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Amisha
02:22
Hi everyone :) my mike isn't working but excited to be here
Jhon LeBaron
03:28
There is a lot of background noise. Or is that just me hearing it?
Brenda Rueda
03:49
there was, yes
cheryl
04:02
Im just finding voice abit quiet
Isabel van der Vlugt
04:19
Can everyone mute themselves please? :)
Amisha
05:56
I blamed myself as I was mad at myself for no letting go and ruminating so much
Amisha
06:15
and that I got myself stressed so much when it could of been prevented
Gabrielle Grode
06:38
It started when I was a little kid handling traumatizing situations…hmm this question gives me compassion for myself
marlena
06:52
I blamed myself when I did not push myself enough to do exposures and leave my comfort zone
Gabrielle Grode
08:38
Yes I do blame myself for more recent behaviors which only made it worse
Christopher Dancy
08:55
I dont’ think it’s blame but responsibility
Melissa Zurick
09:02
Aida can you let me in on my phone becuase i can't talk on my computer
Amisha
09:03
I wish I had nipped it in the bud so it wouldn't have turned into a panic attack
Brenda Rueda
09:12
welcome
Melissa Zurick
10:46
Can someone tell Aida let me in on my phone so I can speak
Christopher Dancy
13:02
@Melissa I raised my hand to ask but she is just calling on other people
Christopher Dancy
13:11
I’m sorry, if I get Calle don I will ask
Melissa Zurick
14:23
ok thsnk you@@
Araceli's iPhone
22:25
I blame myself for being weak and get sick frequently all my life ... for letting the doctors scare me ... for not knowing what anxiety is ... for scaring my family and my husband, for being a burden for my family, for not taking good care of my self, for working 60-70 hours a week, for not looking for ways to relieve my stress, for sleeping 4-5 hours a day, for staying at a job that was hell just to prove myself I was strong enough to work with dangerous people, etc ... etc ...
Melissa Zurick
22:39
So happy for you!
Tina
23:02
Thank you so much for sharing Alexander. It is so encouraging. My big thing is Self-critics in a negative way that I am really having a hard time with - forgiveness of how I treat myself.
Jhon LeBaron
23:43
Thank you for sharing!
Malin Håkansson
23:45
Araceli I hear ya, I too blame myself for being weak all the time. Don’t even know what is weak and what I normal anymore.
Malin Håkansson
23:58
And thank you Alexander for sharing!
Stella Lopez
24:06
What an amazing journey! Thank you for sharing with us.
Brenda Rueda
24:07
thank you Alex!
Emma A
24:14
Thank you for that, Alex
cheryl
24:30
Thanks Alexander. Very inspiring. Thanks for sharing. All the best to you x
Erin
25:44
Love that so much
Tina
33:48
I am expecting to be anxious free so thank you for sharing that. I'll continue using the tools.
Tina
34:22
knowing that I may have my morning anxiety (ups down).
Jhon LeBaron
34:38
I’m expecting to be anxious free and DPDR free as well. Hearing that it’ll never go away creates even more anxiety and a feeling of hopelessness.
Tina
35:14
for me too Jhon. It is a bit scary for me that I cannot wake up anxiety free.
Malin Håkansson
35:26
I feel like you, John and Tina! It feels hopeless.
Brenda
35:35
Well remember he is saying he is not fully recovered! We WILL be anxiety free!!!
cheryl
35:39
hmm.. iI feel like that, but listen to what he is saying. He can so much live with this . Its really wonderful
Brenda
35:39
💪
Stephanie Conley
35:44
Never say never. Hope and trust are antidotes to anxiety. A curious open mind that maybe it will maybe it won’t I this is Alex’s message.
Tina
35:54
Thank you Brenda.
marlena
36:02
Hi, DPDR is my biggest struggle right now too. I am trying to accept that it might not go away, but my goal is to be okay with that and carry on with life despite the scary feelings
Erin
36:17
Also remember, if you’re going to feel anxiety you might as well have a positive attitude and live then sit there and stare at it
Melissa Zurick
36:17
Life is never anxious free there are going to be hard times but I think in general my goal is to mostly be free of these sensations and when they do come just see it as a oh well, who gives a fuck!
Tina
36:36
Thank you Erin.
Malin Håkansson
37:11
I had DPDR about 10 years ago and it did go away. It can happen! Now I only experience it momentarily and it doesn’t scare me anymore so it goes away again.
Stella Lopez
37:46
What is dpdr?
Jhon LeBaron
37:56
Depersonalization/derealization
Brenda
37:58
I experience DPR too but as anxiety subsides so does the DPR.
Stella Lopez
38:04
Ok thank you
Jhon LeBaron
40:02
I’d agree mindset is huge. Thinking differently has really helped me to start learning to be ok with these symptoms. But to think I’ll still feel this way for the rest of my life is not how I want to live. Maybe I need to change how I’m approaching or the expectations I’m setting for myself.
Brenda
40:44
John, how about being okay with " this is what I feel for now"
Tina
41:25
Doesn't always work, but I say to myself - One day at a time. That's all we have the right now. Like Brenda says: Oh well this is how I feel today, I can still go and do THIS/THAT while feeling this way.
Brenda
42:25
Yes, don't overwhelm yourself with "always"
Jordan Stutz
42:27
What if some of those things trigger a panic response?Like for me, unfortunately, walking will sometimes trigger that. I guess it's a matter of finding other things you enjoy that may not trigger that...or exposure therapy :D
Tina
42:50
IT is so encouraging Alexander that practicing and refocusing does eventually help.
Kavitha
47:00
This has been really enlightening for me. I sometimes feel like it’s so much easier just to hold on to things and hold grudges even thought it causes me pain but things like forgiveness is a difficult concept for me. I sometimes feel like I’m actually afraid of letting go because that would make me happy and that scares me
Tina
47:57
I get that Kavitha - I am so used to feeling a certain way, what will happen when I let it go?
Malin Håkansson
48:14
Me too Tina and Kavitha
marlena
48:28
I like to believe that my parents tried the best they could. They probably were struggling too but didn't have the support that we have today
Kavitha
49:52
I also like to believe that my parents just didn’t know anything different. It makes it much easier to approach them with kindness
Erin
50:02
Definitely
Araceli's iPhone
50:14
I blamed my Dad when I was put on the mental unit for a few days ... he came to visit me and told me “I know you think what’s going on with you it’s my fault but it isn’t .... I’m sorry for what you are going thru ... I never imagined that such smart, hardworking, strong and loving person could go thru this”
Katya Bilyk
55:46
I have to go too. Running an work meeting at 1pm. Thank you all so much.
Katya Bilyk
55:52
I'm excited to show myself love. :)
Abbie Herring
01:03:09
I’m here but I can’t turn on my audio today. Can only listen while I work
Tina
01:16:20
Thank you so much Sue and my other group member. It was an amazing conversation.
Tina
01:16:38
I have to leave, but thank you again for these calls and group calls.
Sue Weinstock
01:17:05
thank you you were both so supportive
Benita Bell
01:22:53
Thanks Collin and Chris! You both were wonderful I appreciated your perspective and feedback.
Benita Bell
01:22:59
Colins
Benita Bell
01:23:12
Collins😊
Emma A
01:23:19
I have to leave but thank you for today.
Malin Håkansson
01:23:34
Thank you group Emma and Andrew, amazing how much hope I feel already talking to you guys. Would have loved to continue. Things are looking bright.
andrewjohnson
01:24:18
Keep up the good work
Gabrielle Grode
01:25:48
Really enjoyed it! encouraging
cheryl
01:26:14
Thank you so much to everyone -