Zoom Logo

Varsha Subramanyam's Personal Meeting Room - Shared screen with gallery view
knina
52:51
knina she her Charlotte nc
Cyndy Schalter
59:19
great tribute to a great man.
Varsha Subramanyam
01:00:54
What does “gender” mean to you?
Anna Wallin(she/her)NCCASA
01:01:39
one sphere of self expression
Varsha Subramanyam
01:07:19
How do you experience your own gender?
Varsha Subramanyam
01:09:17
Just a heads up, the video is a little loud and sharp. Please consider adjusting the volume to match what feels comfortable for you.
Christy Croft (they/them)
01:12:39
That's perfect! lol
Leah Taraskiewicz (she/her) UNC IPRC
01:12:42
the binary is so sad!
Rebecca Swofford (she/her/hers)
01:13:06
in my head there was a sad slide whistle sound to go with the animation
Varsha Subramanyam
01:14:30
What is one way the gender binary has limited you from being yourself or doing what was authentic to you?
Jessamyn Bowling (she/her)
01:15:05
Sexuality - I show up as less authentic and more femme like porn tropes. Having to unlearn some BS
Anna Wallin(she/her)NCCASA
01:15:34
socialized to care-take others over my own needs
Christy Croft (they/them)
01:15:39
Growing up, I didn't have models for what stable family/parenting looked like that weren't infused with binary gender normativity
knina
01:15:50
felt I wasn’t female attracted to gay males though not straight
Rebecca Swofford (she/her/hers)
01:16:01
I was taught to be "lady-like" as a child which came with it many restrictions around attire, politeness, the amount of space I take, and subservience
Kristina Claude
01:16:03
Worried about being assertive/apologizing/making disclosures before stating my opinion bc women should be soft
Christy Croft (they/them)
01:16:07
Which having grown up with a more unstable family life and wanting something stable for my kids meant I was especially adrift
Amy O'Regan (she/her)
01:16:28
being female makes me aspire to marriage even if that's not what I actually want
Madison Burke
01:16:30
Fairly narrow expected life-path:-dating-->marriage-->childbearing being seen as paramount
Brandon Taylor
01:16:49
Having that mentality to not cry in public because it's not what men are suppose to do.
Emily Howe
01:16:51
To follow attire and general gender presentation, cutting or growing my hair a certain way
Robert Knelson
01:16:51
feeling limited by gender stereotypes associated with the gender binary. like as a kid I did gymnastics which was at times frowned upon
Joy Shaver
01:16:52
Growing up I was told that I needed to stay at home and raise children. This always sounded like a bad plan for my life.
Varsha Subramanyam
01:18:03
Thank you all for your responses and sharing
Leah Taraskiewicz (she/her) UNC IPRC
01:19:13
yes, thank you all. so powerful
Leah Taraskiewicz (she/her) UNC IPRC
01:21:33
dean spade <3 <3
Leah Taraskiewicz (she/her) UNC IPRC
01:22:34
If you want to learn more, here's Dean Spade's book about administrative violence: https://www.dukeupress.edu/normal-life-revised
Christy Croft (they/them)
01:27:44
I had a question on the last section
Varsha Subramanyam
01:29:42
Just a heads up again, the video is a little loud and sharp. Please consider adjusting the volume to match what feels comfortable for you.
Sarah Murray
01:31:12
yes Christy do you want to type it or you can use your voice to share after this video?
Madison Burke
01:34:43
The FX series Pose (on Netflix) is a great series set in the NYC ballroom culture of late 80s/early 90s
Robert Knelson
01:35:05
yes! I was thinking of Pose also. Excellent series.
Amy O'Regan (she/her)
01:35:12
Yes! Love Pose!
Christy Croft (they/them)
01:36:15
Thank you!
Beth Moracco (she/her)
01:36:25
If you want to learn more about voguing and the ballroom scene I highly recommend the series "Pose" on FX and Netflix.
Beth Moracco (she/her)
01:37:08
Haha--Madison and I had the same thought! My son and I have watched both seasons of Pose and love it.
Beth Moracco (she/her)
01:37:46
https://www.fxnetworks.com/shows/pose
Beth Moracco (she/her)
01:38:21
https://www.netflix.com/title/80241986
Lucas Vrbsky
01:43:16
really appreciate the information. am sorry will not be able to participate in the last hour. Peace and Blessings
Sarah Murray
01:45:55
no worries @Lucas! glad you could be here!
Sarah Murray
01:46:27
and yes to the POSE recommendation! <3
Amy O'Regan (she/her)
01:55:38
Normalize trans identities through positive and authentic portrayals in the media
Christy Croft (they/them)
01:56:08
I love this slide. Also thinking in terms of DV/SA prevention how the official response is to make sure we include a handful of same-sex examples in our role plays or scenarios or use "gender-neutral" names, where as the critical approach means we have to interrogate our frameworks and systems to see where the actual frameworks might need to be shifted or made bigger.
Jessamyn Bowling (she/her)
01:56:11
Community safety groups in which communities take care of each other - the “we keep us safe” idea behind defunding police
Amy O'Regan (she/her)
01:56:11
Yes - this is a super interesting slide
Madison Burke
01:57:03
moving from carceral state to restorative justice practices
Joy Shaver
01:57:56
training all doctors to provide quality care, just access to medical care isn't enough. Doctor not believing or not listening makes access to health care actually harmful.
Anna Wallin(she/her)NCCASA
01:58:08
practices focused on reducing transphobia on a cultural level in a general way would decrease desire for hate crime perpetration
Emily Howe
01:58:51
Prioritize up stream and systematic violence prevention and respect programming and policies
Christy Croft (they/them)
01:58:53
decriminalizing survival
Varsha Subramanyam
01:59:27
Thank you so much for sharing these ideas!
Alyssa Kitlas
02:02:37
Agreed-these are really amazing ideas! Christy, I love the framing of decriminalizing survival. Thanks for sharing!
Varsha Subramanyam
02:07:44
What challenges have you experienced (or anticipate experiencing) when trying to engage trans communities in your work?
Christy Croft (they/them)
02:08:06
The amount of labor trans people are expected to provide to get the nonprofit up to speed or inclusive once the partnership begins
Madison Burke
02:08:21
DV being seen/portrayed as something experienced by cis, straight women
Jessamyn Bowling (she/her)
02:08:55
It’s easier to identify and form relationships with white-led trans orgs here (not least of which because I’m white) - orgs led by and for folx of color are more unstable and less funded (because oppression).
Quisha Mallette She/Her
02:09:02
getting org leadership on board with engaging trans communities as a priority to begin with
Robert Knelson
02:09:20
Sometimes communities and people do not want to engage or discuss solutions because I work for a police department. and its a challenge to be able to help if people will not engage or discuss at all.
Christy Croft (they/them)
02:09:42
Nonprofits or projects wanting to be trans-inclusive but who approach it by addressing ISSUE + TRANS, rather than incorporating trans inclusivity into the issue or population itself.
Agnieszka McCort
02:10:30
Unrealistic timelines to develop meaningful partnerships and produce materials in grant funded projects, specifically when formative work hasn't yet been completed. Partnership takes time!
Leah Taraskiewicz (she/her) UNC IPRC
02:11:02
+++
Varsha Subramanyam
02:11:20
Thank you all for sharing- these are such real and critical challenges
Varsha Subramanyam
02:18:16
This is so IMPORTANT
Leah Taraskiewicz (she/her) UNC IPRC
02:21:02
deeply appreciate that comment, raye
Quisha Mallette She/Her
02:21:10
+++
Anna Wallin(she/her)NCCASA
02:21:14
what is the context within which we should NOT reach out to trans communities?
Amy O'Regan (she/her)
02:21:27
yeah can you repeat that
Jessamyn Bowling (she/her)
02:21:53
With thinking about interpersonal as leading to societal - do we expect then that the interpersonal change will then filter into systemic change?
Robert Knelson
02:21:59
I largely agree. One of the first things I did was create a resource sheet of many organizations that are not my own that can be used or accessed.
Anna Wallin(she/her)NCCASA
02:23:43
yes, thank you
Jessamyn Bowling (she/her)
02:24:59
Thanks Raye!
Varsha Subramanyam
02:25:12
Thank you all for engaging in that conversation
Quisha Mallette She/Her
02:32:09
engage + respect + validate
Varsha Subramanyam
02:35:40
Based on this checklist, how is your organization doing?
Varsha Subramanyam
02:36:08
Does your organization:have gender neutral bathrooms?include pronouns in introductions and email/letter signature lines asroutine practice?have health insurance that covers transition-related care?have gender-neutral HR policies, including policies about work attire?have HR policies that explicitly list gender expression as a protected class?Are protections enforceable?
Agnieszka McCort
02:46:20
Thank you for your work! I have to leave now.