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Regional Training Webinars: Alphabet Soup 101 - Shared screen with speaker view
Nevada Coalition
48:41
Here is the link to register for this afternoon's week 2 re-record!
Kristi Burch
49:51
Hi this is Natalie Powell. For some reason my tile is reading Kristi Burch, but it is my photo.
Nevada Coalition
52:48
Hi Everyone! If your name is showing up as not your own, you can change it by clicking on the three dots next to the screen with either your name, picture or video on it, and select "rename". PLEASE do this, as we will be taking attendance shortly!
Annette Scott
53:59
hi holly! love you. Annette
yamille muriel
54:25
I really enjoy watching those videos.
Breezy Y
54:29
Yes and they made me cry!
yamille muriel
54:41
Yes, I also cried!
Breezy
54:47
I don't have a box. I don't have a camera but I am here.
Mayra Pacheco
54:49
I did! I was in tears for a solid 30mins. The What would you do video was very impactful.
Sandra Dieterich-Hughes
55:23
Loved the videos, particularly the farmer and his son, and their perceptions! Sandy D. Hughes
Breezy
55:39
Very helpful.
Lisa Lynn Chapman
56:16
I love them. Very helpful to help understand what someone goes through when coming out.
Thalia Lomeli
57:13
Has attendance always been a thing? I might’ve missed the first two?
Amanda Haboush Deloye
58:07
In our webinars we just do attendance in the chat?
Amanda Haboush Deloye
58:14
you can download the chat.
Janna Rightmire
58:18
In other meetings they just ask you to post your name in the chat
Necie Tiffany WDVS Advocate
58:27
There are 3 of us at WDVS participating. Myself, Rosa Rodrigez, and Paola Gutierrez
Nevada Coalition
58:48
Thank you everyone, great idea! Please put your first and last names in the chat box.
Cassandra Munoz
58:57
Cassandra Munoz!
Lisa McA she/they
59:01
Lisa McAllister RCC
fosterx
59:01
Xavier Foster
Breezy Y
59:02
Breezy Younkin
Vicky Chandler
59:04
Vicky Chandler
Heather Stodieck
59:06
Heather Stodieck
Lisa Lynn Chapman
59:10
Lisa Lynn Chapman
Serena Evans
59:11
Serena Evans
Karissa Garr
59:11
Karissa Garr
Barb
59:16
Barbara Melendez
Janna Rightmire
59:16
Janna Rightmire
Judy Henderson
59:17
Judy Henderson
Kristy Garay
59:19
Kristy Garay- Safe Nest
Dawn Brown
59:20
Dawn Brown
Jenny Wilkinson
59:24
Jenny Wilkinson
Cristina Lopez
59:25
Cristina Lopez
Sofia Colabianchi
59:30
Sofia Colabianchi
Mindy McCoy
59:33
Mindy McCoy
Antonia Roman
59:33
Antonia Roman
Mayra Pacheco
59:33
Mayra Pacheco
Maria Doucettperry
59:35
Maria Doucettperry
Trisha Baird
59:35
Trisha Baird
Dawn Taylor
59:38
Dawn Taylor
Sandra Dieterich-Hughes
59:38
Sandra Dieterich-Hughes
Samm Warfel
59:39
Samm warfel
Jameelah Lewis
59:40
Jameelah Lewis- RCC
Stephanie Augdahl
59:41
Stephanie Augdahl
Tammy (TC) Cutler
59:46
Tammy (TC) Cutler
Kristi Burch
59:53
Kristi Burch
Thalia Lomeli
59:56
Thalia Lomeli
Tania de Ulloa - SafeNest
01:00:10
Tania de Ulloa
Daylisi Talavera-Hernandez
01:00:29
Daylisi Talavera-Hernandez
Gwyndelyn Chen
01:00:30
Gwyndelyn Chen- CSSNV
Rachel Silverstein
01:00:31
Rachel Silverstein
Tracy Palmer
01:00:32
Tracy Palmer
Shannon Kossick
01:00:42
Shannon Kossick
Sara Ozuna
01:00:55
Sara Ozuna
Annette Scott
01:00:57
Annette Scott
Elynne Greene
01:01:23
Elynne Greene
Chelsie Lawter
01:01:44
Chelsie Lawter
Rochelle Proctor
01:02:09
Rochelle Proctor
Nancy Hernandez
01:02:19
Nancy Hernandez
Breezy
01:02:26
Tori Harris
Amber Batchelor
01:02:27
Amber Batchelor NCEDSV
Jacque Webb
01:03:00
Jacque Webb
Nevada Coalition
01:03:57
For those of you just joining us, please make sure to put your first and last name in the chat for attendance!
Natalie Powell
01:04:34
Natalie Powell
Lauren Traveller
01:05:30
Lauren Traveller
Hannah
01:06:00
Hannah Meadows
Kadie Zeller
01:07:10
Kadie Zeller
Kristi Burch
01:07:37
Hannah Belleau
Elli Komito
01:08:41
Elli Komito
Phonemany Thongkham
01:08:49
Phonemany Thongkham
Jameelah Lewis
01:09:42
question.... is the term sexuality in this sense pertaining to agency and one's ability to be sexual?
Lisa Lynn Chapman
01:10:51
You couldn't work some jobs if you were pregnant--like teaching.
Amanda Haboush Deloye
01:15:27
Amanda Haboush Deloye - not just joining but forgot to put my name :)
Dawn Taylor
01:18:33
ting other prefix in place like Dr. negate this too
Dawn Taylor
01:19:00
Putting another*
Nevada Coalition
01:20:01
If you have not already, please make sure to put your name in the chat for attendance!
yamille muriel
01:20:18
Yamille Muriel
Judy Henderson
01:20:29
During my first interview as a public school teacher, I was asked what type of birth control I was using to assess if I was really dedicated to the job or just get pregnant and leave. Appalling.
Antonia Roman
01:22:27
Judy that is horrible!!!
Judy Henderson
01:23:33
Home Goods was sorting their toy section by girls and boys. I asked why they just didn't put all the toys together and let the child choose what they wanted. I got such a shocked look. This is 2020, yes?
Lisa Lynn Chapman
01:24:02
Target has the pink toy section...still
Samm Warfel
01:24:06
for people who are buying presents. I always here "boy or girl, what should I buy"
Carrie Smyser
01:24:10
People want to plan gender appropriate colors..
Amanda Haboush Deloye
01:24:43
While I don't think it is important, I also don't think it is wrong for people to want to do these things, If the child reveals their truth, the most important is to be supportive, right?
Lauren Traveller
01:25:16
naming
Mayra Pacheco
01:25:46
I think people think is important to create expectations on how their child is "supposed to be." To provide some certainty on "what to expect" as a parent even though that is taking away the freedom of your child to be who they want to be.
Lisa Lynn Chapman
01:26:47
Amanda, what it does is reinforces the binary vs recognizing that kids are diverse in gender
Cristina Lopez
01:26:53
I feel we have just put an emphasis on being a boy and a girl. We celebrate this now and make a party out of it. I feel we can even look back to boys being more celebrated when they were born as opposed to a girls birth
Janna Rightmire
01:26:56
I think it's hard for people to understand or acknowledge the fact that their child might not be the gender that they are born with. I feel like this is a "new" concept for many people.
Sandra Viera
01:28:42
How about just the meer factor of that is what we thought was normal. How many years/decades have we normalized this behavior?
Jameelah Lewis
01:31:07
*Gift idea for baby showers and kid birthday parties: stuffed animals, blankets, bottles, diapers, legos, books, as well as kid friendly crafts and projects.
Lisa Lynn Chapman
01:31:11
yep!
Elynne Greene
01:31:16
yes
Lisa McA she/they
01:31:40
My husband is the only son of an only son. It was a big deal for him to have a son.
Dawn Taylor
01:32:27
I think this is not only for parents but for grandparents and older generations where this is so very difficult to digest and does not follow a traditional format. Thinking beyond binary is so challenging for these generations
Jameelah Lewis
01:33:49
Adding to Dawn's comment, it is also difficult across cultures 😪
Lisa McA she/they
01:34:15
Also there was a fair amount of mommy shame when I was pregnant, because I didn’t “know” what sex my fetus was. “Real” mothers just “knew” what they were having
Dawn Taylor
01:36:34
I find it difficult to work younger impatient clients who won't wait for older generations to get used to the idea
Lisa Lynn Chapman
01:38:38
And there is something wrong with a woman if you don't want, or don't have. Put it is pitiful if you can't have kids and more acceptable.
Lisa Lynn Chapman
01:39:10
*But it is pitiful
Amanda Haboush Deloye
01:39:40
I also think that we need to be careful that we don't go backward and create shame in the other direction which can happen. If people do conform to normal, that is ok, and it is ok if you don't. There should not be shame either way. It also creates push back to be open to what people are not used to because now they feel defensive that they can't be who they are. And I hope this isn't taken to downplay the extreme need for change.
Cristina Lopez
01:39:44
even with relationships men are more glorified for have a variety of partners while women are shamed for it
Jameelah Lewis
01:40:57
@Dawn And I think the world we (millennials) live in, we have chosen to not wait for others to get on board and instead live holistically by cultivating and finding our own communities.
Jas Margarita
01:41:15
Hi Holly! Could you elaborate more on how heteronormativity contributes to domestic violence and abuse?
Antonia Roman
01:42:35
One of the coolest things I've ever seen was a masculine, Hispanic male w/ tatoos (very masculine) walking his son around in the grocery store w/ play heels on. This is not accepted in a small town area or in the Hispanic community easily so it does show progress
Jameelah Lewis
01:43:17
Tbh, belonging and identifying as apart of marginalized communities is a threat to patriarchy and the society of respectability politics
Jameelah Lewis
01:47:00
Can you highlight the difference between explicit and implicit bias for some folx?
Lisa Lynn Chapman
01:47:51
learning how to care for others and treating them as they wish treated is not politically correct. It is being empathic and human.
Karissa Garr
01:49:33
I work nights. My husband is home for dinner/ bath/ bed with our two kids. People are **amazed** when they hear he cooks dinner for them and takes care of bath alone. If I take care of dinner and bedtime, I'm doing my job. He is going "above and beyond" for doing the same thing.Also, it bothers him to no end that people expect him to be a poor parent. He is equally involved and capable.
Dawn Taylor
01:54:44
As an ally I had a hard time understanding roles when first exposed to the community and could only relate to binary norms I had been exposed to. Same as lack of visibility of "role models" for ally to even learn how this might differ
Rachael CADV
01:56:13
Can you give examples of toxic masculinity and good masculinity just to understand a little better.
Nevada Coalition
02:01:50
Remember to put your name in the chat box for attendance, if you haven't already!
Jennifer Olsen
02:02:08
I have been considering my own relationship with patriarchy and my own gender expression. I appreciate that you expressing "feminine appearing" while we may interact a bit more masculine.
Tracy Palmer
02:02:12
Thank you Holly for sharing and I can relate 100%!!
Rachael CADV
02:02:31
(Rachael Sandoval from CADV for attendance)
Pam Russell
02:02:32
Here's my name! Pam Russell
Sonia Aguilar
02:02:54
Sonia Aguilar
Jas Margarita
02:03:06
Jasmin (Jas) Margarita Tobon
Elena Espinoza
02:03:09
(Elena Espinoza from SafeNest for attendance)
Jessica Cisneros
02:03:15
Jessica Cisneros
Annie Allen
02:03:22
Annie Allen
Jennifer Olsen
02:03:28
Jenn Olsen
Pam Bernhart
02:03:52
(Pam Bernhart from SafeNest for attendance)
Lisa Lynn Chapman
02:04:05
Rape Culture
Carrie Smyser
02:04:23
Man up!!!
Carrie Smyser
02:04:30
Crying is for girls
Elli Komito
02:04:37
Positive masculinity is listening to, identifying, and expressing emotions in a healthy way. It's listening to stories of people who are non cis men. It's amplifying the voices of people who don't "look or sound like you." It's calling out other men when they exhibit toxic behaviors.
Carrie Smyser
02:04:40
You throw like a girl
Jameelah Lewis
02:05:06
Toxic Masculinity: upholds systems of abuse perpetrated by men upon to anyone not masculine.
Sandra Dieterich-Hughes
02:05:16
Jackson Katz has done some good work on this issue of “What It Means to be a Man” Sandy Dieterich-Hughes
Carrie Smyser
02:05:29
Stop being a pu**y!
Lisa Lynn Chapman
02:06:33
Yes...Sandy, Katz's work is incredible in this area.
Lacie Crawford
02:06:43
Lacie Crawford
Kevin Tomlin
02:06:44
Kevin Tomlin
Kelsey Hurlburt
02:06:45
Kelsey Hurlburt in attendance
Elena Espinoza
02:06:45
posturing masculinities is also historical, racial, & marked by class / What may be considered toxic now maybe have been a survival strategy... deeper dive?
Monica
02:06:46
Hello .. Monica Roberts from S.A.F.E. House, Henderson, Nevada .. Thank you
Sandra Viera
02:06:48
Sandra Viera from SafeNest for attendance
Rachael Rasner
02:06:48
Attendance: Rachael Rasner & Noemi Aschenbach
Lauren Reid
02:07:00
Lauren Reid UNRPD for attendance
Jameelah Lewis
02:07:01
Toxic Masculinity denounces femininity and upholds capitalism and patriarchy.
Janna Rightmire
02:07:03
Attendance: Janna Rightmire
Minerva Perez
02:07:06
Minerva Perez/ Thank you great information.
Janna Rightmire
02:07:06
THANK YOU!
Carrie Smyser
02:07:10
Carrie Smyser (attendance)
Traci Trenoweth
02:07:16
Thank you so much! Attendance Traci Trenoweth
Jennifer Olsen
02:07:19
Excellent presentation. :D
Pam Russell
02:07:20
Thank you!
Iris M
02:07:24
Iris M Malave,
Lisa Lynn Chapman
02:07:28
As always, this is amazing stuff.
Vicky Chandler
02:07:32
Thank you
Cristina Lopez
02:07:37
Thank you!
Nevada Coalition
02:07:48
If you would like to attend the re-record of week 2: https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJwpceytqDwrEtZRrXr9d80lmOs198MX0RUP
Lisa Lynn Chapman
02:07:53
very helpful for cis-normative allies
Mayra Pacheco
02:08:18
Thank you so much!!
Denise Rosen
02:08:25
Thank you. Very informative and authentic