Children's Challenging Behavior and the 5 Love Languages with Katthe Wolf and Alexandra James
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Good morning from Oakdale Ca

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good morning from Eugene Oregon

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Katthe from Evanston, IL

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Richmond, VA

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Hello Dustin from Pendleton, IN

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Hello from Wisconsin!

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hello from the U.P. (Michigan)

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Agree from Michigan

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I agree

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I agree

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I agree

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I agree

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I agree

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I agree

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I agree

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I agree

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I Agree

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Thank you everyone

31:51
Hi Everyone, Tami from PA here. And I agree!

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Hi Tami

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https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

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I agree

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I think your love language can be influenced by the culture you are raised into also. In the HMoob culture, physical touch is frowned upon, especially in public. A part of me has sometimes felt like something was wrong with me or my family, but again, I think culture influences the way we interact with each other.

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I feel like im all 5

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My love language is 30 % receiving gifts but I know I love acts of service too and hugs!!!

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I think Quality of Time is my love language. I'd rather spend meaningful time with my husband then receiving gifts.

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I have 2 main love languages. One is acts of service and words of affirmation. I love to hear that I am appreciated.

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4 of the love languages were close. gifts was 0. I like to give gifts more than getting gifts.

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quality time socializing playing games

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So sorry, I was taking the quiz... primary love language is quality time

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sitting together listening music

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I think I'm uncomfortable with words of affirmation because I can't see what people are talking about when I get compliments or am appreciated

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followed closely by words of affirmation and acts of service

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traveling experience new thing together

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I give gifts that are hand made. I do like gifts that are thoughtful and hand made as well

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LOL, that would be nice!

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I need to go for a client home visit. I will watch recording.

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My adult son likes quality time. We don't see each other that much and when we are together we go for walks and play board games.

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Mostly different and for me it creates conflict. Acts of service is my primary love language and my three children don't think to clean their rooms/areas or complete their homework let alone help each other with homework.

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Definitely

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I love quality time! but this day and age it is next to impossible do to the use of cell phones! sadly

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Yes Alexander

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Totally relate my 20 year old has to be home due to Pandemic from college and she does not clean her room

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I HAVE LEARNED THAT I CANNOT PLACE MY EXPECTATIONS ON OTHER PEOPLE THEY DONT ALWAYS THIKOF THINGS IN THE SAME WAY..

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YES!!

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I'm pretty sure both of my kids, and both grandkids are quality time as well. We all seem happiest when we are doing things together... playing games, making/creating something, reading

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ITS IMPORTANT TO BE HONEST ABOUT HOW THINGS MAKE YOU FEEL

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you have to set limits no cell during dinner not during church no cell focus when I am engaging my children in conversation

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sorry the all caps is a habit

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I wish my grandkids enjoyed touch more... i'd love more hugs!

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I need to be more intentional with honoring my kids love language and this discussion is reminding me of this

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lol

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not intended that way at all

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We always ask for consent, and expect them to... they usually don't consent to hugs, but they will consent to horse-play any time!

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:)

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Being more open to love languages is learned. If you did receive it as a child you may not know how to show it

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no worries Maria :-)

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https://youtu.be/DDs-YXpIkTI

01:01:44
Just to see if it is a sign in sheet so my attendance is taken

01:02:07
Good video... totally makes sense not to use their love language as punishment. And I was thinking "Whew!", because we've been doing it right.

01:02:15
Wow... I can see the value in not using a child's love language as a tool for punishment but I can recall areas where I messed that up.

01:02:31
New insight

01:03:00
Good information to share with clients too... help them identify their children's love languages

01:03:15
yes!

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My son's love language is Words of Affirmation and now I know why he's highly upset when he's reprimanded just by me expressing (verbally) my disappointments.

01:05:32
Yes! Thank you!!

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My Love Language is Physical Touch 33% and Quality Time 37% and I was surprised because I though act of Service was my Love Language and it was only 3%

01:07:35
could I get the link to the quiz thanks

01:07:48
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

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I was raised with 80% Quality and 20% touch, which is what I did with my children however, each of them required something different.

01:09:32
Hi Portia, I'll unmute you soon. :) Thanks for raising your hand!

01:11:40
Thank you Portia for sahring

01:13:44
I absolutely think it can inform parenting

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Looking at my various grandchildren they love words of encouragement, since this pandemic I have cut back on hugging and kissing just out of protecting them.

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Personally, I

01:16:46
I've already been using the character strengths from VIA to help with some of my parents

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this is just a bonus!

01:17:17
So awesome Tamara !

01:18:06
Can’t be enough positive tools!

01:18:16
I think these things can help parents learn more about the little people in their lives. Some parents believe they need to "mold" their kids, rather than taking the time to know the people they are

01:18:17
Oopps. Sorry. Personally, I'm familiar with the Love Languages as a wife and mom, but gleaned new info today. Professionally, I'm now thinking that the love languages can certainly be applied as a leader/supervisor with staff, and certainly with staff and parents for our Family Success Centers.

01:18:42
I think it can strengthen families ability to communicate and connect. I wonder how to tap into the languages with families that have a lot of trauma or who accustomed to considering the child's voice.

01:19:00
not considering the child's voice

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I agree, any assistance, knowledge or information given to parents can and will help how they help their children in expressing themselves

01:20:08
Good Questions/Thought to Ponder

01:20:16
Great points!

01:20:24
Katthe, good point... take what they can get

01:24:00
understanding their love language I think it will help reduce negative behaviors

01:24:01
Children are not getting their needs met when the parents are not speaking their love language.

01:24:56
Are you sending information about the love languages as a follow up? Someone mentioned a quiz.

01:25:17
All set found the link

01:25:23
Any chance this quiz is available in Spanish?

01:25:24
So much goes into challenging behavior and the responses we "should" have, I think utilizing the love languages can be another tool in our tool box.

01:25:46
Haha, Katthe, I know that method! I used to follow a woman who said that's how she cleaned her room as a teen... both times!

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https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

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Smart kid

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right too smart lol

01:27:19
Thanks so much ladies, another great discussion!

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Thank you!!

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Thank you for all your expertist. Also will we receive a certificate

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Thank you. Have a wonderful weekend!

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thank you!

01:28:46
Thank you so much, learned a whole lot

01:28:57
paul@bestrongfamilies.net

01:29:04
I will need one please and thank you

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#AmplifyLoveLanguages

01:29:49
Katrina email Paul and he will take care of you