Wil recording be available to share later?

may i respond to alex?

Here are some more options for sharing your story: https://jewishfuturepledge.org/sharing-your-story/

Any ethical wills from those perished in Holocaust? Am 2nd gen who grew up without grandparents..and my parents weren’t t emotionally babble to do even if so inclined..and mybfather didn’t leave any words of wisdom when he was dying

Ethical wills course like this as katalyst to motivate empower support 2nd gen? Who..how to connect with presenter today? Paul foldes..pfoldes@tikkunolam.org

there was a wonderful folksinging couple in the 70s and later: Joe & Penny Aaronson(sp?) who performed nationwide...one song was an eternal favorite of mine: All I Got Was WordsWhen I was young and fancy free,My folks had no fine clothes for me.All I got was words:Gott Zu Danken – Thank GodGott wet Geben – God will provideZoll men nor leben un sein Gezunt.We should only live and be healthy.When I was wont to travel far,They didn’t provide me with a car.All I got was words:Geh Gezunt – Go in healthGeh Pamelach – Go carefullyHab a glikliche reize – Have a safe trip.I wanted to increase my knowledge,But they couldn’t send me to college.All I got was words:Hab Seichel – Have common senseZei nicht ken nahr – Don’t be a foolToire is die beste achoire.Learning is its own best reward.The years have flown, the world has turned,Things I’ve forgotten, things I’ve learned,Yet I rememberZag dem emes – Tell the truthGih Tzedakah – Be charitableHab rachmonus – Have compassion

Before my mother passed away, she had very specific instructions on her funeral - choosing her pall bearers (all women), who was to speak (not the rabbi, who was too long winded), what songs to sing, what shive would look like (she even said to her daughters - me and my sister - I know you will do a good job but I wish I could be there). We even met with the rabbi together with my mother and my siblings about what mourning would look like. It was incredibly reassuring to know her wishes.

In NJ, one can appoint a Funeral Agent to legally authorize that person to carry out your final/burial wishes.

Here are the beautiful letters written by Rabbi Dick Israel to his daughter at four different life transitions. They served as a model for my ethical will writing to my children: https://www.dropbox.com/s/xhapbtgji2mcm0o/Dick%20Israel-letters%20to%20daughter%20opt.pdf?dl=0

easy

We have our plans and now are not happy with the plans

keep it simple

It makes me even more aware of how I should do this exercise with my mom. And enjoy it with her whileWe can still share.

Given I am far along in my ethical will, this is something I addressed and also did it in psychology class at Vanderbilt in 1974 (I feel old and young at the same time)

my apologies on leaving... prior commitment..kol hakavod to Erica for conducting this session...Michael Meyerstein

A great poem https://dashaccessandinclusion.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Dash-Poem-Printable.pdf

Our “goodbye” wishes — guidance for our funerals and burials — should reflect our values and contributes to our legacy.

I have discussed burial wishes with both of my living parents. My father wants a burial that violates Jewish practice that is important to me but not to him.

@Alex - I had the same issue with my mother...in the end I honored her wishes because it was exactly that her wishes. I remember my additional sadness at the time.

I always assumed as a single woman, that my kids would bury me in my family plot in NY, tho I live in CA.. I told me family that I was purchasing n advance ticket to NY, and was shocked to learn that they wanted me buried where I live, so they would have the comfort of my friends during Shiva. I have locally purchased a plot and the costs of burial and a memorial service.

Could Leigh Greenberg hold up his chart again about the future of Judaism

People also should specify if they want a Shomer to shepherd them to the grave with prayer.

In memory of my father, Michale Green

learning today in honor of my father Yakov Ben Shlomo v’ Fanya, Jack Grynberg

Appreciate link where one can possibly arrange to have Kaddish spoken for them ..

In memory of my mother, Arlene Bergman Rim, whose Yahrzeit is this week.

my religious name, i use in judaic venues, is so my great-grandmother’s name gets heard again among the children of israel

What is a house of mirth?

In memory of my grandparents who perished in the shoah and my parents and their first spouses who also perished in the Shoah

In memory of my Bubbie, Rebbetzin Malkah Bracha bat HaRav Yaacov Isaac v’Elkah Riva

Learning in memory of my paternal grandfather, George Sagan, born Gershon Liesenbaum in what is now South-East Ukraine.

A version of alternative life paths like Erica described is in the novel Midnight Library by Matt Haig. Very though provoking!

Here is a link to the document titled "Will Your Grandchildren be Jewish?" https://drive.google.com/file/d/108Yq1yhUdjRumemr3XDyLOADIiHxTrFP/view?usp=sharing

In honor of Rabbi April Davis, who is gently guiding my Jewish learning.

in memory of Eliyahu Liebel ben Meyer

in memory of my father jakov Ben Mordecai and my mother Tabel bat moshe velvel ha cohen

In memory of my parents, Evelyn and Max Gold and my paternal grandmother, Ruchla Goldmic who died in Treblinka in 1942. I was named after Ruchla.

https://jewishfuturepledge.org

if you have any questions about the pledge reach out to me josh@jewishjfuturepledge.org

Many communities through the local Federations have a Life & Legacy project that could tie into The Jewish Future Pledge nicely

Will you share that outline?

The Jewish Future Pledge and Life & Legacy are partners and we work in tandem sercuring the jewish future

Can you use load the document for us to download?

if you'd like to sign the pledge click the link here: https://www.jewishfuturepledge.org/JFNA

please put the link in the chat, looked again, and the handout i have is somehow truncated, thank you

mine is also not complete3

I’ve had a tree-sized plant for almost 40 yrs that just 10 yrs ago sprouted branches. I gave one to each of my children, and they cherish them.

Please put the link for your documents in the chat!!

Park district tennis championship medal

Ring I designed and wedding rings

My father’s creative home-made Haggadah - that we use and edit every year

dining room chandelier from my parents home

Object of significance: Kiddush cup given by my wife to me when we got married

Lion of Judah Pin

necklace

A medal I won in the Maccabi games in 1993 for tennis. My wedding bank is from my great grandmother who came from Kiev, and has been used in the three wedding ceremonies and is destined for my son as a family heirloom.

Home made hannukiah from ceramic fragments from a dig a Modiim obtained during family trip to Israel when our children were young.

object: my Bubbie's battered candle sticks on my table

My mom’s wedding ring and silver candle sticks that was buried in a tin can under the building in the ghetto

I am an embroiderer and have done a family tree sampler and a sampler of my life with objects related to my life called My Life in Black and White and Gold. My maiden name was Gold and I only used the colours black, white and gold.

Receiving a national Covenant award as an outstanding Jewish educator

my grandparents ketubah

my dads tefillin

my step dad boy scout merit badge.

Object of Significance - Candlesticks and Menorah and Jewish art including our Ketubah, and Tree of Life

My grandmother’s Shabbat candlesticks

Like to share also Hungarian escapee in 1956..child of survivors

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1xtd_6Ll3J89JIC5nV55EwpU9e-cC5Xzy/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=103409699515971819042&rtpof=true&sd=true

you can also find the document here: https://jewishfuturepledge.org/ethical-will/

Israel and my citizenship

Being married

Sunsets and sunrises

pets

Noodles and milk, food of choice when I was sick as a kid

butterflies, redbirds, sunflowers

My daughter’s chocolate chip cookies. holding hands. Our plum tree in bloom.

Israel Is my most significant place. I got to teach Hebrew to new slim from the former Soviet Union

Olim

hot showers, cool weather, fall leaves, our dogs, Nice Jewish Girls book, paperweights

Love 'the Broader Jewish communities" thanks.

Notes from pupils and college students thanking me for my presentation about surviving the Holocaust —I keep all the boxes of those notes

Please put the name of the book about Jewish Gratitude

https://www.amazon.com/Happier-Endings-Meditation-Life-Death/dp/1451649231

The author of the book about Jewish and Gratitude

you have to be a good friend to have good friends.

Don't ever give up your girlfriends for a relationship.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/opinion/lasting-friendships-secrets.html David Brooks

Do what you like

Importance of work balance::working to live vs living to work

Volunteer work as rewarding as a paid job

It was good.

powerful

There's a great song by Don Henley of Eagles fame called The Heart of the Matter. It's all about forgiveness. In the live version he says, this song took 40 years to write and 4 minutes to perform. I think it was a metaphor for having relationships that could be built up for many decades and then destroyed in 4 minutes by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. "To err is human, to forgive divine." I thought it was Shakespearean, but it was said by Alexander Pope.

Thank you Erica!

Thank you for your time & wisdom! And to all the wisdom of the participants.

Thank you for this terrific sharing of this information and process.

Thank you Erica and everyone who participated!!

I missed the first half. Appreciate deeply this half. thank you.

Thank you!

Thank you Today is my mom’s yahrzeit and there was no better way to honor her

Thank you.. deeply meaningful

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Thank you!

I missedthe 2nd half bc I was on CA time. So sorry.

thank you!!!

Amen, Erica, you’re a great teacher! Thank you!!

Erica, thanks so much for giving me a second experience to explore my ethical will. You are amazing!

Well done Erica. Thank you everyone for your input and comments.

erica@ericabrown.com

Erica, thank you for a great program very enlightening.