Leanne Matlow
01:34:50
Can you please post the link to handouts? thank you
judybaum
01:35:57
who’s picking the music?? great job!
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
01:36:21
Judy its a team effort!!!
judybaum
01:36:37
love it!
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
01:36:47
agree!!!
Lindsay Matloff
01:37:03
Here is the link to this week's resource book: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1rjwFYtMa5aE5P8AS1Epi27SlNDzJ8WEO/view
Leanne Matlow
01:37:58
thank you!!
Karen Palayew
01:38:54
increasing skills to connect in a meaningful way with donors virtually
Victoria Singer
01:42:11
RBG!
Facilitator, Sarah Fels, JFNA
01:42:19
So true Vicki!
Leslie Pomerantz- Baltimore
01:43:19
authenticity
Jackie Shapiro
01:43:20
authentically
Lance Yeaman - Dallas
01:43:21
Authentic
Yael Sherman
01:43:21
authentic
Lisa Harris Glass
01:43:22
authenticity
Heather Kline
01:43:22
authneti
Cintra Pollack
01:43:22
authenticity
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
01:43:22
authentic
Stephanie Epstein
01:43:23
authentic
Lynn Harris
01:43:24
authentic
Jodi Heimler
01:43:24
autentically
Ari Ackerman
01:43:24
authentic!!!
Janice Benatar
01:43:25
Connecting authentically
Stacy Hoffman
01:43:25
authenticity
Amy Pollokoff
01:43:26
authentic
ornawolens
01:43:26
ability to connect
robinsysler
01:43:26
others
Facilitator, Leslie Dannin Rosenthal, Greater MetroWest
01:43:27
connection
Elise Rubenstein
01:43:27
Authentic
Facilitator/Julie Platt/LA
01:43:28
connect
arlenekleinberg
01:43:29
authentic
Dana Keller
01:43:29
connect
Myra Giesener
01:43:30
authenticity
Susan Solow-Dubin
01:43:30
empathy
Ellen Portnoy
01:43:31
empathy
Julie Tilson Stanley
01:43:31
connection
gitaberk
01:43:31
connecting
randy Morgenstern
01:43:32
inspire
Michael Friedman
01:43:33
motivate and inspire
Michelle Ostroff
01:43:34
authentic
Cintra Pollack
01:43:34
feelings
Brett Henry
01:43:35
connection
Devra Karger
01:43:36
authenticity
Rosita Beer
01:43:36
motivation
Jessica Grisez
01:43:36
motivate, inspire
debra levenstein
01:43:37
authentic connection
Steve Foldes
01:43:37
motivate
Karen Palayew
01:43:37
authentic, inspire
Laurie Goldstein
01:43:39
vulnerable; inspiring
David Waren
01:43:40
inspire....feelings
Laurie Birzon
01:43:41
motivate
gitaberk
01:43:42
authentic
Rebecca Brown
01:43:43
inspire
Victoria Singer
01:43:44
connect
simon
01:43:47
To be authentic
Rosita Beer
01:43:54
inspire
Suzette
01:43:56
outcome
Hope Levin
01:43:57
desired outcome
debra levenstein
01:51:04
insecurity
Yael Sherman
01:51:04
fear, anxiety,
Rebecca Brown
01:51:04
insecurity
David Waren
01:51:04
insecurity
Michelle Ostroff
01:51:04
nervous
Lynn Harris
01:51:05
closed
Stacy Hoffman
01:51:06
being closed
betsy heuer
01:51:07
insecurity
Cintra Pollack
01:51:07
Lack of conviction
Laurie Birzon
01:51:07
tension
Marcy Needle
01:51:08
aloof
Facilitator-Simone Knego-Sarasota
01:51:08
insecurity
Rebecca Pollack
01:51:08
insecurity
Michael Friedman
01:51:08
subservience
Lauri Roth
01:51:08
closed
Elise Rubenstein
01:51:09
Apologetic
Amy Arogeti
01:51:10
closed up
Karen Palayew
01:51:10
pleading
arlenekleinberg
01:51:10
anxiety
Facilitator, Scott Kaufman
01:51:11
insecurity
Suzette
01:51:11
uncomfortable
Julie Tilson Stanley
01:51:11
hesitant
Jewish Broward
01:51:11
Lack of confidence
Allison Baumwald
01:51:11
apologetic
Morris Garten
01:51:11
lack of confidence
Elissa Kagan
01:51:11
uncomfortable
Cathy Brook
01:51:13
timidity
Ellen Portnoy
01:51:13
begging
Facilitator/Julie Platt/LA
01:51:13
apologetic
Pamela Gottlieb
01:51:14
prepared for rejection
judybaum
01:51:15
begging
karen
01:51:15
uneasyt
Andie Temkin Gerszuny
01:51:16
discomfort
Judy Schlossberg
01:51:19
don't come near
susan spier chapman
01:51:22
uncertainty
Rosita Beer
01:51:23
uncomfortable
randy Morgenstern
01:51:51
Let’s get this over with
Heather
01:52:05
This is a Minnesota/Midwestern approach - that’s the first thing that came to my mind
hilarygreenberg
01:54:45
let's talk about everyone on their phones during zoom
ornawolens
01:55:01
So are we supposed to look into camera or not
Jeff Levin
01:57:30
when the cat's away the mice will play
Jackie Shapiro
01:57:31
without cats mice do what they want
Andrea Alfi
01:57:31
When the cat's away the mouse will play
Cintra Pollack
01:57:31
When the cats away the mice wiolplay
Marc Karlinsky
01:57:32
When the cat's away the mice will play
Lisa Harris Glass
01:57:33
when the cat's away the mouse will play
Sarah Green
01:57:33
When's the cat's away the mice will play
ornawolens
01:57:34
cats away mouse will play
Leanne Matlow
01:57:35
when the cat is away the mice pla
Yael Sherman
01:57:35
when the cat's away the mice will play
Melinda Michel
01:57:36
Whens the cats away the mice will play
Jen Bucklew
01:57:36
Whe the cats away the mice will play
judybaum
01:57:40
when the cat’s away
Miryam Rosenzweig
01:57:41
I did not get it
Cintra Pollack
01:57:53
Haste makes waste
Amy Pollokoff
01:58:01
haste makes waste
Yael Sherman
01:58:11
Freedom or death
Jodi Heimler
01:58:12
live or die
Jack Maizel
01:58:15
liberty or death
Amy Pollokoff
01:58:15
vote or die
Lance Yeaman - Dallas
01:58:15
give me liberty or give me death
Michelle Ostroff
01:58:28
give me liberty or give me death
Amy Bornstein
01:58:30
better late than never
Brian Seymour
01:58:33
better late than never
Sarah Shapiro
01:58:33
better late than never
Jen Bucklew
01:58:33
better late than never
arlenekleinberg
01:58:34
Better late than never
Rita Kelner
01:58:34
better late than ever
Amy Pollokoff
01:58:35
better late than never
Leslie Pomerantz- Baltimore
01:58:35
better late than never
Cathy Brook
01:58:36
better late
Julie Savitch
01:58:36
Better late than never
Brett Henry
01:58:37
better alte than never
Rosita Beer
01:58:46
Better late than ever
Julie Savitch
01:58:58
simplicity
Sandy Pollack
01:58:59
Keep it Simple Stupid
Michelle Ostroff
01:58:59
brevity is the soul of wit
Ofi Osin-Cohen
01:59:02
KI
judybaum
01:59:03
KISS
Michael Friedman
01:59:05
keepit simple stupid
Heather
01:59:06
eschew egregious obfuscations
Rosita Beer
01:59:07
kiss
Devra Karger
01:59:17
sweet and simple
Leslie Pomerantz- Baltimore
01:59:24
authenticity!!!!
judybaum
02:00:30
maya angelou
Ofi Osin-Cohen
02:00:36
and your follow up too
Michael Friedman
02:05:23
yes, but leaning in on zoom looks goofy
Judy Schlossberg
02:12:14
put aside your phone
Ariel Bentata
02:12:18
high interest in learning
Elissa Kagan
02:12:19
remove distractions
judybaum
02:12:20
meditate before call
Ariel Weiss
02:12:21
remove distractions
Drew Greenwald
02:12:22
Put the phone away for the entirety of the conversation
Stacy Wagerman
02:12:24
limit distractions
hilarygreenberg
02:12:24
ask questions
Scott Kaplan
02:12:24
take away distractions
Rebecca Pollack
02:12:25
Remove distractions
Judy Schlossberg
02:12:27
put aside your phone
Stacey Rubenfeld
02:12:28
Turn off your email notifications
Suzette
02:12:30
breathe
Jessica Grisez
02:12:34
get in the right head space
Michelle Ostroff
02:12:37
repeat back what you're hearing
Rita Kelner
02:12:38
ask more questions about the donor
Jeff Sopshin
02:12:39
ask open ended questions
Jahanna Semelroth
02:12:39
Let go of closing the gift in that moment.
Marni Allen
02:12:41
watch body language
Sarah Shapiro
02:12:42
find comfort in silence
Arlene Kleinberg
02:12:43
Feel comfortable
Michael Friedman
02:12:43
ask open ended questions
Leanne Matlow
02:12:45
ask them questions
Yanky Schorr
02:12:46
Decide to be rpresent prior to the conversation
Leslie Pomerantz- Baltimore
02:12:46
allow for silence
Scott Kaplan
02:12:48
create a proper work space
debra levenstein
02:12:48
really see the donor
karen
02:12:50
Take notes and remember information for next meeting
Stephanie Epstein
02:12:53
let go of time limits.
Michael Friedman
02:12:53
don't think about the ask
Ida Novack
02:12:53
turn off your internal dialogue
Judy Schlossberg
02:12:55
talk about a different subject for a minute
Heather Kline
02:12:56
Acknowledge when something is hard without offering solution
Morris Garten
02:12:56
Being better prepared makes me a better listener.
Michael Friedman
02:13:08
tune in on where the donor is coming from
Barbie Rogoff
02:16:20
It's like walking with a friend and she takes a non-essential phone call; I feel devalued when someone is multitasking when they called me or asked me to walk
Arlene Kleinberg
02:17:59
Dog lover
Devra Karger
02:18:01
he cares
Scott Kaplan
02:18:02
Cares about dogs
Jeff Levin
02:18:02
saving things is important to him.
Marc Karlinsky
02:18:03
they care about anima welfare
Diane Bakst
02:18:03
They care about otehrs
hilarygreenberg
02:18:03
it's not jewish
Stacy Hoffman
02:18:03
compassionate
Michael Friedman
02:18:03
he cares
Ida Novack
02:18:03
He has a kind soul
Miryam Rosenzweig
02:18:04
willing to meet with you
Cintra Pollack
02:18:04
rescue
Lynn Harris
02:18:05
he cares about others
judycoran
02:18:06
he is compassionalte
Andrea Weinberger
02:18:06
passionate
Barbie Rogoff
02:18:07
compassioin
Carolyn Gitlin
02:18:08
loves dogs
Marcy Needle
02:18:10
careabout animals - comapssionate
Ariel Bentata
02:18:10
most vulnerable
Facilitator/Julie Platt/LA
02:18:11
Caring and willing
Michelle Ostroff
02:18:11
rescue
Facilitator, Sarah Fels, JFNA
02:18:12
Environment
Laurie Mandell
02:18:12
you know he was willing to meet with you
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
02:18:13
Interesting person
Sara Zagdanski
02:18:14
he agreed to meet with you and hear about federation
Facilitator, Sarah Fels, JFNA
02:18:14
Life
Miryam Rosenzweig
02:18:14
new to town
gitaberk
02:18:14
caring
Ellen Portnoy
02:18:14
He met with you so he does like Jewish community
judybaum
02:18:18
rescue those in need
Ethan Behling
02:18:18
philanthropic
Toby Warticovschi
02:18:20
Cares about Jewish community
Jeff Levin
02:18:20
if he cares about dogs, kal va'chomer he must care about vulnerable people
Rita Kelner
02:18:21
Compassion about vulnerable
Carolyn Gitlin
02:18:22
very honest and open
Cintra Pollack
02:18:29
ha
Pamela Gottlieb
02:18:32
Is Rae a comedian in her other career?
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
02:18:53
Pamala better than a comedian
Facilitator, Leslie Dannin Rosenthal, Greater MetroWest
02:20:18
Rae, you are going into the Punmaker Hall of Fame
Brian Tarallo
02:20:19
"Muzzle."Ba-dum-tis
hilarygreenberg
02:22:02
Tell me....
Laurie Goldstein
02:22:10
Would love a list of great questions
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
02:22:36
Laurie we will generate one and send in the notes.
Judy Schlossberg
02:22:48
what makes you feel proud
Arlene Kleinberg
02:22:52
I agree - would like a list of great questions!
Laurie Goldstein
02:23:08
thank you!
Sandy Pollack
02:23:42
Being curious and fascinated about the person
Scott Kaplan
02:24:45
What inspired you to...
Marcy Needle
02:30:14
5 pm
Michelle Ostroff
02:30:15
5:00
Diane Bakst
02:30:15
5pm
Ariel Bentata
02:30:16
6
Judy Schlossberg
02:30:18
6 pm
judybaum
02:30:19
depends on the business
Lynn Harris
02:30:19
anytime
Ellen Portnoy
02:30:19
3:30 at a school
Rita Kelner
02:30:20
4
judycoran
02:30:20
depends where you are
Stephanie Epstein
02:30:23
before bed.
Scott Kaplan
02:30:23
should be 5pm, but never is
Ofi Osin-Cohen
02:30:24
never
Elissa Kagan
02:30:25
different for everyone
Stacy Hoffman
02:30:27
depends
Howard Weiner
02:30:31
when I quit
simon
02:30:37
Whenever I am contacted.
susan spier chapman
02:30:52
Different for each person
Lauri Roth
02:31:42
These are the elements of assertive training!
judybaum
02:32:25
will some people feel pressured? in women’s giving they often say “they have to talk to their husbands”
Judy Schlossberg
02:32:48
what if you ask for 10,000 and they planned to give 15,000
Ariel Bentata
02:33:51
a minimum of
Scott Kaplan
02:34:34
how do you feel about saying a "meaningful" gift?
Michael Friedman
02:34:47
I've often inadvertently asked for more than the rating and gotten the amount asked
Facilitator, Sarah Fels, JFNA
02:34:48
I’m not sure yet
Cintra Pollack
02:34:50
We always give
Stephanie Epstein
02:34:50
i'll think about it.
Facilitator/Julie Platt/LA
02:34:51
I need to discuss this with my spouse
Scott Kaplan
02:34:53
send me something
Michelle Ostroff
02:34:53
I will consider it and get back to you
Judy Schlossberg
02:34:53
I havae to discuss it with my husband
hilarygreenberg
02:34:54
i'll think about it
Facilitator, Gail Norry
02:34:54
I will think about it
Elissa Kagan
02:34:55
I need to talk to my husband
Laurie Birzon
02:34:55
Let me think about it.
Lynn Harris
02:34:55
I will think about it
judybaum
02:34:56
I need to talk to my husband but sounds ggod
Julie Gibbs
02:34:56
I'm not sure I need to talk to my spouse.
Brian Seymour
02:34:56
I need to speak with my spouse
Roz Blanck
02:34:56
Send me something in the mail
Alison Karmin
02:34:58
I’ll give by end of year
Lindsay Davidman
02:34:58
i can’t right now but ask me again later
Robin Agronin
02:34:59
ill think about it
Julie Tilson Stanley
02:34:59
Thanks for asking
Julie Savitch
02:34:59
I make my pledge in dec
Yanky Schorr
02:35:00
Ithink we already ygave
Suzette Diamond
02:35:00
Ill let you know
Janice Obuchowski
02:35:01
call another day
Shelly Kupfer
02:35:01
I’ll get back to you
Howard Weiner
02:35:04
times are hard
Jen Bucklew
02:35:07
need to talk to my spouse
Hope Levin
02:35:07
I give up north
Elissa Kagan
02:35:08
I'm on the other phone
Devra Karger
02:35:08
I need to talk with my accountant or attorney
judybaum
02:35:08
I already gave
Stephanie Epstein
02:35:11
i just gave.
judycoran
02:35:13
I’m so busy at work right now. please get back to me
Carolyn Gitlin
02:35:20
have to talk to husband
Carolyn Gitlin
02:35:28
call me in a month
Jodi Heimler
02:35:49
it could be a slow no
Ellen Portnoy
02:36:04
Also for older people, they have to check with their lawyer or financial advisor
Ariel Bentata
02:36:06
when could we talk next?
Ethan Behling
02:36:07
great, when can we speak again?
Stacey Rubenfeld
02:36:08
When would you like me to follow up with you
Stephanie Epstein
02:36:09
is there a good time that i can call you to check in?
Judy Schlossberg
02:36:09
when would be a good time to call
Toby Warticovschi
02:36:10
What are your reservations?
Jackie Shapiro
02:36:11
when would be a good time to connect again
Leanne Matlow
02:36:11
when can i get back to you
Jennifer Noparstak
02:36:11
When would be a good time to follow up
Michael Friedman
02:36:12
what sounded great
Robin Rogers
02:36:12
Is there more information I can share with you now
judycoran
02:36:13
That sounds great can i call you next monday
Julie Savitch
02:36:13
How about a call on friday
gitaberk
02:36:14
she is a good time touch base again
Danielle Minson
02:36:14
Great. Can you let me know when we can speak next?
Devra Karger
02:36:16
When can I be in contact
Lynn Harris
02:36:16
Do you think you could chat next week?
Laurie Birzon
02:36:16
Ill call you on Tuesday to follow up.
Heather Kline
02:36:16
When is a good time to circle back
Elise’s iPad
02:36:18
Can we arrange another time to talk?
Ida Novack
02:36:19
Can I give you a call in two weeks?
Yanky Schorr
02:36:20
Ill touch base is Monday or Tuesday better for you?
judybaum
02:36:21
can I call you next tuesday
Tamar Stern
02:36:22
Can I get back to you in a week
Facilitator, Gail Norry
02:36:23
Can I call you in a wek
Steve Foldes
02:36:24
When can I follow up?
Facilitator Wendy Abrams Chicago
02:36:27
when would a good time for me to get back to you
Karen Getelman
02:36:32
when can I get back to you
Leslie Pomerantz- Baltimore
02:36:33
I will call you on Tuesday, which time is better, 10 or 3?
Jack Maizel
02:36:43
we budget by so & so date and we want to include your gift
Robin Rogers
02:36:46
Is there more information I can share with you now
Lindsay Davidman
02:36:58
when is the best time for me to follow up
Judy Schlossberg
02:37:06
are there things that are not clear
Devra Karger
02:37:13
May I circle back next Monday at 5
Yanky Schorr
02:37:14
talk me through your apprehensions
judybaum
02:37:17
what if they hang up on you??
Michelle Ostroff
02:37:29
I will put a tickler on my calendar and call you in two weeks
Jahanna Semelroth
02:37:50
Do you consider "I'll give before the end of the year." a non-response?
Ofi Osin-Cohen
02:37:52
thank them for considering the request
Dot Haymann
02:37:54
I will make a note on my calendar to call you next week
Eric Brandt
02:38:23
Always close with a confirmed next step
Judy Schlossberg
02:39:44
aren't you giving them an easy out
hilarygreenberg
02:40:25
that's keeping it real and authentic!
Andie Temkin Gerszuny
02:41:48
LAST- Listen, apologize, solve, thank
hilarygreenberg
02:42:18
turning a negative into a positive
Leslie Pomerantz- Baltimore
03:10:22
Chicago and Toronto are doing something really great
Facilitator/Julie Platt/LA
03:10:29
We are getting to know each other’s faces - connecting through zoom and making new friends while working together.
Roz Blanck
03:11:21
ditto
Shelly Kupfer
03:11:48
Yay Heather!!
Cintra Pollack
03:11:52
If one-sip fails, try guilt . . .
Facilitator, Sarah Fels, JFNA
03:11:55
Go Heather!
Dot Haymann
03:12:02
Great breakout group.. Thanks for speaking out
Judy Schlossberg
03:12:30
wonderful FRD! Learning and feeling so much each week
Facilitator, Leslie Dannin Rosenthal, Greater MetroWest
03:12:45
Here for you, Rae
Carolyn Gitlin
03:12:51
heather you are always so wise
Facilitator, Gail Norry
03:12:54
Making them feel proud
Dani Weinstein
03:13:57
Yay, Jessica!!!
Andrea Weinberger
03:14:05
Yay Jessisca
Facilitator, Sarah Fels, JFNA
03:14:08
Thank you Wendy!
Facilitator, Gail Norry
03:14:09
Yay Wendy! Philly got that idea from an NWP call
Lynn Harris
03:14:19
Make sure you do call them back. It really means a lot
Shelly Kupfer
03:14:29
Go Wendy!!
Dani Weinstein
03:14:35
Awesome SSD!!!
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
03:14:55
yay susan solow dubin
Ariel Weiss
03:15:03
beautiful
debra levenstein
03:15:14
from Miriam: We find ourselves at a historic moment in time that will define us for years to come. Future generations will look back and measure the character of our community and of our leadership. They will measure us by the standard of a 2,000-year-old Talmudic mandate: Kol yisrael arevim zeh bazeh, All Jews are responsible for one another.
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
03:15:20
That also echos what Rabbi Marc Baker talked about
Shelly Kupfer
03:15:32
Yes Andrea!
Faciltator, Andrea B. Wasserman, Boston
03:16:57
many lay/pro partners are doing the early morning walk and talk
Dana Margolis
03:23:39
Recognition is HUGE!
Arlene Kleinberg
03:24:41
THANK YOU Rae! You are a gem!
Lindsay Matloff
03:24:56
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Marcy Needle
03:24:56
THANK YOU!
Rae Ringel
03:25:04
rae@ringelgroup.com
judybaum
03:25:07
thanks Rae!!
Michelle Ostroff
03:25:11
thank you Rae and our breakout facilitator the incomparable Linda Hurwitz
Lindsay Matloff
03:25:19
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Rosita Beer
03:25:26
Thank you
debra levenstein
03:25:53
thank you - great session
Miryam Rosenzweig
03:26:06
great session. thank you!