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How to Coach Yourself in Pandemic Time - Shared screen with speaker view
Gaylynn Crosby
20:10
I love that thought of interdependence
Dori Babcock
21:19
will we get a copy of your presentation?
Cindy Carson
22:01
The presentation will be on the Wellcoaches website
amy willens
23:37
so sorry to hear about Bob I remember many of his pearls of wisdom
Rachel DeFurio
26:13
Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time. Maya Angelou
Gregory Peck
30:10
it is hard to believe everyone has a good core when you are the subject of racism and bigotry
bettina waldman
33:12
to trust sometimes you have to get out of the way and trust what or how it is not what you wish it is
LaJean Lawson
39:36
As we are exploring trust here, I’m aware of a lot of personal closed-downness in this moment because of pain and trauma of the events of this past week
Gregory Peck
43:00
reliability is very important in the interest of diversity there many pearls of wisdom that come from the cultures of the American Indian African American and Asian cultures we should incorporate some of these
Katique Gennaro
44:02
Please post that last slide again
Katique Gennaro
44:30
The one with all lists
Kellen Polingyumptewa
45:13
I would like to add humility. Self humility brings us to a place of purposeful vulnerability. Showing the other person that we don't take ourselves seriously.
Dee HIll-Mey
45:30
Trust in self first, I believe self confidence is a big issue - can you discuss further.
Gregory Peck
45:44
insight
Rachel DeFurio
48:23
@LaNean yes, you bring up a very real and important topic. Im tired and have felt guilty about not being able to show up ask would like sometimes. I know the importance of self care but the guilt is there for me personally
Rachel DeFurio
48:48
oops @LaJean sorry
Melanie Vicker
48:55
Is that person not trusting themselves to be authentic?
Patricia Harrell
49:03
Of course that is not true for everyone.
Michele Hislop
49:52
Thank you Gregory
Betsy Salkind
50:34
Would we want to add Consistency to the list.
Edi
51:30
Is this recorded? Jumped on late.
Silvia Astrouck
51:39
fear comes from ignorance
Julia Teal
51:41
Even more than just changing how you speak to try and relate to another, I have noticed people bring up topics to discuss that they normally would never include in conversations, but they think that it is what the other person is interested in.
Michele Blake
51:42
please speak to how trust being broken as a child shows up as not being able to fully trust self or others as an adult
Stephanie Wolfe
52:04
Good point. There is fear on both sides.
Patricia Harrell
52:19
Yes. There is fear on both sides
Rachel Knox
52:42
“Trust involves the juxtaposition of people’s loftiest hopes and aspirations with their deepest worries and fears.” - Jeffry Simpson
Ellen Goldman
52:53
We need more opportunities to have conversations between different cultures with the goal of understanding and learning to love our similarities and differences.
Cynthia Luna
53:09
A dear friend introduced this concept of Gracism yesterday. Just the name intrigues me and I will explore more about it.
Rachel Knox
53:15
Cultural Humility is a great place to start.
Theresa Eury
53:26
simply to treat each life, each person as a valuable child of God
Patricia Harrell
54:10
Yes!
Julia Bartram
55:12
nice thoughts Gregory....thank you so much for sharing this!
Kellen Polingyumptewa
55:29
One example of humility, effective in recent events, when the police office took a knee along with others acknowledging their humility
Cynthia Luna
55:33
Thanks Greg!
Laura Tolle
55:49
Thank you Greg!!!
Sharon Waldrop
55:49
Thanks Greg!
Susan Cohen
55:50
Thank you Greg for sharing with us
Ann Strader
55:59
Greg, Love your comments and find very true! Call to action
Betsy Salkind
56:13
It is hard to feel trust in systems with no accountability. Perhaps that is another element of trust - systems of accountability
Susanne Hiller
56:14
open dialog yes , thank you
Debbie Zimmerman
56:26
Amen!
Catherine Ebelke
57:03
Much gratitude to you Greg for your insight and wisdom.
A098324
57:21
What did you say where George lives?
Melanie Ellsworth
57:22
Individual dialogue is so important. It can seem so tedious at times, but one mind at a time.
Patricia Harrell
57:46
Each officer must take full responsibility for their own actions, not their chief or leader.
Susan Cohen
57:54
I heard a comment last night. It concerns the light on all the cracks in the foundation and there are many. On a positive note the cracks permit the light to shine through.
Lisa Verdejo
57:57
Grateful for this touching exchange, Greg and Meg.
Evelyne Steward
58:34
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us Margaret. I am very grateful for these sessions and for you!
Rachel Knox
59:03
I second Evelyne and Lisa!
Debi
59:53
I don’t know you, Greg. But I am with you. I hope we can come out of this better too, more eager to listen and change and grow.
Theresa Eury
01:00:06
also thinking of the retired policeman in St. Louis who was killed
Janine Gilarde
01:00:11
Conversations are so important. When we know better, we can do better.
Sharon Waldrop
01:00:25
Yes, Meg, We ARE here!
Christine Cralen
01:00:26
As coaches we need to be able to step up to race and hold productive space
Lisa Hardin
01:00:35
Yes
A098324
01:00:38
I hear you Greg! We are here
Susanne Hiller
01:00:39
amen yes
Rachel DeFurio
01:00:53
Thank you Greg
Angela Horjus
01:00:57
Thank you for sharing.
A098324
01:01:12
I currently live in Minneapolis and there MUST be change.
Aileen Turner
01:01:36
Thank you Greg for sharing!
Susan Cohen
01:01:40
Greg, thank you for the insight and for sharing.
Mary Jane Mihajlovic
01:01:53
My heart goes out to you, Greg.
Rosemary Somich
01:02:06
love this conversation as a daughter of a police officer
Mari Giordano
01:02:19
Thank you Greg!!
Michele Blake
01:02:27
Thank you for sharing Greg!
Gregory Peck
01:02:36
thank you for your support...greg
Coach Liz
01:02:53
what we need is right now is UNITY. We need to find the humanness in all of us…compassion, empathy and love. Thank you Greg for your insight and silliness to be vulnerable and share with us.
Coach Liz
01:03:18
willingness not silliness. …
Stephanie Iverson
01:03:25
Thank you for being vulnerable, Ann. And thank you, Greg!
Lara Benezra
01:03:32
I find it very brave Ann Strader to share your story and not hide or have shame about your history.
Aileen Turner
01:03:36
Time to do the work! Thank you Ann.
Melanie Ellsworth
01:03:37
Yes! Ann, it IS time, long past time for us white people to take this load off the backs of our brothers and sisters of color. Well said!
Theresa Eury
01:03:38
Rosemary - thank you to your father!
Christine Cralen
01:03:38
We must each face our painful lineage, familial and national
Cynthia Luna
01:03:50
Thanks Ann for your vulnerability!
Sharon Waldrop
01:03:51
Thanks Ann for your courage to share and commitment to help.
Rosemary Somich
01:04:05
We also need to recognize we all have a base of fear that has to be dismantled through reality checks!
Kristine Berry
01:04:07
Thank you Anne for sharing
Mindi Masters
01:04:17
courageous vulnerability Anne
Patricia Patterson
01:04:39
Thank you Greg and Coach Meg, and also thank you Ann for your vulnerability and sharing. All so meaningful.
Rachael Clark
01:04:49
Can you release the screen so we can see everyone?
Susanne Hiller
01:05:31
empathy is so important
Rachael Clark
01:05:45
Thans
Janine Gilarde
01:06:22
holding space and listening is such a gift
La Tonya Allen-Brown
01:06:34
Just seen Michigan Senate has passed a bill for racial bias training for police. That's a start, to retrain law enforcement to hopefully regain trust.
Cynthia Luna
01:06:51
@janine Yaaaas!
Maureen Klacik
01:07:07
I am shocked. I am a fitness instructor for our Y…..WOW!
Marci Becker
01:08:25
holding space for your clients....with a huge open heart and so much empathy. beautiful, anna....thank you
Cynthia Luna
01:08:35
I'm a single mom of a mixed-race son. I have looked at the alternatives for his future and only one is acceptable. 381 days committed!
Maureen Klacik
01:08:36
My parents were Italian and Slovak. They told me stories of belittling when they grew up. Even when they married each other. Both my grandparents wanted to know why they were not marrying their own.
La Tonya Allen-Brown
01:09:47
Me being a black women, I'm concerned about my 30 year old son daily. Fear and concern is definitely warranted in this day and time.
Edi
01:10:15
Native American's too!
Laurie Reynolds
01:10:25
FYI - There are at least 3 of us from Cigna on this call - Onsite Health Coaches - with regular team meetings and discussions around this - both from work and personal family situations.
Judy Jeppson
01:10:25
and women
Madelyn Parker
01:10:49
Yes! @Judy and women.
Daniele Kallas
01:11:11
this has been a sanity island for me for weeks, thank you Meg for holding this space :)
Coach Liz
01:11:29
YES Anna!!! Very important!!
Christine Cralen
01:11:38
Its so valuable to speak our own “race story” and listen fully to others. We all have a story. As Greg said, this increases our understanding and appreciation for the complexity of experience. There is no singular black, white, chinese, mexican…etc. experience
Maureen Klacik
01:12:06
True. Thank
Aileen Turner
01:12:07
Thank you for sharing Anna.
Marci Becker
01:12:14
so grateful for your sharing
Jennifer Langenwalter
01:12:16
thank you
Maureen Klacik
01:12:18
Thank you Anna.
Cynthia Luna
01:12:26
Thank you Anna and everyone who has shared.
Adrien MacKenzie
01:12:29
I have experienced violence as a jew; surprising in an area of Los Angeles where there is a strong jewish population. But I am able to walk around not being immediately identified by my appearance. I think for black and brown and asian and others there is no anonimity, and this is a danger of just being out in society. I'm glad the conversation is addressing this at this time, and hope this horrible time in the world will be a catalyst.
Sharon Waldrop
01:12:33
Thank you Anna!
Dori Babcock
01:12:41
I work with the autistic and disabled community. Who experience double and triple whammy's if they have racial injustice on top of their disability. Half of the people killed by police are disbled
Rachael Clark
01:13:00
Thank you Margaret for your courage to open the dialogue, great meeting!! :)
Melanie Vicker
01:13:12
I was thinking the same thing Karen. EACH of us need to be the change we want to see in the world
Susan Cohen
01:13:15
We are in the process of transcending from fear to love and what we are learning from Margret will help us assist others in their connection to their higher selves . Empathy, awareness and faith.
Dori Babcock
01:13:32
-US News and World report did an article on it on March 14, 2016
Wendy Price
01:13:35
thank you everyone!
Cynthia Luna
01:13:49
@Dori - thank you for putting a spotlight on the challenges of people with disabilities
Shannon Brodeur
01:13:53
I'd like to know how to talk to family/friends who make racist statements. My inclination is to either lecture (which doesn't work) or cut them out (which also doesn't work and keeps us even more separate).
Angela Carter-Lanon
01:14:03
Thank you, Coach Meg for providing this space for us to grow and cope. Thank you to each person that shared for sharing your experiences. Powerful conversations in a shared safe space is vital. I’m grateful!
Dori Babcock
01:14:29
My ASD clients are SOOOO SCARED of saying anything wrong trying to learn how they can help.
Dana Gunter
01:14:43
Thank you Margaret, Greg, Anna for your sharing. I feel much more positivity and hope right now after listening.
Adrien MacKenzie
01:14:45
shannon, I would love to share an experience I had one time, I just asked "why", and it led to a complete reversal of opinion of the individual making the comment! it was remarkable.
Sharon Waldrop
01:15:02
I’m grateful for today’s session and everyone’s thoughts. Very valuable. Thanks Meg for this opportunity.
Sara Bousfield
01:15:06
My husband said something last night, If you don’t know what to do right now, look inward and work on yourself first. Focus on being your better self and then offer that to the world.
Jennifer Langenwalter
01:15:07
if we do have contacts what do we do to start a training ?
Shannon Brodeur
01:15:17
@adrien thank you for sharing
Rose Aponte
01:15:37
thank you for this amazing session and everyone for sharing
claudia Hallblom
01:15:53
Thanks for this forum, Coach Meg. I hope we can also support the Latin community. I can help. .
Coach Liz
01:15:55
Love what your husband said Sara B
Theresa Eury
01:16:19
such heartache w anti-semitism!
Melanie Ellsworth
01:16:36
So, I live in Minneapolis and I just wanted to speak to what was mentioned. Our MPLS Police Chief Arradondo is indeed amazing. He is definitely the leadership our police force needs. A huge issue in Minneapolis, however, is our Police Union and the Leader of the Police Union, Bob Kroll. I don't want to hijack this thread, but if you feel so inclined, please sign the petition to remove Bob Kroll https://www.change.org/p/minnesota-government-and-leadership-oust-lt-bob-kroll-from-mn-police-union?source_location=topic_page
Mindi Masters
01:17:39
a different perspective is. I note feel more intimated I will say and do the wrong thing. my growing up was multicultural and felt more comfortable than I do now
La Tonya Allen-Brown
01:17:46
I have truly appreciated session. Very eye opening and a lot of vulnerability being shared. Thank you.
Rosemary Somich
01:17:53
immigrants also living in fear daily
Dana Gunter
01:17:55
Thank you Alisa, I was thinking of that yesterday. Why is this issue not discussed more in our news?
Rosemary Somich
01:18:03
silence is violence
Michelle Spain-Allen
01:18:19
awful to hear Alissa. Know that we stand with you.
Randi Lite
01:18:20
Melanie, thank you - just signed the petition.
Shannon Pearce
01:18:33
Hello Alisa, its wonderful to hear your voice! Always a kindness that warms my heart to this day! Sending my love. -Shannon from Michigan
La Tonya Allen-Brown
01:19:43
WOW!!!
Sharon Waldrop
01:19:52
Done Melanie!
Marci Becker
01:20:07
yes! we have to excavate our conditioning
Dori Babcock
01:20:08
Thank you for this series of classes Coach Meg!
Julia Bartram
01:20:15
Sad story Alisa. WOW. It is so sad to see this web of hatred and yes, we have work to do!
Judy Jeppson
01:20:22
Appreciative inquiry.... like asking, Tell me more. I love it!!
Catherine Ebelke
01:20:26
Heartfelt gratitude to you all, and THANK YOU Coach Meg for these amazing gifts!
Susanne Hiller
01:20:29
thank you all
Rachel DeFurio
01:20:30
Thank you for sharing Adrien and Alisa and Anna. Thank you all for being open and willing
Ellen Goldman
01:20:36
Great job once again, Meg. Thanks for continuing these sessions.
Edi
01:20:38
Thanks!!!!!
Silvia Astrouck
01:20:41
thank you all for sharing!
Angela Carter-Lanon
01:20:42
Grateful to have learned NVC!
Rosemary Somich
01:20:44
Thank you all💖
Christine Cralen
01:20:47
I love how coaches follow what is most pertinent in the moment!
Ann Strader
01:20:47
Thank you Meg and everyone that shared! What a wonderful Island to be a part of!
Katique Gennaro
01:20:48
I’m a nurse in New Orleans and I accept and take care of all races and genders. Compassion is important for everyone!!
La Tonya Allen-Brown
01:20:48
Thankyou. I starts with us.
Gaylynn Crosby
01:20:48
Thing happen for a reason
Julia Bartram
01:20:51
BEAUTIFUL organization and insight Meg!
Alejandro Vera
01:20:52
Moved and grateful for this call today. Thanks Coach Meg
Judy Jeppson
01:21:00
Thank you, all. The hour goes too fast.
La Tonya Allen-Brown
01:21:01
Blessings to all.
Linette Long
01:21:05
Thank you for this. It is great to know we are all in this together!
Adrien MacKenzie
01:21:07
thank you everyone; thank you Coach Meg for this gift
Melanie Vicker
01:21:14
Thank you for sharing this information Meg and for all those who gave insight on how we can get better and make lasting change.
La Tonya Allen-Brown
01:21:16
That would be amazing.
Marci Becker
01:21:17
thank you!
Shannon Pearce
01:21:18
Much gratitude for all who shared and Meg for offering free sessions that are so full of light in the darkness! You have provided a wonderful gift !
Aileen Turner
01:21:18
Thank you everyone!
Debbie Zimmerman
01:21:19
This is an incredible group. Thank you Meg for facilitating this group; you are wonderful. Is there any way of getting Continuing Education credit for this?
Barry Jacob
01:21:20
Than you Coach Meg
Rosemary Somich
01:21:21
🎉🎉🎉
Joanne Noce
01:21:21
I'm feeling hopeful now!
Susan Cohen
01:21:23
Thank you Meg and everyone. We are moving forward and I feel so good we are part of the change.
Patricia Patterson
01:21:58
Thank you Coach Meg!