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Nonflict: The Art of Everyday Peacemaking - Shared screen with speaker view
David Kynan
20:13
all good
David Kynan
20:28
Rossy Cancer Network
David Kynan
20:29
Chateauguay
Jennifer S
20:29
Vancouver, BC
Mercedes Amoretti
20:29
Montreal, QC
Raphael Debionne
20:32
Ville LaSalle
Monica
20:35
Hello, I am from Montreal and working from home
Celanie Bouchard
20:35
Lévis, QC
David Kynan
20:36
Ottawa, Canada
David Kynan
20:36
Montreal
Michael Tutak
20:36
St Laurent, QC
Magali ANCELOT
20:36
Montreal, QC
David Kynan
20:37
Montreal
Frances Power
20:39
Outremont, QC
Aleksander Apkarian
20:39
Anjou!
David Altmann
20:39
Montreal, Quebec
Louise F
20:39
Montreal
Max Masterson
20:41
The United States
Buchere Philip
20:42
Buchere Philip from Kenya and hi everyone
Ali El Sayegh
20:42
Hi: ) Laval, Québec
Kathy / Eric
20:42
Montreal
David Kynan
20:44
Montréal
Barbara Vaz
20:45
Saint-Lazare, QC
Donna Morrison
20:45
DonnA Lasalle
Greg Rajewski
20:47
Montreal ;)
Max Masterson
20:48
Boston
Carlis Rejon
20:57
Montreal
Elizabeth Drew
21:00
London, UK
David Kynan
21:03
Hello everyone. Greetings from Gatineau, QC Canada.
David Kynan
21:04
Hello from Montreal
David Kynan
21:04
Montréal csl
Jingyi Wang
21:07
Hi everyone, calling from Montreal
Lenore Beitel
21:14
NDG
Afreen Hashmi
21:16
Mumbai, India
Eleanor Gull
21:16
Waswanipi, Quebec (Northern Quebec)
Maja Saric
22:00
Hi from Montreal!
Carola Weil
22:24
Hello everyone. Thank you for joining us today.
David Kynan
22:32
Hello from Montreal!
Maja Saric
23:50
How nice that you met your wife here!
Aleksander Apkarian
24:30
Conflicted!
Donna Morrison
24:43
uncertain. but taking time to reevaluate
Frances Power
24:44
OK, Keeping busy teaching!
Jennifer S
24:47
Lucky
David Kynan
24:51
feeling fine!
Celanie Bouchard
24:55
i feel blessed and apprehensive
Barbara Vaz
25:19
My family is back in Brazil, I'm pretty worried...
Liuba Bratita
25:20
Very exhaustive
David Kynan
25:21
Anxious. Would like to connect with family.
Marie Gravelle
25:24
I’m OK even with an autoimmune disease
Afreen Hashmi
25:24
Grateful and scared
David Kynan
25:28
Tired but fine
Michael Tutak
25:32
Exhausting and frustrated
Filipe Werneck
25:38
fear/anxiety
Carrie Mazoff
25:41
morw
Carlis Rejon
25:42
More
Kathy / Eric
25:42
more
Max Masterson
25:42
more
Raphael Debionne
25:42
More
Barbara Vaz
25:42
More
Liuba Bratita
25:43
family and working frustrating
Frances Power
25:43
More
Magali ANCELOT
25:43
more conflict
Michael Tutak
25:45
Much more!
ewa wlosinska
25:46
more
Liuba Bratita
25:46
more
Cristina Mino
25:47
def more
David Kynan
25:47
More
Celanie Bouchard
25:47
more in my case
Aleksander Apkarian
25:48
Exponentially more.
Donna Morrison
25:53
more conflict less patience
David Kynan
25:54
impatience
Maja Saric
25:55
I am overwhelmed with obligations but no one can come to help from ourside
Buchere Philip
25:57
More conflict
Liuba Bratita
26:05
extremely especially in family
Maja Saric
26:08
Yes, more conflict
Marie Gravelle
26:19
No change
ewa wlosinska
26:34
frustration of not living up to all the expectations
Mercedes Amoretti
26:52
Tense
Magali ANCELOT
26:52
uncomfortable
Liuba Bratita
26:53
extremely angry
Mélanie DesRosiers
26:54
Resentment
Ali El Sayegh
26:56
Stress
Raphael Debionne
26:56
Frustrated
Frances Power
26:57
fatigued
Celanie Bouchard
26:58
i feel inadequate
Max Masterson
26:59
annoyed
Michael Tutak
26:59
Apprehensive and irritated
ewa wlosinska
27:02
impatient
McGill School of Continuing Studies
27:03
discomfort
David Kynan
27:04
Anxious, nervous
Maja Saric
27:05
Stress
Donna Morrison
27:05
bored locked up
Buchere Philip
27:05
anger and resentment
Jennifer S
27:07
claustrophobic
Carola Weil
27:08
tense
Kathy / Eric
27:08
frustrated annoyed sad
Jean A. Michaël
27:13
no where to run away from
David Kynan
27:20
Anger. Frustration. Helpless.
Carola Weil
27:24
empowered
Afreen Hashmi
27:52
frustration, anger, helplessness, confused
Mélanie DesRosiers
27:59
Disagreement
Aleksander Apkarian
28:01
Fundamental disagreements
Greg Rajewski
28:02
confrontation
Maja Saric
28:04
Disagreement
Barbara Vaz
28:06
Confrontation
Max Masterson
28:07
Opposing goals
Liuba Bratita
28:07
disagreement
Raphael Debionne
28:10
Confrontation
Mélanie DesRosiers
28:14
Opposing desires
Carola Weil
28:14
Clash of views
Jean A. Michaël
28:15
an opportunity to control anger
Michael Tutak
28:16
Two or more parties/feelings clashing
Buchere Philip
28:22
a situation where there is disagreement
Mercedes Amoretti
28:35
Opposing views
Ramzi Jabbour
28:58
glass with bubbles would be nice
Michael Tutak
30:18
Dismissed
ewa wlosinska
30:21
ignored
Aleksander Apkarian
30:22
Ignored
Mélanie DesRosiers
30:22
Dismissed
David Kynan
30:24
Unheard
Maja Saric
30:28
not honest
Frances Power
30:29
Concerned
Liuba Bratita
30:31
that he is not interested in what I am saying
Raphael Debionne
30:31
they don’t care
David Kynan
30:32
Untrusting.
Buchere Philip
30:33
ignored
Louise F
30:34
They aren't listening to me at all
Jennifer S
30:37
unimportant
Ali El Sayegh
30:40
Miss human connection
Anoushka Dabeedial
30:47
the person is paying half attention, is distracted by some other thoughts
Celanie Bouchard
31:03
maybe the other person is not comfortable
Max Masterson
34:07
yes
Mélanie DesRosiers
34:08
Yes
Aleksander Apkarian
34:10
This guy
Golnaz Rasouli
34:10
yes
Celanie Bouchard
34:11
not me...
Eleanor Gull
34:11
yes
Dania Szanajda
34:13
yes
Kathy / Eric
34:14
yes
David Kynan
34:14
yes
Frances Power
34:16
No
Liuba Bratita
34:16
yes, always
ewa wlosinska
34:20
face it, respond to oneès point
Jean A. Michaël
34:21
yes
Donna Morrison
34:22
no
Mélanie DesRosiers
34:24
Not having to deal with uncomfortable emotions
Maja Saric
34:28
yes but eventually it comes back
Jingyi Wang
34:29
Won’t hurt relationship
Donna Morrison
34:31
put problem off
Kathy / Eric
34:31
Pro: not c0oonflict!
David Kynan
34:33
It doesn't go away. You can't escape.
Ramzi Jabbour
34:33
pro not cause more rupture in relationship
Golnaz Rasouli
34:33
less argument
Celanie Bouchard
34:36
cons: it will get out eventually and probably the wrong way
Donna Morrison
34:48
not resolved
Michael Tutak
34:50
No for mePro is not having to deal with the conflict in front of youCon is the conflict is now behind you
David Kynan
34:51
yes
McGill School of Continuing Studies
34:51
More conflict
ewa wlosinska
34:53
appreciate on'e honesty
Buchere Philip
34:55
avoiding conflict ensures that one is subjugated throughout
Liuba Bratita
34:57
oh yes
David Kynan
35:08
never
Frances Power
35:09
No
Celanie Bouchard
35:10
me, especially with my kids
Donna Morrison
35:17
never
Raphael Debionne
35:17
temptation is high
Barbara Vaz
35:18
no
Liuba Bratita
35:19
no, just screaming
David Kynan
35:26
The other person does that.
Michael Tutak
35:37
Brute force reconciliation
Frances Power
35:39
None
Carrie Mazoff
35:39
alienate the other
Celanie Bouchard
35:42
pro: immediate repsonse
Louise F
35:44
Escalation
Buchere Philip
35:45
it hurts the other party
Filipe Werneck
35:47
regret
Liuba Bratita
35:51
I know that they will not want to deal with me anymore
Mélanie DesRosiers
35:51
The person doesn’t voluntarily agree
Jean A. Michaël
35:51
does not resolve problem
ewa wlosinska
35:52
indicating consequences?
Celanie Bouchard
35:53
con: the relationship can’t be broken
David Kynan
35:53
It doesn't help.
David Kynan
36:00
makes things worse
David Kynan
36:02
poisons the relationship
Jean A. Michaël
36:13
force invites force
Donna Morrison
36:17
limits relationship growth..and trust
David Kynan
36:24
It’s contagious.
Liuba Bratita
36:25
will imitate and will use it in other circumstances
Michael Tutak
36:30
Creates an adversarial resolution relationship
David Kynan
36:52
you never get what you want
Mélanie DesRosiers
36:53
You stop arguing
Celanie Bouchard
36:53
insatisfaction
Kathy / Eric
36:55
Pro: conflict avoided~
Eleanor Gull
37:02
theyll keep asking
Maja Saric
37:03
not creating respect
Aleksander Apkarian
37:03
Conflict is avoided but only one party is satisfied as opposed to both.
Filipe Werneck
37:04
situation unresolved
David Kynan
37:04
You install that habit
Mélanie DesRosiers
37:05
But as a con, you don’t get your need met
Buchere Philip
37:08
they tend to always take advantage of you as weak
Carola Weil
37:10
New hierarchies established
Michael Tutak
37:12
The confrontation is avoided butThere is now a "winner" and a "loser"
David Kynan
37:21
resentment
David Kynan
37:29
It's just paying lip service usually.
Jonathan Ragas
37:32
being too submissive is a disadvantage
Donna Morrison
37:48
get taken for granted
Kathy / Eric
37:53
lemons taste bad
David Kynan
37:56
both get what they want
Mélanie DesRosiers
37:57
Everyone gets part of what they want
Eleanor Gull
37:58
its fair
Jonathan Ragas
37:58
amicable agreement
David Kynan
38:02
It's not satisfying.
Liuba Bratita
38:02
take for granted
Mélanie DesRosiers
38:06
But it’s a lot of work
Carola Weil
38:06
satisficing not adding value
Buchere Philip
38:08
Both parties win
McGill School of Continuing Studies
38:08
nobody gets what they need
Ali El Sayegh
38:08
Actually lemon tastes good! : )
Donna Morrison
38:10
compromise
Louise F
38:12
May not come to the best resolution
Ramzi Jabbour
38:13
lemonade together better
David Kynan
38:18
Sometimes everyone is satisfied sometimes no one is satisfied
ewa wlosinska
38:19
sometimes necessary
Max Masterson
38:23
Less resentment
Liuba Bratita
38:27
there is always be one who is nor satisfied
Jean A. Michaël
39:02
depends of what is halved not always half of same think
Ramzi Jabbour
39:09
love it
Mélanie DesRosiers
39:11
Hahahahah
Maja Saric
39:23
great exemple:)
Celanie Bouchard
39:31
I’ll use that story for sure!
David Altmann
39:54
Good illustration of not communicating. True!
Maja Saric
40:26
depends on situation and person
Celanie Bouchard
40:26
non violent communication
Donna Morrison
40:35
combo
Thais Turanski
41:36
Depends on the relationship and situation
Michael Tutak
41:56
Force/Fold
Oumou Keita
42:06
full blown force!
Donna Morrison
42:24
force/fold
Liuba Bratita
42:25
my farther was beating my mother
ewa wlosinska
42:40
Mixed negotiations and force of "consequences"
Barbara Vaz
42:48
50/50
Mélanie DesRosiers
44:32
100%
Carola Weil
51:33
Please mute your microphones
Maja Saric
51:48
What is someone doesn't want to share during Understanding phase?
Aleksander Apkarian
01:00:22
Incredibly impressive, bravo!
Barbara Vaz
01:00:36
Incredible!
Maja Saric
01:00:42
Congratulations!
Thais Turanski
01:00:45
That’s wonderful!
Eleanor Gull
01:00:48
Awesome
Buchere Philip
01:01:25
great teaching innovation
Greg Rajewski
01:03:22
wow
Mélanie DesRosiers
01:03:54
How do you enable the nonflict method when all you see is red when the argument begins?
Greg Rajewski
01:04:13
Thank you so much Mr Hecht
Cristina Mino
01:04:42
thank you so much!
Liuba Bratita
01:04:43
thank you very much for your stories
David Kynan
01:04:48
Thank you
Barbara Vaz
01:04:52
Thank you!!!
David Kynan
01:04:53
thank you
Eleanor Gull
01:04:54
Thank you very much
Ali El Sayegh
01:04:55
A great pleasure
Michael Tutak
01:04:58
It would be wonderful to have a kindle version, thank you so much for the broadcast
Celanie Bouchard
01:05:00
thank you very much!
Aleksander Apkarian
01:05:02
Thank you Mr. Hecht, very helpful!
anne del mar Gomez
01:05:03
Thank you so much
Maja Saric
01:05:03
I am interested in a book
Bianca Lucin
01:05:10
the email please?
ELENI Marko
01:05:16
thank you!!
Simona Lupu
01:05:20
I am also interested in a book
Mélanie DesRosiers
01:05:31
Okay, thank you!
anne del mar Gomez
01:05:33
I would like to have your book
Afreen Hashmi
01:05:34
Thank you very much for this session :)
Suzann Yoplac
01:05:40
what to do when the other part doesn't want to collaborate in the process
David Altmann
01:06:00
Thanks Stephen!
Oumou Keita
01:06:00
Thank u
anne del mar Gomez
01:06:02
I am from Venezuela and interested joining your organization
Donna Morrison
01:06:10
thank you so much
ewa wlosinska
01:06:27
Thank you!
Monica
01:06:29
thank you for being such a candid presentation
Simona Lupu
01:06:33
Thank you, Simona
Jennifer S
01:06:36
I can't see the email address?
Natalie Barceló
01:06:49
Thank you!
Raphael Debionne
01:06:50
Many tx, great webinar
Bianca Lucin
01:06:58
me neither
McGill School of Continuing Studies
01:07:02
We will be sharing the recording and contact details
Natalie Barceló
01:07:04
Me either
Mairim Castillo
01:07:09
Thank you. I would like to get the e-book. thanks very much
Bianca Lucin
01:07:28
ok
David Kynan
01:08:05
This is powerful! Thank you a great deal, Mr Hecht.
Jennifer S
01:09:21
Thank you!
Suzann Yoplac
01:09:36
thanks for answering my question
Mélanie DesRosiers
01:09:37
Thank you, very interesting!
David Kynan
01:09:43
Thank you!
Samuel Rispal
01:09:43
Thank you!
Jonathan Ragas
01:09:43
thank you
Greg Rajewski
01:09:46
Very interesting indeed
Barbara Vaz
01:09:46
Thank you so much
robert D'addario
01:09:59
thank you stephen
Michael Tutak
01:10:00
Thank you so much!
Andrea Pritchard
01:10:01
Thank you
Penny Denberg
01:10:01
thank you
David Kynan
01:10:05
Many thanks!
Simona Lupu
01:10:06
Thank you so much
McGill School of Continuing Studies
01:10:08
Thank you very much for joining us today!
Golnaz Rasouli
01:10:08
thanks a lot
Patricia Higa
01:10:09
thank you!
Maja Saric
01:10:11
Thank ypu very much!!!
Yannick LeBlanc
01:10:12
Thank you!