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NDU Online Gathering 3/27 Recording - Shared screen with speaker view
James Kaplan
10:28
great to be with everyone! Hi from Boston
Brittany Torstrup
10:46
Hi from Jersey!
Polly Jacobs
10:50
Hi James! Excited to be with you too!
RC
10:58
Hi from Virginia
Sandy Bacharach
11:02
Greetings from Portland, Oregon!
mike titmus
11:08
hoo
Wendy DeGroat
11:08
Hi from Virginia too - hey, RC
Rachelle Weiss Crane
11:22
hi from Dallas
mike titmus
11:29
hello
dboggs
11:34
Hi from Tucson Arizona. Hope everyone is well
Lauren Oldenburg
11:35
Hello from Missouri!
Amina Omar
11:36
Hello from Maryland
Ava Safaie
11:40
Thank you for this! Hi from DC
Terri Smith
11:40
Hi from IL
jessicaozalp
11:40
Wisconsin
Isabel Mares
11:42
NEW YORK CITY
Juliette Llewellyn
11:42
From Wales uk
Sarah Sabia
11:43
hi from san francisco
RC
11:43
Hi Wendy
Laura Shell
11:43
Hello from Nebraska!
Ali
11:44
Hey from Buffaol, NY!
PJCC Zoom4
11:44
hi from Oakland
trish
11:44
New Mexico!
mike titmus
11:46
London :)
Lisa
11:50
California!
Arb Kasemsantitham
11:51
Hey from Jersey as well!
Ali
11:52
Whoops. Buffalo hahah
Felix Thalmann
11:54
Germany ;)
Helen
12:01
from New Jersey
Corwin Derkatch
12:05
Hi from SK, Canada
Ali
12:17
Awesome! Practically neighbors!
LindaB
12:17
Southern California
Madlin Mangrum
12:32
Hi Kim!!! 😘
Karla’s iPhone
12:36
Ca
Bethany
12:39
Florida!
Erianne Raib-Ptichkin
12:42
Youngstown, Ohio
jmedrzycki
12:43
Kentucky, but from buffalo :)))
Steven Green
12:44
At home
cp
12:45
NYC
randizucker
12:46
Another Jersey!
Paula Simka
12:47
San Jose, California
Scott Clodfelter
12:48
Asheville, NC
Eli
12:48
Ontario, Canada
Lisa
12:49
North Carolina
Swetlitz, Marc
12:50
Naperville, IL
Ellen Newman
12:52
San Francisco
Colin
12:53
Toronto Canada !
Renee Hicks
12:54
Mercersburg, PA
Megan Sherer
12:55
NYC!
Victoria Wilson
12:57
Sherwood, Oregon
Amy Livchak
12:57
Ohio
Steven Green
13:01
Corte Madera, CA
Allison Wexler
13:01
Tucson Arizona!
Julie Barrett O'Brien
13:04
Concord, Massachusetts
monica_schuet
13:08
San Jose, CA
Mark
13:23
Hello Oneonta, NY
trish
13:46
Host volume is low
Brittany Torstrup
14:06
agreed
dboggs
14:34
Kim, can you speak a little louder?
Renee Hicks
14:52
agree on the vlume
Renee Hicks
14:55
volume
trish
14:57
Mic needs to be closer to mouth
mike titmus
15:31
I can hear okay :)
Ava Safaie
15:31
Yes volume is too low
Wendy DeGroat
15:31
sounds ok to me
RC
15:32
I can hear you better now
Erica Streit-Kaplan
15:32
I can hear fine
JCLH
15:33
I turned up my volume and it was fine
cp
15:34
You are loud and clear.
randizucker
15:39
That is better now
Renee Hicks
15:41
It is better with the mic closer
Erianne Raib-Ptichkin
15:43
That's a little better - it's just lagging quite a bit.
Ali
15:49
Much better!
trish
15:54
A little better
Sarah Sabia
15:55
better
Lauren Oldenburg
15:55
Better :)
Amina Omar
15:57
Better
Polly Jacobs
15:58
Thanks everyone! If you can please turn up your volume that will help!
trish
17:18
Audio just got a LOT better
Ava Safaie
17:28
lol Yes!
Erianne Raib-Ptichkin
19:54
That felt great!
Juliette Llewellyn
21:49
breaking up a bit
Brittany Torstrup
21:55
Breaking up a lot for me
Juliette Llewellyn
21:59
The sound
internet
22:00
same
Colin Brown
22:03
Same
MARIELLA
22:03
breaking up a lot
Diana Gleaton
22:04
Distortion and feedback
cp
22:04
Audio is very distorted.
mike titmus
22:07
its all breaking up wifi broke :(
cp
22:21
And audio delay.
Renee Hicks
22:26
The audio is breaking up, coming in an out, static-y
mike titmus
22:32
sounds like robot
kboling
22:34
Same here
Isabel Mares
22:36
really delayed audio
Kimberley Summers
22:38
Message on my screen saying Kim's network bandwidth is low, probably causing static and breakup
MARIELLA
22:40
hi from Greece in lockdown!
katherynramp
22:43
much better!
cp
22:44
yes
Colin Brown
22:45
Yes !
Amina Omar
22:45
yes
Isabel Mares
22:46
yes you’re fine
mike titmus
22:46
helloo
Lauren Oldenburg
22:47
yes!
RC
22:47
I can hear you Tiffany
Wendy DeGroat
22:47
you may want to put your airpod back on, Kim
Nicole Whitaker
22:50
YES BETTER
MARIELLA
22:50
yes we can hear you great!
dboggs
22:51
much bettr
Wendy DeGroat
22:52
Tiffany - you sound fine
trish
23:07
can hear tiffany great
Colin Brown
23:29
Tiffany and Tracy sound great !
Isabel Mares
23:33
kim’s connectivity is the problem
mike titmus
23:37
hello
Joe Fineman
23:38
You are fine. Kim image was frozen and voice breaking up. Tiff fine
Brittany Torstrup
23:41
can Kim go on mute
Colin Brown
24:44
Absolutely incredible book!!!
Sandy: she/her, Portland OR
24:47
We go screen-free from 5pm - 8am one night/week…not much, but it’s something!
Lauren Oldenburg
25:05
Yes, HIGHLY recommend her book, 24/6!!
Kim Cavallo
25:17
Thanks everyone for your patience with the audio stuff
Colin Brown
25:24
No problem at all!
Lauren Oldenburg
25:40
No problem, Kim!
mike titmus
25:46
i do 9pm every night :)
Joe Fineman
25:51
On screening shabbat has been a lifeline
internet
25:52
also lookout connecting online but what kind of deep connection ;), love this thank you
Renee Hicks
27:39
may have missed somewhere - but will this full recording be available after the meeting? I can only stay for 1/2 of this.
Polly Jacobs
28:00
Yes! We are recording this talk and will be sending it out later
Colin Brown
28:30
Amazing!
mike titmus
28:31
i got website getridoftech.com if anyone wants to go on it :)
Renee Hicks
28:33
Great - thank you.
Terri Smith
28:39
I most definitely feel that too much tech is contributing to anxiety. A quote in the book that starts out "because we can do anything, anytime..." resonated with me--I think about that a lot!
mike titmus
29:00
www.getridoftech.com
dboggs
29:02
Thank you for putting this out there. Being connected 24/7 is something that I have resisted forever. I am cell phone free and surface pro free every evening from the time I get home until I get to work in the morning. Now that we are all working from home, I have to remind myself that work is 8am to 5pm
Ali
31:27
YES. Getting rid of my alarm clock was the best thing I've ever done.
Juliette Llewellyn
32:14
yes I don’t look at my phone until after breakfast
Terri Smith
32:33
so tough to break the addiction!
internet
33:58
i think why some may struggle is because of dopamine hits, plus them not knowing what to do instead, or sometimes if we can even stop and do NOTHING for 5 mins, literally. and enjoying that, just one idea
Sandy: she/her, Portland OR
34:05
putting my kid on tech so I can stay engaged - haha
mike titmus
34:37
that's true do nothing
monica_schuet
35:22
Yes! Same!
mike titmus
36:08
maybe I might try tech sabbath
jessicaozalp
36:13
It’s so true that I get distracted from reading deeply if my phone’s nearby!!
RC
36:31
I find the same. I put my phone away so I can read.
jessicaozalp
37:02
How do you convince a partner to put the phone away since it isn’t a kid you can make follow your tech-free rules? ...
internet
37:07
I’m good with not using phone, my habits like to ocnitneu to transform is desktop, i personally choose NO DATA plan so wifi only. I understand not everyone can do that
Donna Sweidan
37:43
Will there be a recording of this conversation? I really want to listen but can’t stay on
Colin Brown
37:49
Yes
Colin Brown
38:00
Unsure of how it'll be distributed, however
internet
38:10
ive tried scheduling intent times and sometime successful sadly often not i heard saying before 99% is abitch 100% is breeze though i know doesn’t have to be black and white
Joe Fineman
38:11
But how much info do we truly need. And every moment? Nuts.
Donna Sweidan
38:28
thanks
mike titmus
38:42
i have hard time scheduling times always end up breaking and gets stressful
mike titmus
39:12
there's too much choice nowadays
Joe Fineman
39:27
Tech shabbat. What a worthy concept and a meditation reminder
mike titmus
40:51
do you go on phone in tech sabbath to call people or emails?
internet
40:55
yay appreciation and gratitude, thank you, law of attraction abraham hicks ;)
Tawny Michelle’s iPhone
41:58
we use a land line .
internet
41:58
i find social connecting great but find places like Facebook actually isolate more, I miss the days whenpeopel met more in person though it is what it is i guess
Tawny Michelle’s iPhone
42:04
amish
mike titmus
42:19
should we go and live in a cave?
Ellen Newman
42:41
Our synagogue is doing Shabbat services over Zoom. They have been wonderfully connecting.
monica_schuet
43:05
YES! From zoom meeting for work and zoom meeting for kids doing distance learning—it feels so unnatural.
internet
43:08
interesting though find text so cold, I’m glad works for some people
Joe Fineman
44:22
Doing shabbat on Facebook with family from five cities. Glorious. This virus has brought so much to our family life.
mike titmus
44:25
she froze
Laura Shell
44:37
Microsoft Outlook's new tools are really interesting. They tell you how much time you're spending in different ways.
mike titmus
45:10
shes on here phone
Amina Omar
45:44
Yes! tech-free bedroom has been great!
Terri Smith
45:59
As someone who lives alone, it's great to work on being okay with being alone and not feeling this need to look on social media for constant 'connection' with others
internet
46:04
im riding cover updates, ok but looking at is there even really an news what I can do about it = why watch it, different o of feel fear and let it go vs staying infer = no thanks, love people here want a different way perhaps.
Erica Streit-Kaplan
48:04
Some people here have asked about how to convince a spouse to unplug. In my experience, it's pretty easy to make a rule for kids, but my spouse really enjoys his cell phone on Shabbat. It was frustrating for me but I have learned to respect that and focus on what is good for ME, not him.
internet
48:06
ive had struggles with baits my time is morning being worst and have had small wins but still would love hear more tools advice on that one, though i know it’s up to me
Nadya Gross
48:53
Thank you so much for doing this. It feels very isolating and exhausting to be a single parent, trying to find a balance with my kids (14 and 19), who are fighting me every step of the way. And yet I know that they want more limits on a deep level. It is very helpful to have this support from other adults who feel the same. Thank you!
Terri Smith
49:07
Another great book in addition to Tiffany's is Bored and Brilliant by Manoush Zomoradi. It's great to let yourself be 'bored' sometimes!
Erica Streit-Kaplan
49:10
https://hebrewcollege.edu/blog/shabbat-at-our-home/
kboling
49:33
Why call it “tech Shabbat’ and not ‘tech-free Shabbat”? Curious…
internet
49:37
animals are never using tech and seem pretty happy ;)
mike titmus
50:06
i need to do work on computer though? How can I do a tech sabbath and call people?
internet
50:12
love to hear more about the new habits instead
Joe Fineman
50:31
New habits. yeah
mike titmus
51:01
cal Newport is a good author for stuff like this
Nadya Gross
51:47
How does the lack of “Default Mode” hinder adolescents’ ability to learn, have an inner life,develop cognitively?
internet
52:00
one tip i learned form mindfulness group (phones aren’t my issue) is when you look at your phone, bring your awareness to the outside field of view of the phone like look beyond the phone makes you become more present in moment
internet
52:56
thank you!
Wendy DeGroat
53:38
doesn't research also show that gratitude practices also increase your empathy?
Terri Smith
55:18
@Tiffany, I so appreciated that you make it clear in the book that parents do have control over their kids--I encounter many parents who don't think there's anything they can do about their kids' technology use
Colin Brown
55:30
This is gold
internet
55:46
love that about boredom, thank you for reminder
Allison Titley
55:47
Ha! Thats how I raised my son around boredom. He's 20 now and I've heard him tell his friends "cool" when they mention they are bored.
MARIELLA
56:04
this is fantastic thank you! im so grateful for you sharing all of this
mike titmus
56:19
can we just go on tech less without a strict one day a week?
Sandy: she/her, Portland OR
57:02
You can do whatever you want!
Erianne Raib-Ptichkin
57:11
I have to get to another meeting, but really looking forward to the recording for the rest of the talk. Thank you!!!
Marc Engel
57:18
Her book, 24/6, has so much richness in it. Well worth the full-read: it’s educational and motivating—and a fun read!
Ellen Newman
57:36
Can you add links to your websites? That would be so helpful.
internet
57:49
am excited to try once week though know back of my mind is like what! lol
mike titmus
58:02
haha im scared to do once a week
Sandy: she/her, Portland OR
58:42
My kid’s list is more time for video games - haah!!
Nadya Gross
58:49
mine too!
Linda
58:55
Thank you so much, Tiffany, Tracy, Kim. Imanaged to get here by 3. Please do it again soon.
Eve Cronje
59:01
I actively try to promote boredom with my kids. For example, on any car trip that is 4 hours or less, they are not allow to have any tech. That way they are forced to look out of the window and daydream, or (yikes) have a conversation with their parents.
RC
59:01
I have to limit video games for my stepson.
RC
59:55
We play board games in an effort to reduce screen time for our family.
internet
01:00:21
yes power of habit is pretty good book also on this
Colin Brown
01:00:31
^ incredible book!
internet
01:00:57
i think part of my issue is the social connection which is wthe where /how dot get your friend or those whom you DO want to connect with off the net
Linda
01:01:31
I met Tiffany's almost 17-yr old daughter (at MOMA) and was so impressed. She is beautiful, inwardly as well as outwardly.
mike titmus
01:01:45
too much Netflix is bad
Tiffany Shlain
01:01:48
Info on my book 24/6 where i have all my thoughts on this 24Sixlife.com & Anyone who wants join the online zoom challah baking class next friday https://www.24sixlife.com/challah-recipe
cp
01:02:04
Is it really working for people to really listen to this conversation and simultaneously keep up with the chat? Doesn’t for me. Feels like this is related to the issues being discussed.
Ellen Newman
01:02:24
Thanks Tiffany!!
internet
01:03:08
have to communicate somwhow
Sandy: she/her, Portland OR
01:03:58
This conversation - and chat! - have been incredible. Thank you so much!!!
Wendy DeGroat
01:04:15
You can dowlnload chat by clicking 3 dots in your chat box
Kimberley Summers
01:04:15
Thank you for the effort made here. Great info and ideas. I appreciate the personal stories and tips.
Erin Bartolo
01:04:15
I think you can export the chat as a pdf to accompany the video link
Marc Engel
01:04:20
Thank you, Kim, Tracy and Tiffany!
dboggs
01:04:21
Thank you for doing this today. LOVED the reminders. Stay well. Do something for yourself. we are all worth it
internet
01:04:24
i liked seeing what others say in chat is interesting
Brittany Torstrup
01:04:32
Copy and paste the chat!!
Rachelle Weiss Crane
01:04:39
thank you!
Colin Brown
01:04:42
This has been absolutely incredible, thank you all so much for organizing this!!!
cp
01:04:44
Yes I’d love to check out the chat another time.
Swetlitz, Marc
01:04:45
Don't believe it's captured in the recording, but can save it.
RC
01:04:47
Thank you everyone!
Wendy DeGroat
01:04:49
click three dots in chat box and click "save chat"
Erin Bartolo
01:04:54
Thanks so much! I joined late and cant wait to watch the recording.
Digital Wellness Collective
01:04:57
You can save the chat, too!
Lauren Oldenburg
01:05:03
Thank you, Kim, Tracy, and Tiffany !
Polly Jacobs
01:05:08
I will save the chat!
Ellen Newman
01:05:09
There is a way to save the chat. Hit the 3 dots in right of your chat box.
Juliette Llewellyn
01:05:11
Thankyou! :)
Paula Simka
01:05:12
Thank you!
Joe Fineman
01:05:13
Bye. Lovely