I love that thought of interdependence

will we get a copy of your presentation?

The presentation will be on the Wellcoaches website

so sorry to hear about Bob I remember many of his pearls of wisdom

Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time. Maya Angelou

it is hard to believe everyone has a good core when you are the subject of racism and bigotry

to trust sometimes you have to get out of the way and trust what or how it is not what you wish it is

As we are exploring trust here, I’m aware of a lot of personal closed-downness in this moment because of pain and trauma of the events of this past week

reliability is very important in the interest of diversity there many pearls of wisdom that come from the cultures of the American Indian African American and Asian cultures we should incorporate some of these

Please post that last slide again

The one with all lists

I would like to add humility. Self humility brings us to a place of purposeful vulnerability. Showing the other person that we don't take ourselves seriously.

Trust in self first, I believe self confidence is a big issue - can you discuss further.

insight

@LaNean yes, you bring up a very real and important topic. Im tired and have felt guilty about not being able to show up ask would like sometimes. I know the importance of self care but the guilt is there for me personally

oops @LaJean sorry

Is that person not trusting themselves to be authentic?

Of course that is not true for everyone.

Thank you Gregory

Would we want to add Consistency to the list.

Is this recorded? Jumped on late.

fear comes from ignorance

Even more than just changing how you speak to try and relate to another, I have noticed people bring up topics to discuss that they normally would never include in conversations, but they think that it is what the other person is interested in.

please speak to how trust being broken as a child shows up as not being able to fully trust self or others as an adult

Good point. There is fear on both sides.

Yes. There is fear on both sides

“Trust involves the juxtaposition of people’s loftiest hopes and aspirations with their deepest worries and fears.” - Jeffry Simpson

We need more opportunities to have conversations between different cultures with the goal of understanding and learning to love our similarities and differences.

A dear friend introduced this concept of Gracism yesterday. Just the name intrigues me and I will explore more about it.

Cultural Humility is a great place to start.

simply to treat each life, each person as a valuable child of God

Yes!

nice thoughts Gregory....thank you so much for sharing this!

One example of humility, effective in recent events, when the police office took a knee along with others acknowledging their humility

Thanks Greg!

Thank you Greg!!!

Thanks Greg!

Thank you Greg for sharing with us

Greg, Love your comments and find very true! Call to action

It is hard to feel trust in systems with no accountability. Perhaps that is another element of trust - systems of accountability

open dialog yes , thank you

Amen!

Much gratitude to you Greg for your insight and wisdom.

What did you say where George lives?

Individual dialogue is so important. It can seem so tedious at times, but one mind at a time.

Each officer must take full responsibility for their own actions, not their chief or leader.

I heard a comment last night. It concerns the light on all the cracks in the foundation and there are many. On a positive note the cracks permit the light to shine through.

Grateful for this touching exchange, Greg and Meg.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us Margaret. I am very grateful for these sessions and for you!

I second Evelyne and Lisa!

I don’t know you, Greg. But I am with you. I hope we can come out of this better too, more eager to listen and change and grow.

also thinking of the retired policeman in St. Louis who was killed

Conversations are so important. When we know better, we can do better.

Yes, Meg, We ARE here!

As coaches we need to be able to step up to race and hold productive space

Yes

I hear you Greg! We are here

amen yes

Thank you Greg

Thank you for sharing.

I currently live in Minneapolis and there MUST be change.

Thank you Greg for sharing!

Greg, thank you for the insight and for sharing.

My heart goes out to you, Greg.

love this conversation as a daughter of a police officer

Thank you Greg!!

Thank you for sharing Greg!

thank you for your support...greg

what we need is right now is UNITY. We need to find the humanness in all of us…compassion, empathy and love. Thank you Greg for your insight and silliness to be vulnerable and share with us.

willingness not silliness. …

Thank you for being vulnerable, Ann. And thank you, Greg!

I find it very brave Ann Strader to share your story and not hide or have shame about your history.

Time to do the work! Thank you Ann.

Yes! Ann, it IS time, long past time for us white people to take this load off the backs of our brothers and sisters of color. Well said!

Rosemary - thank you to your father!

We must each face our painful lineage, familial and national

Thanks Ann for your vulnerability!

Thanks Ann for your courage to share and commitment to help.

We also need to recognize we all have a base of fear that has to be dismantled through reality checks!

Thank you Anne for sharing

courageous vulnerability Anne

Thank you Greg and Coach Meg, and also thank you Ann for your vulnerability and sharing. All so meaningful.

Can you release the screen so we can see everyone?

empathy is so important

Thans

holding space and listening is such a gift

Just seen Michigan Senate has passed a bill for racial bias training for police. That's a start, to retrain law enforcement to hopefully regain trust.

@janine Yaaaas!

I am shocked. I am a fitness instructor for our Y…..WOW!

holding space for your clients....with a huge open heart and so much empathy. beautiful, anna....thank you

I'm a single mom of a mixed-race son. I have looked at the alternatives for his future and only one is acceptable. 381 days committed!

My parents were Italian and Slovak. They told me stories of belittling when they grew up. Even when they married each other. Both my grandparents wanted to know why they were not marrying their own.

Me being a black women, I'm concerned about my 30 year old son daily. Fear and concern is definitely warranted in this day and time.

Native American's too!

FYI - There are at least 3 of us from Cigna on this call - Onsite Health Coaches - with regular team meetings and discussions around this - both from work and personal family situations.

and women

Yes! @Judy and women.

this has been a sanity island for me for weeks, thank you Meg for holding this space :)

YES Anna!!! Very important!!

Its so valuable to speak our own “race story” and listen fully to others. We all have a story. As Greg said, this increases our understanding and appreciation for the complexity of experience. There is no singular black, white, chinese, mexican…etc. experience

True. Thank

Thank you for sharing Anna.

so grateful for your sharing

thank you

Thank you Anna.

Thank you Anna and everyone who has shared.

I have experienced violence as a jew; surprising in an area of Los Angeles where there is a strong jewish population. But I am able to walk around not being immediately identified by my appearance. I think for black and brown and asian and others there is no anonimity, and this is a danger of just being out in society. I'm glad the conversation is addressing this at this time, and hope this horrible time in the world will be a catalyst.

Thank you Anna!

I work with the autistic and disabled community. Who experience double and triple whammy's if they have racial injustice on top of their disability. Half of the people killed by police are disbled

Thank you Margaret for your courage to open the dialogue, great meeting!! :)

I was thinking the same thing Karen. EACH of us need to be the change we want to see in the world

We are in the process of transcending from fear to love and what we are learning from Margret will help us assist others in their connection to their higher selves . Empathy, awareness and faith.

-US News and World report did an article on it on March 14, 2016

thank you everyone!

@Dori - thank you for putting a spotlight on the challenges of people with disabilities

I'd like to know how to talk to family/friends who make racist statements. My inclination is to either lecture (which doesn't work) or cut them out (which also doesn't work and keeps us even more separate).

Thank you, Coach Meg for providing this space for us to grow and cope. Thank you to each person that shared for sharing your experiences. Powerful conversations in a shared safe space is vital. I’m grateful!

My ASD clients are SOOOO SCARED of saying anything wrong trying to learn how they can help.

Thank you Margaret, Greg, Anna for your sharing. I feel much more positivity and hope right now after listening.

shannon, I would love to share an experience I had one time, I just asked "why", and it led to a complete reversal of opinion of the individual making the comment! it was remarkable.

I’m grateful for today’s session and everyone’s thoughts. Very valuable. Thanks Meg for this opportunity.

My husband said something last night, If you don’t know what to do right now, look inward and work on yourself first. Focus on being your better self and then offer that to the world.

if we do have contacts what do we do to start a training ?

@adrien thank you for sharing

thank you for this amazing session and everyone for sharing

Thanks for this forum, Coach Meg. I hope we can also support the Latin community. I can help. .

Love what your husband said Sara B

such heartache w anti-semitism!

So, I live in Minneapolis and I just wanted to speak to what was mentioned. Our MPLS Police Chief Arradondo is indeed amazing. He is definitely the leadership our police force needs. A huge issue in Minneapolis, however, is our Police Union and the Leader of the Police Union, Bob Kroll. I don't want to hijack this thread, but if you feel so inclined, please sign the petition to remove Bob Kroll https://www.change.org/p/minnesota-government-and-leadership-oust-lt-bob-kroll-from-mn-police-union?source_location=topic_page

a different perspective is. I note feel more intimated I will say and do the wrong thing. my growing up was multicultural and felt more comfortable than I do now

I have truly appreciated session. Very eye opening and a lot of vulnerability being shared. Thank you.

immigrants also living in fear daily

Thank you Alisa, I was thinking of that yesterday. Why is this issue not discussed more in our news?

silence is violence

awful to hear Alissa. Know that we stand with you.

Melanie, thank you - just signed the petition.

Hello Alisa, its wonderful to hear your voice! Always a kindness that warms my heart to this day! Sending my love. -Shannon from Michigan

WOW!!!

Done Melanie!

yes! we have to excavate our conditioning

Thank you for this series of classes Coach Meg!

Sad story Alisa. WOW. It is so sad to see this web of hatred and yes, we have work to do!

Appreciative inquiry.... like asking, Tell me more. I love it!!

Heartfelt gratitude to you all, and THANK YOU Coach Meg for these amazing gifts!

thank you all

Thank you for sharing Adrien and Alisa and Anna. Thank you all for being open and willing

Great job once again, Meg. Thanks for continuing these sessions.

Thanks!!!!!

thank you all for sharing!

Grateful to have learned NVC!

Thank you all💖

I love how coaches follow what is most pertinent in the moment!

Thank you Meg and everyone that shared! What a wonderful Island to be a part of!

I’m a nurse in New Orleans and I accept and take care of all races and genders. Compassion is important for everyone!!

Thankyou. I starts with us.

Thing happen for a reason

BEAUTIFUL organization and insight Meg!

Moved and grateful for this call today. Thanks Coach Meg

Thank you, all. The hour goes too fast.

Blessings to all.

Thank you for this. It is great to know we are all in this together!

thank you everyone; thank you Coach Meg for this gift

Thank you for sharing this information Meg and for all those who gave insight on how we can get better and make lasting change.

That would be amazing.

thank you!

Much gratitude for all who shared and Meg for offering free sessions that are so full of light in the darkness! You have provided a wonderful gift !

Thank you everyone!

This is an incredible group. Thank you Meg for facilitating this group; you are wonderful. Is there any way of getting Continuing Education credit for this?

Than you Coach Meg

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I'm feeling hopeful now!

Thank you Meg and everyone. We are moving forward and I feel so good we are part of the change.

Thank you Coach Meg!