing them to connect with meaning and with others

03:48:31
learning with other groups - a few famillies (a pod) learning together.

03:48:32
Reach out on a personal level and ask what family needs are; don't just wait for parents to sign up for existing programming.

03:48:32
Sense of self

03:48:32
Resources to cultivate KIND kids - as this seems to be a top priority for parents

03:48:32
Affordable learning opportunities

03:48:34
Teaching flexibility

03:48:36
give parents the tools to have the confidence to do Jewish engagement

03:48:36
Listen and partner with them

03:48:37
don't judge - be significantly accepting

03:48:40
No barriers

03:48:40
Content that is interesting and fun

03:48:41
low barrier education that is focused on what young families are looking for and that is easily recognizable and digestable

03:48:42
Sense of belonging to something bigger than themselves. They are part of a unique people!

03:48:44
provide the resources for parents to educate and engage, like another PJ Library experience

03:48:44
Finding ways to instill a mentality of "yes"

03:48:47
Providing tools that are practical and inspirational

03:48:51
no judgement

03:49:01
help parents become more Jewishly literate

03:49:01
hold space for difficult conversations, lift up voices

03:49:05
more resources and messaging that centers Jews of Color

03:49:10
Creating a space for them to be celebrated for who they are and what they bring and add to our community.

03:49:10
Give parents the confidence to speak in a Jewish literate manner and the tools to make those “moments that matter” uniquely Jewish moments.

03:49:16
low barrier programs and ways to keep families low barrier programs and keeping families connected

03:49:20
open-ended and dialogic

03:49:40
becoming a clearning house for programming opportunities to connect them to places where they can feel like they belong and connect with others like them

03:50:01
choices

03:50:20
Mastery for parents to create meaningful, loving, joyful Jewish families

03:51:10
Jewish literacy to help inform family decisions and struggles. Create a belonging to family and community

03:51:58
Agree with Martine!

03:54:09
Beth, I am sorry I missed where to go?

03:54:14
I don’t have a link

05:26:29
We invite you to share insights and takeaways in the chat as we settle in.

05:26:49
Is Play the Bridge Between Mind & Spirit

05:27:42
We are all in the same boat (or ark!) so hearing what others are going through and finding solutions, ideas, etc. are all very helpful!!

05:28:25
yay max!!!!

05:28:34
Mazal Tov, Max!

05:28:41
Yay Max! So proud of you!

05:28:46
Kol HaKavod Max!

05:28:49
Congratulations Max!!!

05:29:04
well deserved Max!!

05:30:01
Intentional and purposeful engagement work to build community; empowering community members to engage in Jewish life where and how they choose beyond the traditional “membership” / denomination model

05:30:04
Hooray for you, Max!

05:30:13
provide opportunities of expressions to bring kids and adults closer to the sacred.

05:38:05
I love that!

05:39:52
Greta point—the babysitter test, can be fixed with Zoom

05:42:16
*great

05:42:16
Small beats!

05:43:48
That personal engagement even at a distance works well and is important for all family members - young and old!!

05:46:33
AHA Moment: The parents need us to provide and have the skills, confidence and motivation. Empower the parent and family engagement will follow.

05:48:44
I really love that!

05:52:03
Max the storyteller! As I remember her from MANY years ago. :)

05:52:06
I would love story time with Max!

05:52:53
Thank you, Max!

05:55:30
thanks Mark, very thoughtful and insightful questions

05:57:57
Thanks Beth!

05:58:04
thank you

05:58:29
thank you Beth!

05:58:35
Kol hakavod Beth!

05:58:37
Thank you, Beth!!!

05:58:40
Beth is awesome. Thank you Beth!!!

05:58:42
thank you!!!

05:58:42
Thank you Beth!

05:58:45
Thank you, Beth!

05:58:45
KOL HAKAVOD BETH!!!

05:58:47
🎉🎉🎉

05:58:51
THANK YOU Beth!

05:58:52
Thank you Beth!

05:58:53
Thank you Beth!

05:59:00
absolutely - thank you, Beth!!

05:59:01
Great, thought-provoking sessions!

05:59:07
Thank you!!