Im sorry I missed last session. Regarding Praise, I do remember that from Week 1 and have noticed myself trying more positive reinforcement and it does improve her mood and lengthens times between outbursts.

I have seen myself in all four quadrants!

Can you explain more the difference between Authoritarin vs. Authoritative. Key praises to implement?

Nope

I think the hardest part about implementing any routine (in my case) is that I have trouble implementing routines in general

My son doesn't have homework

My kids are not old enough to have a HW routine. I mean, not enough HW or no HW at all

I have the same problem with routines as carry

Implementing routines in general is extremely difficult. For example, if we get off track (due to emotional reaction) and have a hard time getting back on track.

@Julia, not sure if you have any problems with dressing, but one tip that I got from a friend about morning routine that helped us: let the child choose the clothes the night before.

My son likes to argue about the reasons for rules

I have a question about the negotiation aspect

Making the negotiation about something besides “I want” vs “you want” has been effective

Like being late is not respectful or nice to our friends or the activity we’re doing.

We had a lesson that we were running late for and they didn’t want to disappoint their teacher

Thank you. This is very useful specific example.

9 am on Saturdays is when all 3 of us do the general household cleaning

I am having difficulty getting my husband to support the routines

We start by making a list of everything that needs to be cleaned.

Like I said earlier, I have trouble implementing routines

I can come up with them pretty well, but it wasn't until I learned to tell my husband that he needs to take part in implementing them, that they started getting off the ground

I was typing fast, it wasn't as simple as saying "you need to do this"

But gaining the self-awareness of my own limitations and being able to express what I need from others in order to implement them has been helpful

How do we get in touch with Nandini and Catherine? I know we need to know this information but it isn't a good time for L and I can't pay attention right now. We are trying to watch this together but it isn't working.

@Casey, There are such great points! Thank you so much

@Julia, I believe that Mary has access to the recordings of these sessions. I wonder if those might also be helpful?

Yes, this week has been recorded and it will be sent to you tomorrow.

Do you think the tangible rewards through stickers or points are helpful for routines? I feel like my kids get disheartened or don’t care for the week if they miss out on a Monday.

Absolutely! Some children are very responsive to stickers. Each day can be a new opportunity to earn rewards

Let's give Lenora some positive attention for calming down. :)

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Our 7 year old ( who has ADHD) responds really well to money, the reward for something we want her to do is $1 and we try and make a longer term goals or internalized goals by saying well double the money at the end of the week/month if she does chores or other things in her own initiative