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Creating an Ethical Will with Dr. Erica Brown - Shared screen with speaker view
Paul Foldes
56:34
Wil recording be available to share later?
Lynda Walker
57:08
may i respond to alex?
Josh Schalk | Jewish Future Pledge
59:28
Here are some more options for sharing your story: https://jewishfuturepledge.org/sharing-your-story/
Paul Foldes
01:01:27
Any ethical wills from those perished in Holocaust? Am 2nd gen who grew up without grandparents..and my parents weren’t t emotionally babble to do even if so inclined..and mybfather didn’t leave any words of wisdom when he was dying
Paul Foldes
01:03:28
Ethical wills course like this as katalyst to motivate empower support 2nd gen? Who..how to connect with presenter today? Paul foldes..pfoldes@tikkunolam.org
Michael Meyerstein
01:15:11
there was a wonderful folksinging couple in the 70s and later: Joe & Penny Aaronson(sp?) who performed nationwide...one song was an eternal favorite of mine: All I Got Was WordsWhen I was young and fancy free,My folks had no fine clothes for me.All I got was words:Gott Zu Danken – Thank GodGott wet Geben – God will provideZoll men nor leben un sein Gezunt.We should only live and be healthy.When I was wont to travel far,They didn’t provide me with a car.All I got was words:Geh Gezunt – Go in healthGeh Pamelach – Go carefullyHab a glikliche reize – Have a safe trip.I wanted to increase my knowledge,But they couldn’t send me to college.All I got was words:Hab Seichel – Have common senseZei nicht ken nahr – Don’t be a foolToire is die beste achoire.Learning is its own best reward.The years have flown, the world has turned,Things I’ve forgotten, things I’ve learned,Yet I rememberZag dem emes – Tell the truthGih Tzedakah – Be charitableHab rachmonus – Have compassion
Susie Sorkin
01:18:46
Before my mother passed away, she had very specific instructions on her funeral - choosing her pall bearers (all women), who was to speak (not the rabbi, who was too long winded), what songs to sing, what shive would look like (she even said to her daughters - me and my sister - I know you will do a good job but I wish I could be there). We even met with the rabbi together with my mother and my siblings about what mourning would look like. It was incredibly reassuring to know her wishes.
SHARI HABER
01:19:40
In NJ, one can appoint a Funeral Agent to legally authorize that person to carry out your final/burial wishes.
Bob Russman-Halperin
01:19:45
Here are the beautiful letters written by Rabbi Dick Israel to his daughter at four different life transitions. They served as a model for my ethical will writing to my children: https://www.dropbox.com/s/xhapbtgji2mcm0o/Dick%20Israel-letters%20to%20daughter%20opt.pdf?dl=0
Meg Yacawych
01:27:43
easy
Lili kaufmann
01:28:23
We have our plans and now are not happy with the plans
Meg Yacawych
01:28:29
keep it simple
Martine Fleishman
01:29:30
It makes me even more aware of how I should do this exercise with my mom. And enjoy it with her whileWe can still share.
Stewart Flink
01:29:45
Given I am far along in my ethical will, this is something I addressed and also did it in psychology class at Vanderbilt in 1974 (I feel old and young at the same time)
Michael Meyerstein
01:31:13
my apologies on leaving... prior commitment..kol hakavod to Erica for conducting this session...Michael Meyerstein
Aviva Sapers
01:32:49
A great poem https://dashaccessandinclusion.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Dash-Poem-Printable.pdf
SHARI HABER
01:32:54
Our “goodbye” wishes — guidance for our funerals and burials — should reflect our values and contributes to our legacy.
Alex Sagan
01:34:08
I have discussed burial wishes with both of my living parents. My father wants a burial that violates Jewish practice that is important to me but not to him.
Ricky Arbron
01:36:35
@Alex - I had the same issue with my mother...in the end I honored her wishes because it was exactly that her wishes. I remember my additional sadness at the time.
Karolyn Rim Stein
01:39:22
I always assumed as a single woman, that my kids would bury me in my family plot in NY, tho I live in CA.. I told me family that I was purchasing n advance ticket to NY, and was shocked to learn that they wanted me buried where I live, so they would have the comfort of my friends during Shiva. I have locally purchased a plot and the costs of burial and a memorial service.
allen richmond
01:52:02
Could Leigh Greenberg hold up his chart again about the future of Judaism
SHARI HABER
01:53:04
People also should specify if they want a Shomer to shepherd them to the grave with prayer.
Robert Green
01:56:11
In memory of my father, Michale Green
stephen grynberg
01:56:53
learning today in honor of my father Yakov Ben Shlomo v’ Fanya, Jack Grynberg
Paul Foldes
01:57:39
Appreciate link where one can possibly arrange to have Kaddish spoken for them ..
Karolyn Rim Stein
01:57:41
In memory of my mother, Arlene Bergman Rim, whose Yahrzeit is this week.
Taibel
01:58:54
my religious name, i use in judaic venues, is so my great-grandmother’s name gets heard again among the children of israel
Lynda Walker
01:59:04
What is a house of mirth?
Paul Foldes
01:59:34
In memory of my grandparents who perished in the shoah and my parents and their first spouses who also perished in the Shoah
Nancy Sohn Swartz
02:00:42
In memory of my Bubbie, Rebbetzin Malkah Bracha bat HaRav Yaacov Isaac v’Elkah Riva
Alex Sagan
02:01:09
Learning in memory of my paternal grandfather, George Sagan, born Gershon Liesenbaum in what is now South-East Ukraine.
Bob Russman-Halperin
02:01:38
A version of alternative life paths like Erica described is in the novel Midnight Library by Matt Haig. Very though provoking!
Leigh Greenberg
02:02:14
Here is a link to the document titled "Will Your Grandchildren be Jewish?" https://drive.google.com/file/d/108Yq1yhUdjRumemr3XDyLOADIiHxTrFP/view?usp=sharing
Anne Silverman
02:02:21
In honor of Rabbi April Davis, who is gently guiding my Jewish learning.
Miriam Greenberg
02:02:29
in memory of Eliyahu Liebel ben Meyer
Cheryl Morris
02:02:41
in memory of my father jakov Ben Mordecai and my mother Tabel bat moshe velvel ha cohen
Rochelle Handelman
02:02:43
In memory of my parents, Evelyn and Max Gold and my paternal grandmother, Ruchla Goldmic who died in Treblinka in 1942. I was named after Ruchla.
Evan Bindelglass
02:04:37
https://jewishfuturepledge.org
Josh Schalk | Jewish Future Pledge
02:05:25
if you have any questions about the pledge reach out to me josh@jewishjfuturepledge.org
Ricky Arbron
02:06:33
Many communities through the local Federations have a Life & Legacy project that could tie into The Jewish Future Pledge nicely
SHARI HABER
02:07:23
Will you share that outline?
Josh Schalk | Jewish Future Pledge
02:07:26
The Jewish Future Pledge and Life & Legacy are partners and we work in tandem sercuring the jewish future
Alex Sagan
02:07:41
Can you use load the document for us to download?
Josh Schalk | Jewish Future Pledge
02:42:28
if you'd like to sign the pledge click the link here: https://www.jewishfuturepledge.org/JFNA
Taibel
02:43:16
please put the link in the chat, looked again, and the handout i have is somehow truncated, thank you
Ricky Arbron
02:48:34
mine is also not complete3
SHARI HABER
02:56:26
I’ve had a tree-sized plant for almost 40 yrs that just 10 yrs ago sprouted branches. I gave one to each of my children, and they cherish them.
Lynda Walker
02:57:29
Please put the link for your documents in the chat!!
Alex Sagan
03:00:18
Park district tennis championship medal
Jennifer Starr
03:00:18
Ring I designed and wedding rings
Michele Sackheim wein
03:00:24
My father’s creative home-made Haggadah - that we use and edit every year
Cheryl Morris
03:00:39
dining room chandelier from my parents home
Bob Russman-Halperin
03:00:43
Object of significance: Kiddush cup given by my wife to me when we got married
Lili kaufmann
03:01:05
Lion of Judah Pin
Miriam Greenberg
03:01:48
necklace
Stewart Flink
03:01:54
A medal I won in the Maccabi games in 1993 for tennis. My wedding bank is from my great grandmother who came from Kiev, and has been used in the three wedding ceremonies and is destined for my son as a family heirloom.
Michael Margolin
03:01:58
Home made hannukiah from ceramic fragments from a dig a Modiim obtained during family trip to Israel when our children were young.
Sara Rubinow Simon
03:02:05
object: my Bubbie's battered candle sticks on my table
henia lewin
03:02:05
My mom’s wedding ring and silver candle sticks that was buried in a tin can under the building in the ghetto
Rochelle Handelman
03:02:44
I am an embroiderer and have done a family tree sampler and a sampler of my life with objects related to my life called My Life in Black and White and Gold. My maiden name was Gold and I only used the colours black, white and gold.
henia lewin
03:04:19
Receiving a national Covenant award as an outstanding Jewish educator
joan rozansky
03:04:48
my grandparents ketubah
Susan Kramer
03:05:06
my dads tefillin
Susan Kramer
03:05:33
my step dad boy scout merit badge.
Marilyn Mesh
03:06:32
Object of Significance - Candlesticks and Menorah and Jewish art including our Ketubah, and Tree of Life
Nancy Sohn Swartz
03:06:48
My grandmother’s Shabbat candlesticks
Paul Foldes
03:08:34
Like to share also Hungarian escapee in 1956..child of survivors
Evan Bindelglass
03:09:08
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1xtd_6Ll3J89JIC5nV55EwpU9e-cC5Xzy/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=103409699515971819042&rtpof=true&sd=true
Josh Schalk | Jewish Future Pledge
03:10:05
you can also find the document here: https://jewishfuturepledge.org/ethical-will/
Lili kaufmann
03:10:54
Israel and my citizenship
Lili kaufmann
03:11:44
Being married
Robert Green
03:12:18
Sunsets and sunrises
Jennifer Starr
03:12:40
pets
stephen grynberg
03:12:42
Noodles and milk, food of choice when I was sick as a kid
joan rozansky
03:13:01
butterflies, redbirds, sunflowers
Susie Sorkin
03:13:38
My daughter’s chocolate chip cookies. holding hands. Our plum tree in bloom.
henia lewin
03:13:41
Israel Is my most significant place. I got to teach Hebrew to new slim from the former Soviet Union
henia lewin
03:13:56
Olim
Marilyn Mesh
03:14:01
hot showers, cool weather, fall leaves, our dogs, Nice Jewish Girls book, paperweights
Marilyn Mesh
03:16:08
Love 'the Broader Jewish communities" thanks.
henia lewin
03:16:16
Notes from pupils and college students thanking me for my presentation about surviving the Holocaust —I keep all the boxes of those notes
Marilyn Mesh
03:21:24
Please put the name of the book about Jewish Gratitude
Erica Brown
03:22:34
https://www.amazon.com/Happier-Endings-Meditation-Life-Death/dp/1451649231
Marilyn Mesh
03:23:07
The author of the book about Jewish and Gratitude
Susan Kramer
03:36:11
you have to be a good friend to have good friends.
Ricky Arbron
03:36:24
Don't ever give up your girlfriends for a relationship.
Ricky Arbron
03:38:18
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/opinion/lasting-friendships-secrets.html David Brooks
Lili kaufmann
03:40:44
Do what you like
Karolyn Rim Stein
03:41:59
Importance of work balance::working to live vs living to work
henia lewin
03:42:42
Volunteer work as rewarding as a paid job
Rochelle Handelman
04:01:24
It was good.
Susie Sorkin
04:01:44
powerful
Stewart Flink
04:02:02
There's a great song by Don Henley of Eagles fame called The Heart of the Matter. It's all about forgiveness. In the live version he says, this song took 40 years to write and 4 minutes to perform. I think it was a metaphor for having relationships that could be built up for many decades and then destroyed in 4 minutes by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. "To err is human, to forgive divine." I thought it was Shakespearean, but it was said by Alexander Pope.
Robert Green
04:07:14
Thank you Erica!
Susie Sorkin
04:07:30
Thank you for your time & wisdom! And to all the wisdom of the participants.
Joanne Hanik
04:07:30
Thank you for this terrific sharing of this information and process.
Bracha Zuriel
04:07:48
Thank you Erica and everyone who participated!!
Marilyn Mesh
04:07:52
I missed the first half. Appreciate deeply this half. thank you.
Paul Foldes
04:07:56
Thank you!
joan rozansky
04:08:25
Thank you Today is my mom’s yahrzeit and there was no better way to honor her
Marilyn Mesh
04:08:27
Thank you.. deeply meaningful
Josh Schalk | Jewish Future Pledge
04:08:29
On behalf of the Jewish Future Pledge thank you! Take the pledge: https://www.jewishfuturepledge.org/JFNA
Bob Russman-Halperin
04:08:43
Thank you!
Meg Yacawych
04:08:49
I missedthe 2nd half bc I was on CA time. So sorry.
Sue Worrel
04:08:50
thank you!!!
Nancy Sohn Swartz
04:08:54
Amen, Erica, you’re a great teacher! Thank you!!
RICKI Rosenberg
04:08:54
Erica, thanks so much for giving me a second experience to explore my ethical will. You are amazing!
Stewart Flink
04:09:21
Well done Erica. Thank you everyone for your input and comments.
Erica Brown
04:09:35
erica@ericabrown.com
Gerri Richmond
04:09:50
Erica, thank you for a great program very enlightening.