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Great to be able to join live and see everyone - I'm in Australia and it doesn't happen very often that I can do this!
Awesome you can make it today!
I’m going to leave and come back in something happened with my sound.
Hi Mary, so nice to see you <3
Nice to see you too Lisa!
Debbie Downer tries to protect us from disappointment.
Hi Kathy and all !!
nice to see you again😊
Good to be back.
She thinks she's keeping us safe
facing it = going about your life with or without it
I think it’s the difference between observing it and identifying with it.
You've got to let her be there
Whether she's there or not, you're going to go about your business
I’m never crying over the Notebook again
Thinking about the thought makes you feel like you’re staying vigilant (to prevent the “what if” from happening). But I think it just ends up reinforcing the thought… and therefore stuck in the cycle.
I struggle with “Listen to Your Body” and “Ignore Your Mind”
I agree Lomas, I think it is also preparing for the worst so we won't be surprised when the worst happens.
@carol - yes, agree!
Treating the thought as irrelevant is what works. There are many different ways to do that. Whether you say “Oh fucking well” or “Who cares” or “That’s just anxiety” it works. Train yourself to not engage the thought as important. You can acknowledge it but there is a line between engaging and acknowledging it. The difference I think is your emotional reaction. One is reacting with fear and anxiety hence alarm and the other is just acknowledgment but overall non-importance.
Yes - ASSERTIVENESS. You are doing this, and I AM DOING THIS.
Alfredo - irrelevance. Totally!
Damn it Michelle lol
lol I hear you Erin!
So true it is always cancer and heart attacks and death
Never just gas or a pain lol
LoL. Brace yourself
That was really good!
Chris- You described exactly what I feel .... When I listen to my noisy body ... I go back to my crazy mind... it’s hard
Thanks that’s really good
Its how you react to your noisy body
I treat sad with Ben and Jerry’s ice cream...
Do you watch The Notebook too?
Steven Di Nino
Do you dare through grief anxiety?
Being afraid of being sad?
Like I have horrible anxiety after losing my dog and I don’t know why
You are allowed to grieve …
Don’t fight it
I just don’t understand why it’s heightening my anxiety
Are you fighting your grief?
It’s stressful and it will release some stress hormones I gather.
Erin, I think anxiety increases when we’re trying not to feel big emotions.
right on cue
Michelle talking about it right now
I’d like to hear more about “protect”. Thats what I feel my DP/DR is.
I’m not fighting my feelings they’re just like coming up with more anxiety and I don’t know why
We give you permission to feel sad
I agree Erin
I think it’s just like exercise, sadness is just a stress on your system and will effect your anxiety because it’s an exhausting physical process.
Thank you guys ❤️
Comfort can’t be a goal
Forgive your anxiety. Forgive YOURSELF for having anxiety
I love that
It’s a great shift in focus!
Gratitude work helps
There are always good things in every day. We forget. Don’t let yourself forget. Gratitude.
Gratitude reminds me life is good even with anxiety.
I am looking forward getting to that place.
Yes, and the paradox is this- when you don’t care about whether or not the anxiety is there, you’re freed up to care more deeply about things that really matter.
Well said Jackie
I told my principal at my annual year in review meeting, that this year was really hard and I’m looking forward to less anxiety next year. It was really hard for me to say it, but I decided for the first time in perhaps ever to vulnerable rather than have all my Armor on. I saw sympathy and concern in her eyes. I ended up crying, but I think in the end it really was a step I needed to take in learning how to surrender and be vulnerable to others and to situations. To not always be in control.
Araceli - I remember the grocery store being very challenging when I was highly, highly anxious. The colours. The lights. Everything seemed like too much - like things were coming towards me. It's just your body on high volume - go spaghetti and let it wash over you.
Huge step Graham. That is not easy.
Graham so proud you did that! There’s the power in vulnerability
great job Graham 👏
Great call guys. Thank you everyone for your awesome input!
Liz—I’m trying ... but I think I’m doing it wrong.
Great job Graham.
Araceli - I'll send you a message on facebook
Aww I love that Kathy
That is so true Kathy - I will use that - I am grateful for my anxiety because brings out my empathy for other people.
Kathy- business idea- grocery stores for anxiety sufferers! Barry’s voice over the intercom. Lots of boxes of spaghetti. Dimmer lights. Wider aisles. Fewer selections.
Kathy, if you rebrand as a grocery store for Anxious People, you'll have an unending line out the door
I see it in my students every single day.
I blame social media and the “highlight” reel
yes! I think so too!
best business idea ever
I'd shop at that grocery store!
Agreed Jhon. Completely agreed
Comparing your behind the scenes to someone's highlights reel - that's social media!
Taking facebook off my phone is one of the best things I’ve done for myself this year.
I deleted all social media a year ago and if changed my life. I have Facebook for dare because I need y’all lol
Im currently banned from Facebook
Did you decide that?
Same Erin, I actually have only about 10 positive people I follow. I use it for DARE and some other groups, but that’s it.
It’s life changing
Have to run - so great to participate and see you all!
I have to go as well. Thanks guys!! Great call!
Yes. The focus is on Math and Literacy where I live, but it’s like looking at the roof of a house without noticing the foundation (mental health) is crumbling.
I have to hop off, but this was a great call, and it was great to see everyone!
Good night everyone, thank you for the call.
Goodnight. Thank you!
nice call. Thanks
Wonderful group! Have a wonderful night