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Facul-Tea: The Confidence Talk - Shared screen with speaker view - Recording 1/2
Zainab Hashem
17:40
hi everyone, i can see you all but there is no voice
Ihab Tabbara (LBS)
18:07
unmute yourself
KHADIJAH
18:28
try again. leave the meating and come again
eiman
21:21
I think speaking fluently does help a lot
stephanie webster
22:59
MJ over to you
stephanie webster
24:43
Prof Niro! Looking amused
stephanie webster
28:18
Later on I will be asking Prof Randall: How does the "desired" confidence level change across different geographies?
stephanie webster
28:47
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H Khezaimi
30:59
Hello everyone happy to see Kathleen and all the esteemed professors here again. Thank you MJ for the session coordination
stephanie webster
33:11
For those of you who have not been taught by Prof Kathleen, here is her bio https://www.london.edu/faculty-and-research/faculty-profiles/k/kathleen-oconnor
stephanie webster
41:27
And this is Prof Randallhttps://www.london.edu/faculty-and-research/faculty-profiles/p/peterson-r-s
H Khezaimi
43:43
Maybe they didnt need the extensio
H Khezaimi
43:48
Extension*
H Khezaimi
44:05
It is not a direct measure to confidence
stephanie webster
45:46
Maybe they don’t ask because they already…. know…they will win?
stephanie webster
46:04
The negotiation
eiman
46:11
is the Whatsup for any one to join
stephanie webster
46:50
Are you an LBS person and are you entirely cool?
stephanie webster
47:03
Then you can join
Jon Boyle
49:02
Can we talk about striking the right balance. Isn’t it as bad to show overconfidence and be found out as to be under confident and make people think you have less ability than you really have?
stephanie webster
49:47
Jon, ended, that’s coming up in 5 questions… who shall we put that to?
abdulrhman alafaliq
51:25
there is a thin line between confidence and ego
H Khezaimi
51:29
Kathleen for years now we hear the same recommendations for women to step up... Why the current recommendations are not effective enough to induce the required change? Are we still going to ask women to step up in 30 years or 20 years?
Ihab Tabbara (LBS)
52:05
thank you MJ, Steph and Suresh for organizing this Facul-Tea
abdulrhman alafaliq
52:11
got to watch that, some times we fall in the wrong spot
Jon Boyle
52:16
Kathleen?
stephanie webster
52:36
OK Jon, we will ask Kathleen for you
stephanie webster
52:40
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stephanie webster
53:58
And this is Prof Cable. https://www.london.edu/faculty-and-research/faculty-profiles/c/cable-d
Sanjeev.Kumar
54:36
self affirmation is brilliant,
Charul Pant
55:40
To add to H Kheizaimi's point, is there not more value in coaching men to not bring up their points unless they believe they can add value to a conversation vs coaching women to speak up even when they feel there isn't much to add?
Farnaz Hosseinzadeh
55:45
also another question on gender! have you noticed any theme that when women actually are confident, they're seen more overconfident than men?
Jennita Hurley
55:54
is it possible to speak more on "impostor syndrome" and how a once confident person can turn into a less confident person due to the environment ?
stephanie webster
56:19
Great questions. I’ll call on you in the Q&A
H Khezaimi
57:35
Great job moderating Steph, MJ and Suresh!!!!
stephanie webster
57:49
Awww ….thanks
stephanie webster
01:00:32
To improve your confidence in negotiations, read the articles on Prof Niro’s LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/nirosivanathan/ and attend his acclaimed Negotiations elective.
stephanie webster
01:02:23
Prof Cable
stephanie webster
01:02:30
You had a point on. humility
Ramzi Qannati
01:03:08
well said Professor Randall
Paula Miranda
01:03:22
a great portion of confidence is communicated through body language? Don’t you think?
H Khezaimi
01:04:52
Confidence should come frim roots of mastery some how or honest ability to develop a skill for a long term effect on the credibility of an individual
stephanie webster
01:05:26
HEY
stephanie webster
01:05:29
Did you see that?
stephanie webster
01:05:35
perfect negotiation
H Khezaimi
01:05:50
Yep from the best
Hassan Sami
01:06:18
thank you all, how to change others opinion about you bcz you were underconfident but now you are confident enough
Hana AlSyead
01:06:25
you give away your confidence when you submit to other’s judgment. Confidence is our birth right (men and women), it’s only when we give it away we to others that we loose it.
Suresh Ghalsasi
01:09:15
That's a very good point, Hana
stephanie webster
01:10:00
This is Prof Dan Cable’s personal website. 2 insightful books worth reading. http://dan-cable.com/
stephanie webster
01:12:31
This is Prof Peterson’s site, I find him thought provoking https://www.randallspeterson.com/
H Khezaimi
01:12:44
Love that donmination can not be the only form of confidence. Empowerment and team build is also another form of that
stephanie webster
01:13:07
H, I like that
H Khezaimi
01:13:50
Shura=Consultations =in traditional gulf area
H Khezaimi
01:17:37
What are the Long term and short term confidence benckmarks or catalysts that we should be aware of.
lama.rissas
01:17:44
As a leader, it is important to get regularly feedback from your team and colleagues .. what to continue...what to start...and what to stop.. to support overall growth of any organization.
Ahlam O
01:18:34
Fake it till you make it .. when should faking be way more negative than the making part? when to stop or how to set the limitation to avoid major complecations?
H Khezaimi
01:18:52
Not to just seek it, but to actually consider it and give it value @Lama
lama.rissas
01:19:35
sure, otherwise, no need to do it ,
Jon Boyle
01:19:38
So does the optimal level of confidence you should show vary depending upon the situation?
stephanie webster
01:21:53
Some are asking what does imposter syndrome mean
stephanie webster
01:21:54
the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills."people suffering from impostor syndrome may be at increased risk of anxiety"
ghadeeraa
01:24:58
Being emotionally intelligent
amal
01:25:10
We talked about confidence on the organizational level, and among adults but being a public speaking teacher for children in the past 10 years made me realize an educational/training gap, are there any effective curriculum development efforts to incorporate ‘confidence’ within elementary level formal education?
Victor Culmann
01:26:18
nothing is innate
KHADIJAH
01:26:19
Question what about panic attacks during speaking in interview or in front of many people? Because sometimes I feel panicked that the words get stocked in my throat and I have to work hard to get them out
Ihab Tabbara (LBS)
01:26:52
practise
Victor Culmann
01:27:01
yes
Victor Culmann
01:27:35
if you think your confidence is innate you are not confident in yourself and your own ability to steer and control yourself imo
KHADIJAH
01:27:50
I practice but when I confront strange people I hesitate
Hassan Sami
01:28:35
just imagine that you are talking to a close one you know , Khadijah
Madhuraj Mishra
01:28:38
@MJ , Yes in fact I have applied so many concepts from LBS in managing family life and worklife balance during tis lockdown time specially to avoid super markets queues .Good Question
Victor Culmann
01:28:47
The success is to try tho, not the outcome right? At least this is how I teach myself to do things I do not like (and suck at)
Prashanth Vanga
01:31:35
No not optimism it was about optimal level of confidence - neither over nor under confidence i.e right level of confidence. How do you measure confidence?
Ian Hart
01:33:56
And the more varied the people feeding back the better - everyone's perception of you is different.
Ramzi Qannati
01:34:59
Professor Dan Cable has a nice podcast called squeezing the orange of social science. check it out
Jon Boyle
01:35:05
I agree with Kathleen - you should spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself - but with prof Cable that you need to keep your feet on the ground
H Khezaimi
01:35:24
Great insights professor Cable
H Khezaimi
01:35:29
Thank you
Anas Al Ateeqi
01:35:52
Thank you Prof. Don
lama.rissas
01:36:26
agree
abdulrhman alafaliq
01:36:54
Prof. Dan, I have started reading your book Alive at Work
abdulrhman alafaliq
01:37:06
even before joining the program
abdulrhman alafaliq
01:37:13
a great book
lama.rissas
01:37:48
A cup of coffee for 10 - 15 mins makes a lot of difference for both us and the colleagues
Ihab Tabbara (LBS)
01:42:31
i think EQ
H Khezaimi
01:43:17
Great Q Amal... Maybe we will have a batter result fixing the gender gap when it comes to confidence if we started early.
Ramzi Qannati
01:44:34
good point Amal and a lot of it stems from their environment, upbringing, presence of role models, any many more points
Ian Hart
01:45:33
What specific advice would the professors have when confidence is low during situations of conflict? It's hard to practice that without seekiung out arguments!
Hassan Sami
01:45:46
I think self fulfilling prophecy approach plays a big role at school
Jennita Hurley
01:45:50
Can we get the name of the book please?
Hana AlSyead
01:49:34
thank you all. great discussion.
abdulrhman alafaliq
01:49:59
Thank you all
Prashanth Vanga
01:50:18
Thanks so much Prof!
stephanie webster
01:52:43
OK EVERYONE! So we will be going into break out rooms. Suresh and Prof Niro will remain in the main room… MJ and Kathleen will go in a break out room… and Prof Randall and I will go in a break out room
amal
01:52:46
Thank you Ramzi and H Khezaimi for the comments
stephanie webster
01:52:53
You will be assigned at random…
stephanie webster
01:53:09
however… you can pop into the main room whenever you like
Ihab Tabbara (LBS)
01:53:39
fantastic
Ian Hart
01:56:58
Thanks both!
H Khezaimi
01:57:12
Thank you All
Dvyratn Bakshi
01:57:18
Thank you Facul-Tea! Great session.
Dvyratn Bakshi
01:57:25
Thank you Professors
Jennita Hurley
01:58:49
@Ramzi you made it!!
Ramzi Qannati
01:59:08
yes thanks for the invite
Jennita Hurley
01:59:45
Good to see you
Madhuraj Mishra
02:07:36
Stay grounded,
Madhuraj Mishra
02:07:55
good to learn
KHADIJAH
02:08:38
LOL