Supporting Single Parents during COVID: Strategies, Resources, Tools with Maranda Ahlfeld
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Hi, Katthe, Evanston, IL!

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Hi Everyone, Tami from Lititz, PA... beautiful, cool, Autumn day here!

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Hi from Michigan

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Hello, my name is Jessica, and I am from California!

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It is beautiful here..

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Dawna Hulet Mesa AZ

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Happy AL🌺HA FriYaY!! Rita from O’ahu Hawai’i

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agree 💯

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I agree!

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I agree

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I AGREE

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I provide services to mainly single parent families, and I am excited to see how to change what I do to best support them! Thank you for this opportunity

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Hello, goodmorning, Silvia Barban

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Anne Williams

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I Agree

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Our Family Wizard

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Some clients who might be able to take advantage of the non-custodial parent being home during pandemic do not approach the topic with the other parent, because if the other parent has the children more, they will want to pay less in child support, and single-moms generally can't afford that.

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Absolutely!

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Same Katthe! hehe

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https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/

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That's a hot topic, many have trouble not picking up when the other party calls. I frequently have conversations with clients about boundaries, and the importance of my client then respecting the boundaries themselves!

01:00:04
Don't mistake meekness for weakness

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you can also raise your hand and I will unmute you (and then you can unmute yourself) if you want to speak

01:01:43
Most of my participants do not have that other parent's involvment or support. How do we support these single parents who are not coparenting?

01:02:31
I see a lot of co-dependent behavior in the population we serve. It isn't easy when you are in that frame of mind. But when I work with them, and they finally break past it, it is really such a great think to witness!

01:04:13
I think that question can go in a couple of directions... does that parent WANT the other parents involvement?

01:05:19
I am thinking of parents who have no coparent and are not looking for that coparent. Maybe the other parent is incarcerated or toxic

01:05:32
My ex had disappeared for several years, and those years were much more peaceful than the ones after he resurfaced and wanted to then get back into the kids' lives.

01:05:37
How to help parent break from being too co-dependent on their child?

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How can we support low-income single parents who need, but are not receiving, child support from the other parent?

01:06:41
I think helping parents identify their other natural support. I relied on my parents for help with childcare, and other things.

01:07:34
Agree the circle of support is often where we can step in to open up conversate and encourage strength and different avenues/resources

01:08:22
I definitely use the circles of support with my families a lot to try and identify where we can fill in the gap! But, I'm also wondering what options parents have for child support enforcement. My families don't often have the time or financial means to do this.

01:08:23
What about connecting to single parents who are in need of child care and can't afford it and do not have parents and the waiting list for free childcare is long.

01:08:59
Right, a lot of states will provide benefits to the children, and will handle pursuing the other parent for support.

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Thank you!

01:10:24
The childcare is an issue in so many areas. The assistance may be available, but the spaces at the centers who accept that are not open.

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Also in our area transportation is a huge need for my single moms/parents.

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In RI (where I have the most experience), it's the Office of Child Support Enforcement. and DHS can help get clients hooked up with them.

01:12:08
My only other idea for those with childcare issues, is maybe finding another single mom who can work opposite shifts, and they can care for each other's kids

01:12:26
Yes extended social circles are good idea, we do offer parent café and I just hadn't thought of sending them there for that specific goal.

01:14:43
There are a lot of educational resources available for free. Even some of the sites that offer paid content, will also offer free things... teachers pay teachers is one I am thinking about. There are so many things available online.

01:14:51
Thank you Tamara

01:16:18
That was a good webinar, the recording should still be available on your site, right?

01:16:42
Yes! Mommy needs time out too!

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I love it!!!

01:18:05
Yes and schedules and time outs make a difference like bed time or quiet time or family time

01:20:28
I learned that Self Care is important Mental and Physical unwinding

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Yes, the quality of the time is everything! You reminded me of another strategy Dr. Harvey Karp (pediatrician) calls "feeding the meter"

01:22:01
When parents have to work from home, and the kids are always looking for their attention, both can become frustrated.

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We practice Mindfullness at work every Monday!! It is amazing...

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We also offer mindfulness during our parent cafes.

01:23:31
If parents give kids quality attention, and let them know you will be back to play again right after you work for 45 minutes, and then make that good quality time. Kids are more likely to let us work.

01:23:34
Single Parents Dailyhttps://singleparentsdaily.com/podcasts/

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Oh, thanks for the resource! Always looking for more things for my single dads!

01:24:21
Co-Parening with a Toxic ExBy Amy J.L. Baker and Paul R. Finehttps://www.amyjlbaker.com/books/co-parenting-with-a-toxic-ex.html

01:24:55
Helping Children Survive DivorceDr. Archibald D. Harthttps://www.osterhuspub.com/Helping-Children-Survive-Divorce-Archibald-Hart-p/9780849939495.htm

01:28:50
Thanks so much, great conversation!

01:28:55
Thank you such good info , will these webinars be on your site?

01:29:01
Thank you so much!!

01:29:08
Links to daily events including registration:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/eventsOur recordings & slides for this week & last:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/webinar-recordings-and-slides

01:29:16
Thank you! yalll always have such great webinars

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Thank you so much.

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#AMPlifySingleMomsRock!

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#Amplify StrengthTo SingleParents

01:29:41
Thank you!

01:30:18
Thank you Maranda and Katthe

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THANK YOU

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mahlfeld@joliet.easterseals.com

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Links to daily events including registration:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/eventsOur recordings & slides for this week & last:https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/webinar-recordings-and-slides