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Dare Advanced Members Call - Shared screen with speaker view
Liz
05:00
Great to be able to join live and see everyone - I'm in Australia and it doesn't happen very often that I can do this!
Lisa Frattini
05:26
Hi Liz!!
Jhon LeBaron
05:26
Awesome you can make it today!
Jhon LeBaron
07:54
Welcome!
grahampritchard
08:36
I’m going to leave and come back in something happened with my sound.
Lisa Frattini
11:18
Hi Mary, so nice to see you <3
Mary Horzempa
12:35
Nice to see you too Lisa!
jackieputnam
16:42
Debbie Downer tries to protect us from disappointment.
Kathy R.
17:58
Hi Dave!!
davesimons
18:36
Hi Kathy and all !!
Kathy R.
19:23
nice to see you again😊
davesimons
19:43
Good to be back.
Liz
19:45
She thinks she's keeping us safe
Gabrielle Grode
24:23
facing it = going about your life with or without it
grahampritchard
24:45
I think it’s the difference between observing it and identifying with it.
Liz
24:59
You've got to let her be there
Liz
25:18
Whether she's there or not, you're going to go about your business
davesimons
29:20
I’m never crying over the Notebook again
Lomas Sharma
29:30
Thinking about the thought makes you feel like you’re staying vigilant (to prevent the “what if” from happening). But I think it just ends up reinforcing the thought… and therefore stuck in the cycle.
Christopher Dancy
31:07
I struggle with “Listen to Your Body” and “Ignore Your Mind”
carol christie
32:07
I agree Lomas, I think it is also preparing for the worst so we won't be surprised when the worst happens.
Lomas Sharma
32:31
@carol - yes, agree!
alfredogodinez
33:35
Treating the thought as irrelevant is what works. There are many different ways to do that. Whether you say “Oh fucking well” or “Who cares” or “That’s just anxiety” it works. Train yourself to not engage the thought as important. You can acknowledge it but there is a line between engaging and acknowledging it. The difference I think is your emotional reaction. One is reacting with fear and anxiety hence alarm and the other is just acknowledgment but overall non-importance.
grahampritchard
34:10
Assertiveness perhaps?
Liz
35:56
Yes - ASSERTIVENESS. You are doing this, and I AM DOING THIS.
Liz
38:43
Alfredo - irrelevance. Totally!
Erin
46:04
Damn it Michelle lol
Kathy R.
46:32
lol I hear you Erin!
alfredogodinez
46:48
So true it is always cancer and heart attacks and death
alfredogodinez
46:54
Never just gas or a pain lol
davesimons
46:56
LoL. Brace yourself
Jhon LeBaron
47:25
That was really good!
Araceli's iPhone
47:52
Chris- You described exactly what I feel .... When I listen to my noisy body ... I go back to my crazy mind... it’s hard
grahampritchard
47:53
Thanks that’s really good
alfredogodinez
49:02
Its how you react to your noisy body
jackieputnam
49:45
I treat sad with Ben and Jerry’s ice cream...
alfredogodinez
50:01
Do you watch The Notebook too?
Steven Di Nino
50:04
😂😂
jackieputnam
50:06
Yup.
alfredogodinez
50:23
nice
Erin
50:26
Do you dare through grief anxiety?
alfredogodinez
50:48
Grief anxiety?
alfredogodinez
51:02
Being afraid of being sad?
Erin
51:11
Like I have horrible anxiety after losing my dog and I don’t know why
alfredogodinez
51:20
That’s grief
davesimons
51:24
You are allowed to grieve …
alfredogodinez
51:26
Don’t fight it
Erin
52:14
I just don’t understand why it’s heightening my anxiety
alfredogodinez
52:33
Are you fighting your grief?
grahampritchard
52:43
It’s stressful and it will release some stress hormones I gather.
jackieputnam
52:44
Erin, I think anxiety increases when we’re trying not to feel big emotions.
alfredogodinez
53:55
right on cue
alfredogodinez
54:10
Michelle talking about it right now
grahampritchard
54:11
I’d like to hear more about “protect”. Thats what I feel my DP/DR is.
Erin
54:38
I’m not fighting my feelings they’re just like coming up with more anxiety and I don’t know why
davesimons
55:14
We give you permission to feel sad
Amy's Ipad
55:40
I agree Erin
grahampritchard
56:04
I think it’s just like exercise, sadness is just a stress on your system and will effect your anxiety because it’s an exhausting physical process.
Erin
57:36
Thank you guys ❤️
Christopher Dancy
57:59
Comfort can’t be a goal
Erin
01:05:34
amen
Liz
01:10:49
Forgive your anxiety. Forgive YOURSELF for having anxiety
Erin
01:11:14
I love that
Lisa Frattini
01:11:41
perfect analogy
Erin
01:13:33
😂😂😂😂😂
Jhon LeBaron
01:17:48
It’s a great shift in focus!
alfredogodinez
01:17:57
Gratitude work helps
alfredogodinez
01:18:17
There are always good things in every day. We forget. Don’t let yourself forget. Gratitude.
grahampritchard
01:18:51
Gratitude reminds me life is good even with anxiety.
Jhon LeBaron
01:20:02
Yes
Benita Bell
01:22:12
Amen
Lomas Sharma
01:22:21
Well said
Tina
01:22:33
I am looking forward getting to that place.
jackieputnam
01:22:35
Yes, and the paradox is this- when you don’t care about whether or not the anxiety is there, you’re freed up to care more deeply about things that really matter.
Benita Bell
01:22:50
Well said Jackie
grahampritchard
01:23:07
I told my principal at my annual year in review meeting, that this year was really hard and I’m looking forward to less anxiety next year. It was really hard for me to say it, but I decided for the first time in perhaps ever to vulnerable rather than have all my Armor on. I saw sympathy and concern in her eyes. I ended up crying, but I think in the end it really was a step I needed to take in learning how to surrender and be vulnerable to others and to situations. To not always be in control.
Liz
01:23:57
Araceli - I remember the grocery store being very challenging when I was highly, highly anxious. The colours. The lights. Everything seemed like too much - like things were coming towards me. It's just your body on high volume - go spaghetti and let it wash over you.
Tina
01:24:02
Huge step Graham. That is not easy.
Benita Bell
01:24:14
Graham so proud you did that! There’s the power in vulnerability
grahampritchard
01:25:19
Thank you
MARIA G
01:25:50
great job Graham 👏
Jhon LeBaron
01:26:06
Great call guys. Thank you everyone for your awesome input!
Araceli's iPhone
01:26:19
Liz—I’m trying ... but I think I’m doing it wrong.
Amy's Ipad
01:26:37
Great job Graham.
Liz
01:26:44
Araceli - I'll send you a message on facebook
Erin
01:29:15
Aww I love that Kathy
Tina
01:30:10
That is so true Kathy - I will use that - I am grateful for my anxiety because brings out my empathy for other people.
jackieputnam
01:30:31
Kathy- business idea- grocery stores for anxiety sufferers! Barry’s voice over the intercom. Lots of boxes of spaghetti. Dimmer lights. Wider aisles. Fewer selections.
Lisa Frattini
01:30:43
Kathy, if you rebrand as a grocery store for Anxious People, you'll have an unending line out the door
grahampritchard
01:30:52
I see it in my students every single day.
Jhon LeBaron
01:30:54
I blame social media and the “highlight” reel
Kathy R.
01:30:58
yes! I think so too!
Lisa Frattini
01:31:00
best business idea ever
Katya
01:31:05
I'd shop at that grocery store!
Lomas Sharma
01:31:07
Lol!
grahampritchard
01:31:20
Agreed Jhon. Completely agreed
Liz
01:33:11
Comparing your behind the scenes to someone's highlights reel - that's social media!
grahampritchard
01:33:12
Taking facebook off my phone is one of the best things I’ve done for myself this year.
Erin
01:33:57
I deleted all social media a year ago and if changed my life. I have Facebook for dare because I need y’all lol
alfredogodinez
01:34:12
Im currently banned from Facebook
Erin
01:34:49
Did you decide that?
grahampritchard
01:34:52
Same Erin, I actually have only about 10 positive people I follow. I use it for DARE and some other groups, but that’s it.
Erin
01:35:05
It’s life changing
Lisa Frattini
01:35:43
1000x yes
Liz
01:36:08
Have to run - so great to participate and see you all!
Jhon LeBaron
01:36:34
I have to go as well. Thanks guys!! Great call!
grahampritchard
01:36:35
Yes. The focus is on Math and Literacy where I live, but it’s like looking at the roof of a house without noticing the foundation (mental health) is crumbling.
Abbie
01:36:44
I have to hop off, but this was a great call, and it was great to see everyone!
Tina
01:38:52
Good night everyone, thank you for the call.
grahampritchard
01:38:58
Thanks everyone
Emma A
01:39:01
Goodnight. Thank you!
Victor Sofia
01:39:17
nice call. Thanks
Benita Bell
01:39:49
Wonderful group! Have a wonderful night
Lomas Sharma
01:40:07
Thanks everyone!