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The Incredible Years Program - Shared screen with speaker view
Julia Zimmer
38:53
Im sorry I missed last session. Regarding Praise, I do remember that from Week 1 and have noticed myself trying more positive reinforcement and it does improve her mood and lengthens times between outbursts.
Julie Gozan (she/her)
39:06
I have seen myself in all four quadrants!
Julia Zimmer
42:21
Can you explain more the difference between Authoritarin vs. Authoritative. Key praises to implement?
Julia Zimmer
47:00
Nope
Casey Necheles
47:10
I think the hardest part about implementing any routine (in my case) is that I have trouble implementing routines in general
Casey Necheles
47:19
My son doesn't have homework
Paula Sanematsu
47:43
My kids are not old enough to have a HW routine. I mean, not enough HW or no HW at all
Victoria Spinanger
47:50
I have the same problem with routines as carry
Julia Zimmer
48:47
Implementing routines in general is extremely difficult. For example, if we get off track (due to emotional reaction) and have a hard time getting back on track.
Paula Sanematsu
55:00
@Julia, not sure if you have any problems with dressing, but one tip that I got from a friend about morning routine that helped us: let the child choose the clothes the night before.
Casey Necheles
55:20
My son likes to argue about the reasons for rules
Casey Necheles
01:00:18
I have a question about the negotiation aspect
Ryan McCarthy
01:03:33
Making the negotiation about something besides “I want” vs “you want” has been effective
Ryan McCarthy
01:04:38
Like being late is not respectful or nice to our friends or the activity we’re doing.
Ryan McCarthy
01:05:27
We had a lesson that we were running late for and they didn’t want to disappoint their teacher
Julia Zimmer
01:09:52
Thank you. This is very useful specific example.
Casey Necheles
01:13:56
9 am on Saturdays is when all 3 of us do the general household cleaning
Victoria Spinanger
01:14:28
I am having difficulty getting my husband to support the routines
Casey Necheles
01:14:49
We start by making a list of everything that needs to be cleaned.
Casey Necheles
01:17:13
Like I said earlier, I have trouble implementing routines
Casey Necheles
01:17:44
I can come up with them pretty well, but it wasn't until I learned to tell my husband that he needs to take part in implementing them, that they started getting off the ground
Casey Necheles
01:18:05
I was typing fast, it wasn't as simple as saying "you need to do this"
Casey Necheles
01:18:55
But gaining the self-awareness of my own limitations and being able to express what I need from others in order to implement them has been helpful
Julia Zimmer
01:19:48
How do we get in touch with Nandini and Catherine? I know we need to know this information but it isn't a good time for L and I can't pay attention right now. We are trying to watch this together but it isn't working.
Nandini Jhawar
01:20:16
@Casey, There are such great points! Thank you so much
Nandini Jhawar
01:20:39
@Julia, I believe that Mary has access to the recordings of these sessions. I wonder if those might also be helpful?
mary lisa wade
01:21:19
Yes, this week has been recorded and it will be sent to you tomorrow.
Ryan McCarthy
01:22:56
Do you think the tangible rewards through stickers or points are helpful for routines? I feel like my kids get disheartened or don’t care for the week if they miss out on a Monday.
Nandini Jhawar
01:23:53
Absolutely! Some children are very responsive to stickers. Each day can be a new opportunity to earn rewards
Julia Zimmer
01:37:14
Let's give Lenora some positive attention for calming down. :)
Nandini Jhawar
01:39:17
👏👏
Ryan McCarthy
01:44:56
Our 7 year old ( who has ADHD) responds really well to money, the reward for something we want her to do is $1 and we try and make a longer term goals or internalized goals by saying well double the money at the end of the week/month if she does chores or other things in her own initiative