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Supporting Single Parents during COVID: Strategies, Resources, Tools with Maranda Ahlfeld - Shared screen with speaker view
Katthe Wolf
28:58
Hi, Katthe, Evanston, IL!
Tamara Castonguay
29:15
Hi Everyone, Tami from Lititz, PA... beautiful, cool, Autumn day here!
Colette Masty
29:29
Hi from Michigan
Jessica Lopez
29:33
Hello, my name is Jessica, and I am from California!
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Marci Kennedy
30:07
It is beautiful here..
Dawna Hulet
30:09
Dawna Hulet Mesa AZ
Rita Grilho
32:28
Happy AL🌺HA FriYaY!! Rita from O’ahu Hawai’i
Rita Grilho
32:57
agree 💯
Dawna Hulet
33:02
agree
Tamara Castonguay
33:04
I agree!
Elda Torres
33:29
I agree
Jessica Lopez
33:29
I agree
Marci Kennedy
33:30
I agree
Colette Masty
33:32
agree
Dorothie Durosier
33:45
I AGREE
Lauren Palmerin
35:54
I provide services to mainly single parent families, and I am excited to see how to change what I do to best support them! Thank you for this opportunity
Silvia Barban
38:07
Hello, goodmorning, Silvia Barban
Anne Williams
38:16
Anne Williams
Anne Williams
38:23
I Agree
Katthe Wolf
43:07
Our Family Wizard
Tamara Castonguay
48:22
Some clients who might be able to take advantage of the non-custodial parent being home during pandemic do not approach the topic with the other parent, because if the other parent has the children more, they will want to pay less in child support, and single-moms generally can't afford that.
Tamara Castonguay
50:40
Absolutely!
Tamara Castonguay
51:22
Same Katthe! hehe
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Tamara Castonguay
59:43
That's a hot topic, many have trouble not picking up when the other party calls. I frequently have conversations with clients about boundaries, and the importance of my client then respecting the boundaries themselves!
Anne Williams
01:00:04
Don't mistake meekness for weakness
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01:00:56
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Lauren Palmerin
01:01:43
Most of my participants do not have that other parent's involvment or support. How do we support these single parents who are not coparenting?
Tamara Castonguay
01:02:31
I see a lot of co-dependent behavior in the population we serve. It isn't easy when you are in that frame of mind. But when I work with them, and they finally break past it, it is really such a great think to witness!
Tamara Castonguay
01:04:13
I think that question can go in a couple of directions... does that parent WANT the other parents involvement?
Lauren Palmerin
01:05:19
I am thinking of parents who have no coparent and are not looking for that coparent. Maybe the other parent is incarcerated or toxic
Tamara Castonguay
01:05:32
My ex had disappeared for several years, and those years were much more peaceful than the ones after he resurfaced and wanted to then get back into the kids' lives.
Dorothie Durosier
01:05:37
How to help parent break from being too co-dependent on their child?
Lindsey Hackney
01:05:43
How can we support low-income single parents who need, but are not receiving, child support from the other parent?
Tamara Castonguay
01:06:41
I think helping parents identify their other natural support. I relied on my parents for help with childcare, and other things.
Anne Williams
01:07:34
Agree the circle of support is often where we can step in to open up conversate and encourage strength and different avenues/resources
Lindsey Hackney
01:08:22
I definitely use the circles of support with my families a lot to try and identify where we can fill in the gap! But, I'm also wondering what options parents have for child support enforcement. My families don't often have the time or financial means to do this.
Marci Kennedy
01:08:23
What about connecting to single parents who are in need of child care and can't afford it and do not have parents and the waiting list for free childcare is long.
Tamara Castonguay
01:08:59
Right, a lot of states will provide benefits to the children, and will handle pursuing the other parent for support.
Lindsey Hackney
01:09:24
Thank you!
Tamara Castonguay
01:10:24
The childcare is an issue in so many areas. The assistance may be available, but the spaces at the centers who accept that are not open.
Marci Kennedy
01:10:30
Also in our area transportation is a huge need for my single moms/parents.
Tamara Castonguay
01:11:11
In RI (where I have the most experience), it's the Office of Child Support Enforcement. and DHS can help get clients hooked up with them.
Tamara Castonguay
01:12:08
My only other idea for those with childcare issues, is maybe finding another single mom who can work opposite shifts, and they can care for each other's kids
Marci Kennedy
01:12:26
Yes extended social circles are good idea, we do offer parent café and I just hadn't thought of sending them there for that specific goal.
Tamara Castonguay
01:14:43
There are a lot of educational resources available for free. Even some of the sites that offer paid content, will also offer free things... teachers pay teachers is one I am thinking about. There are so many things available online.
Marci Kennedy
01:14:51
Thank you Tamara
Tamara Castonguay
01:16:18
That was a good webinar, the recording should still be available on your site, right?
Tamara Castonguay
01:16:42
Yes! Mommy needs time out too!
Tamara Castonguay
01:17:54
I love it!!!
Anne Williams
01:18:05
Yes and schedules and time outs make a difference like bed time or quiet time or family time
Anne Williams
01:20:28
I learned that Self Care is important Mental and Physical unwinding
Tamara Castonguay
01:21:32
Yes, the quality of the time is everything! You reminded me of another strategy Dr. Harvey Karp (pediatrician) calls "feeding the meter"
Tamara Castonguay
01:22:01
When parents have to work from home, and the kids are always looking for their attention, both can become frustrated.
Marci Kennedy
01:22:09
We practice Mindfullness at work every Monday!! It is amazing...
Marci Kennedy
01:22:43
We also offer mindfulness during our parent cafes.
Tamara Castonguay
01:23:31
If parents give kids quality attention, and let them know you will be back to play again right after you work for 45 minutes, and then make that good quality time. Kids are more likely to let us work.
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01:23:34
Single Parents Dailyhttps://singleparentsdaily.com/podcasts/
Tamara Castonguay
01:24:20
Oh, thanks for the resource! Always looking for more things for my single dads!
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01:24:21
Co-Parening with a Toxic ExBy Amy J.L. Baker and Paul R. Finehttps://www.amyjlbaker.com/books/co-parenting-with-a-toxic-ex.html
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01:24:55
Helping Children Survive DivorceDr. Archibald D. Harthttps://www.osterhuspub.com/Helping-Children-Survive-Divorce-Archibald-Hart-p/9780849939495.htm
Tamara Castonguay
01:28:50
Thanks so much, great conversation!
Marci Kennedy
01:28:55
Thank you such good info , will these webinars be on your site?
Maranda Ahlfeld
01:29:01
Thank you so much!!
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01:29:08
Links to daily events including registration:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/eventsOur recordings & slides for this week & last:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/webinar-recordings-and-slides
Sarah Escalante
01:29:16
Thank you! yalll always have such great webinars
Maranda Ahlfeld
01:29:29
Thank you so much.
Tamara Castonguay
01:29:35
#AMPlifySingleMomsRock!
Anne Williams
01:29:38
#Amplify StrengthTo SingleParents
Jessica Lopez
01:29:41
Thank you!
Anne Williams
01:30:18
Thank you Maranda and Katthe
Dorothie Durosier
01:30:32
THANK YOU
Maranda Ahlfeld
01:30:56
mahlfeld@joliet.easterseals.com
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Links to daily events including registration:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/eventsOur recordings & slides for this week & last:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/webinar-recordings-and-slides