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Children's Challenging Behavior and the 5 Love Languages with Katthe Wolf and Alexandra James - Shared screen with speaker view
Mayra Cuevas
28:09
Good morning from Oakdale Ca
Sheri Bray
28:10
good morning from Eugene Oregon
Katthe Wolf
28:27
Katthe from Evanston, IL
Alexandra James
28:36
Richmond, VA
Dustin Jablonski
28:42
Hello Dustin from Pendleton, IN
Tracy Klesper
28:54
Hello from Wisconsin!
Casey Smith
29:25
hello from the U.P. (Michigan)
Colette Masty
30:15
Agree from Michigan
Sheri Bray
30:50
I agree
Mayra Cuevas
31:01
I agree
Alexandra James
31:08
I agree
Dustin Jablonski
31:13
I agree
Marci Kennedy
31:14
I agree
Dawna Hulet
31:15
I agree
Kathy Peppin
31:16
I agree
Maria deMelo
31:16
I agree
Tracy Klesper
31:21
I Agree
Alexandra James
31:29
Thank you everyone
Tamara Castonguay
31:51
Hi Everyone, Tami from PA here. And I agree!
Alexandra James
32:29
Hi Tami
Andrew Hitchcock (1)
32:45
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
Casey Smith
33:25
I agree
Yia Lor
39:18
I think your love language can be influenced by the culture you are raised into also. In the HMoob culture, physical touch is frowned upon, especially in public. A part of me has sometimes felt like something was wrong with me or my family, but again, I think culture influences the way we interact with each other.
Mayra Cuevas
39:26
I feel like im all 5
Marci Kennedy
40:14
My love language is 30 % receiving gifts but I know I love acts of service too and hugs!!!
Colette Masty
40:18
I think Quality of Time is my love language. I'd rather spend meaningful time with my husband then receiving gifts.
Elda Torres
40:54
I have 2 main love languages. One is acts of service and words of affirmation. I love to hear that I am appreciated.
Tracy Klesper
41:21
4 of the love languages were close. gifts was 0. I like to give gifts more than getting gifts.
Portia Jackson
41:25
quality time socializing playing games
Tamara Castonguay
41:43
So sorry, I was taking the quiz... primary love language is quality time
Portia Jackson
41:53
sitting together listening music
Colette Masty
42:10
I think I'm uncomfortable with words of affirmation because I can't see what people are talking about when I get compliments or am appreciated
Tamara Castonguay
42:29
followed closely by words of affirmation and acts of service
Portia Jackson
42:36
traveling experience new thing together
Tracy Klesper
43:38
I give gifts that are hand made. I do like gifts that are thoughtful and hand made as well
Tamara Castonguay
44:44
LOL, that would be nice!
Marci Kennedy
45:26
I need to go for a client home visit. I will watch recording.
Tracy Klesper
47:46
My adult son likes quality time. We don't see each other that much and when we are together we go for walks and play board games.
Maria deMelo
48:16
Mostly different and for me it creates conflict. Acts of service is my primary love language and my three children don't think to clean their rooms/areas or complete their homework let alone help each other with homework.
Maria deMelo
49:01
Definitely
Dawna Hulet
49:31
I love quality time! but this day and age it is next to impossible do to the use of cell phones! sadly
Maria deMelo
49:49
Yes Alexander
Colette Masty
50:18
Totally relate my 20 year old has to be home due to Pandemic from college and she does not clean her room
robin.graham GRAHAM
50:48
I HAVE LEARNED THAT I CANNOT PLACE MY EXPECTATIONS ON OTHER PEOPLE THEY DONT ALWAYS THIKOF THINGS IN THE SAME WAY..
Colette Masty
50:51
YES!!
Tamara Castonguay
51:12
I'm pretty sure both of my kids, and both grandkids are quality time as well. We all seem happiest when we are doing things together... playing games, making/creating something, reading
robin.graham GRAHAM
51:45
ITS IMPORTANT TO BE HONEST ABOUT HOW THINGS MAKE YOU FEEL
Portia Jackson
52:01
you have to set limits no cell during dinner not during church no cell focus when I am engaging my children in conversation
robin.graham GRAHAM
52:40
sorry the all caps is a habit
Tamara Castonguay
52:42
I wish my grandkids enjoyed touch more... i'd love more hugs!
Maria deMelo
53:08
I need to be more intentional with honoring my kids love language and this discussion is reminding me of this
Katrina Mason
53:08
lol
robin.graham GRAHAM
53:15
not intended that way at all
Tamara Castonguay
53:22
We always ask for consent, and expect them to... they usually don't consent to hugs, but they will consent to horse-play any time!
robin.graham GRAHAM
53:39
:)
Katrina Mason
53:49
Being more open to love languages is learned. If you did receive it as a child you may not know how to show it
Alexandra James
55:04
no worries Maria :-)
Andrew Hitchcock (1)
56:27
https://youtu.be/DDs-YXpIkTI
Katrina Mason
01:01:44
Just to see if it is a sign in sheet so my attendance is taken
Tamara Castonguay
01:02:07
Good video... totally makes sense not to use their love language as punishment. And I was thinking "Whew!", because we've been doing it right.
Maria deMelo
01:02:15
Wow... I can see the value in not using a child's love language as a tool for punishment but I can recall areas where I messed that up.
Octavia Shaw
01:02:31
New insight
Tamara Castonguay
01:03:00
Good information to share with clients too... help them identify their children's love languages
Tamara Castonguay
01:03:15
yes!
Octavia Shaw
01:03:47
My son's love language is Words of Affirmation and now I know why he's highly upset when he's reprimanded just by me expressing (verbally) my disappointments.
Octavia Shaw
01:05:32
Yes! Thank you!!
Colette Masty
01:07:02
My Love Language is Physical Touch 33% and Quality Time 37% and I was surprised because I though act of Service was my Love Language and it was only 3%
Abigail SuarezRodriguez
01:07:35
could I get the link to the quiz thanks
Andrew Hitchcock (1)
01:07:48
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
Katrina Mason
01:08:00
I was raised with 80% Quality and 20% touch, which is what I did with my children however, each of them required something different.
Andrew Hitchcock (1)
01:09:32
Hi Portia, I'll unmute you soon. :) Thanks for raising your hand!
Mayra Cuevas
01:11:40
Thank you Portia for sahring
Tamara Castonguay
01:13:44
I absolutely think it can inform parenting
Kim Robinson
01:14:17
Looking at my various grandchildren they love words of encouragement, since this pandemic I have cut back on hugging and kissing just out of protecting them.
Octavia Shaw
01:15:48
Personally, I
Tamara Castonguay
01:16:46
I've already been using the character strengths from VIA to help with some of my parents
Tamara Castonguay
01:16:52
this is just a bonus!
Alexandra James
01:17:17
So awesome Tamara !
Katthe Wolf
01:18:06
Can’t be enough positive tools!
Tamara Castonguay
01:18:16
I think these things can help parents learn more about the little people in their lives. Some parents believe they need to "mold" their kids, rather than taking the time to know the people they are
Octavia Shaw
01:18:17
Oopps. Sorry. Personally, I'm familiar with the Love Languages as a wife and mom, but gleaned new info today. Professionally, I'm now thinking that the love languages can certainly be applied as a leader/supervisor with staff, and certainly with staff and parents for our Family Success Centers.
Maria deMelo
01:18:42
I think it can strengthen families ability to communicate and connect. I wonder how to tap into the languages with families that have a lot of trauma or who accustomed to considering the child's voice.
Maria deMelo
01:19:00
not considering the child's voice
Katrina Mason
01:19:59
I agree, any assistance, knowledge or information given to parents can and will help how they help their children in expressing themselves
Octavia Shaw
01:20:08
Good Questions/Thought to Ponder
Maria deMelo
01:20:16
Great points!
Tamara Castonguay
01:20:24
Katthe, good point... take what they can get
Portia Jackson
01:24:00
understanding their love language I think it will help reduce negative behaviors
Elda Torres
01:24:01
Children are not getting their needs met when the parents are not speaking their love language.
Maria deMelo
01:24:56
Are you sending information about the love languages as a follow up? Someone mentioned a quiz.
Maria deMelo
01:25:17
All set found the link
Jonathan Reyes
01:25:23
Any chance this quiz is available in Spanish?
Tamara Castonguay
01:25:24
So much goes into challenging behavior and the responses we "should" have, I think utilizing the love languages can be another tool in our tool box.
Tamara Castonguay
01:25:46
Haha, Katthe, I know that method! I used to follow a woman who said that's how she cleaned her room as a teen... both times!
Andrew Hitchcock (1)
01:26:10
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
Maria deMelo
01:26:20
Smart kid
Alexandra James
01:26:41
right too smart lol
Tamara Castonguay
01:27:19
Thanks so much ladies, another great discussion!
Colette Masty
01:27:33
Thank you!!
Katrina Mason
01:27:39
Thank you for all your expertist. Also will we receive a certificate
Maria deMelo
01:27:45
Thank you. Have a wonderful weekend!
Dustin Jablonski
01:27:55
thank you!
Mayra Cuevas
01:28:46
Thank you so much, learned a whole lot
Andrew Hitchcock (1)
01:28:57
paul@bestrongfamilies.net
Katrina Mason
01:29:04
I will need one please and thank you
Elda Torres
01:29:47
#AmplifyLoveLanguages
Alexandra James
01:29:49
Katrina email Paul and he will take care of you